135 and still fat? WTF.

DatEpicChick

okay so i've been creeping on peoples mfp accounts and there are TONS of you lovely ladies who are 130s, 140s, and even 150s that look WAY HOTTER than i do.

i dont understand! i know i was 115 before i got pregnant, but why the hell does it feel like i have to be 115 again not to hang over my pants....

i was scoping out the bikini pics and there were quite a few ladies who were in the 130's and they looked absolutely gorgeous, and i DO NOT look like that by any means....

i mean ive lost over 30 pounds, but i stlil feel like i should lose a ton more before i can look like that...

i dont understand.... i do the strength training and what not, but i am not toned in the belly at all... is it because it was from serious weight gain during the pregnancy or what the heck????

>.< i just wanna wear a tank top again without feeling super embarassed.

dominica_maria

I have this same problem!! I I'm 125 and still feel huge and then I see women in their bikinis like 30lbs more than me and they look amazing lol I'm like how does that work out?? I don't know what I'm doing wrong either! hopefully we both figure it out

wifeandmom2009

Is it just simply stretched skin? I know how you guys feel though-- I have the hangover too... lol

now_or_never12

Eat at a much smaller deficit and lift heavy to build muscle. Those ladies are in great shape since they have built muscle and lowered body fat.

McBully4

squats

thrld

Weight in itself is not a measure of fitness. That's why so many on this site recommend you measure with a tape measure, not a scale.

And remember, the diversity of this site also means that for every 'twin' you find, you will find 100 people who are different from you...

graysmom2005

My body really changed when I started taking/teaching Bodypump. That was where the definition came from. I can rock a 4/6 when in the 150's. It really comes from having a dense body, which can be achieved by weights! :-)

amyowens08

The post-pregnancy belly pooch is incredibly hard to get rid of. My stretch marks guarantee that i will ALWAYS have some looseness on my belly...but growing a baby takes its toll on the belly region for many many women. Just keep working at it and be proud of how much you've accomplished!

DatEpicChick

Thank you. Its just hard to feel like this, especially when i've worked really hard and now its summer and i still feel like i have so far to go.... >.>

being 21 and feeling like this sucks, especially when my husband is as fit as they come.

i definitely think i'm going to have to step it up, because its really getting old haha

bradphil87

okay so i've been creeping on peoples mfp accounts and there are TONS of you lovely ladies who are 130s, 140s, and even 150s that look WAY HOTTER than i do.

i dont understand! i know i was 115 before i got pregnant, but why the hell does it feel like i have to be 115 again not to hang over my pants....

i was scoping out the bikini pics and there were quite a few ladies who were in the 130's and they looked absolutely gorgeous, and i DO NOT look like that by any means....

i mean ive lost over 30 pounds, but i stlil feel like i should lose a ton more before i can look like that...

i dont understand.... i do the strength training and what not, but i am not toned in the belly at all... is it because it was from serious weight gain during the pregnancy or what the heck????

>.< i just wanna wear a tank top again without feeling super embarassed.

Sorry to hear that what I think your describing is the dreaded "skinny fat" where while you may be in the right range for your hight and what not, your bf% is still high. The way I understand to fix that problem is to start a strangth training routine good luck! And I hope this helps

mcarter99

You look terrific to me, if your pics are current. I'd never guess you'd lost weight or had a baby at all.

chrisb75

Heavy lifting is what you are looking for:
http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2011/07/21/meet-staci-your-new-powerlifting-super-hero/

wolfehound22

This response is why I always try and tel everyone don't pay attention to the scale, it does not matter. People weighing the exact same can look so different. This usually comes down to lean muscle. IF your eating more calories and doing weightlifting than you will have more lean muscle than someone who is eating very little, or not doing any lifiting. This of course varies from person to perosn, but this is why the scale is pointless.

Here is an example, whenI was doing P90X I was beating myself up because I was having a hard time losign weight, and in fact was putting on some weight, I felt good, and thought I looked good, but the scale wasn't moving. Than I hurt my shoulder and quite workign out and my diet declined, This happened over a months time. I weighed myself, and lost 4 lbs, that being said I felt like crap, my pants were snugger and when I looked in the mirror I could notice a little more size in my waste. So even though the scale was telling me I weighed less, I actually felt worse about myself.

NOw to correct your issue, I can't see your diet, and have no clue what your workout routine is, but I would add in some more weight lifting, and maybe up your calories, that way you build some lean muscle. Also quit focusing on the weight, and instead focue on your measurements.

Hope this helps

prettybubble

Uhm excuse me but you are NOT fat. How tall are you? We are trained to think slightly underweight girls are a "healthy weight".

Let me give you an example. Most people say Victoria's secret Models are sexy, healthy and fit.
Victoria's Secret model's lives basically revolve around staying skinny always. They only eat protein shakes for 9 day before a show and don't eat or drink 12 hours before a show. Is this what women have to do to look sexy? No. That is just silly.

We think we are supposed to have a perfectly flat belly, and thighs that don't touch, but in reality this is a body type that not many have naturally. The rest of us have to diet and exercise excessively to get there, and in my opinion that is not healthy.

Anna800

When you want to go to a pool party and the majority of the girls are 120, then yes you look fat in your bikini.

DatEpicChick

Uhm excuse me but you are NOT fat. How tall are you? We are trained to think slightly underweight girls are a "healthy weight".

Let me give you an example. Most people say Victoria's secret Models are sexy, healthy and fit.
Victoria's Secret model's lives basically revolve around staying skinny always. They only eat protein shakes for 9 day before a show and don't eat or drink 12 hours before a show. Is this what women have to do to look sexy? No. That is just silly.

We think we are supposed to have a perfectly flat belly, and thighs that don't touch, but in reality this is a body type that not many have naturally. The rest of us have to diet and exercise excessively to get there, and in my opinion that is not healthy.

youre talking to someone who was FAT, i may not be FAT, but i am UNCOMFORTABLE, and that is enough for me. do i want to be the same weight that i was in high school?, no.... but i would like to be comfortable in a tank top.

Am i 200 pounds?, no. but i was after i had my daughter because of complications. Fact is, i want to be toned, healthy, happy, comfortable, and able to give my little girl an awesome mommy role model and my husband a confident wife. and right now, i feel like i am neither.

i was asking for advice, not pity, or downers, and now, my FAT ASh is going to go ahead and do some friggin squats, and play with those tiny little weights my husband go me til i hit the gym next time hahahaha

DrMAvDPhD

Height difference? BF% difference? Mild body dysmorphia and you are way hotter than you think? Expect more from yourself than you do of others?

I'm 5'5", 135 (down from 165), 23.5%BF and feeling pretty hot. But I haven't been this fit since high school.

mcarter99

You're welcome. :flowerforyou:

CoderGal

Many people get to goal and still feel fat. Then they eat more and exercise and change their minds about it. Example, me with 30 lbs gone

Not fat right? Well I felt it. I do not have a pic but put clothes that isnt so loose and low cut and I muffin top over it though the clothes fit. I avoided some of my pants because of this.

Most people lose inches weight training, I didnt get to that stage (waist and butt same measurements). But I am the same weight now, and none of my clothes cut in anymore. Also, those pants did cut in before (they are higher cut then the pic above not sure if you can tell).

Also worth noting that people feel larger then they actually are. I am 5'7 120lb and do not feel small. I see jiggle places others don't. And we all need some fat to be healthy. Some of it may be in your head

proberts6

I hear that the insanity workout is good, but if you're concerned about your midsection doing planks for your core works well. There are plenty of core exercises out there you can do. I'll agree with everyone else though. You have a great figure and I would've never known you were a mother...

Cindym82

I looked at your pics, and not to sound rude but wtf are you complaining about? U look very skinny, I'm 125 and am wider and look a lot heavier than u....

ramgi

I really think the problem may be in your mind.

mcarter99

Mmm, Oreos...

12by311

Try lifting weights...heavy.

Like to almost feeling the need to puke when finished

I weigh about 163-165...not bragging, but my body looks better than my friends who weigh probably 120-130. They are way soft and dimply.

Of course, I think that because muscles are my preference.

lwoods34

Females come in different shapes and sizes and every female's body is going to look different and be proportioned differently. You cannot compare yourself to other females. Im 34 and weigh 124 lbs and I have a 21 month old son...my niece is 23, has an almost 12 month old little girl and told me the other day that she weighs 117 lbs. Im like, 117 lbs?? In my head Im thinking, "no way is that possible." I look like I weigh LESS than HER!!! But than again, I have ALOT more definition and muscle than she does. Im slightly taller than her but I look alot more leaner than her. I have more muscle mass than her so Im going to weigh more than her. My body fat % is probably alot lower than hers! What Im trying to say is that you cant judge a book by its cover. You could put two females together that weigh the exact same, but their body shape will look very different. And that is okay! We are all individuals made up of different body chemistrys and there is nothing wrong with that. Believe in yourself and know that you are doing what you need to do in order to get to the results that you are looking for!

wordpainter09

I agree with what others have said, the comparison game never helps, although I do it too.
Advice - lift heavy and run 3-5 days a week.
They say fitness is 70 diet and 30 exercise, but I would disagree, I believe I get my body from exercise and working out -have been doing X country and running since age 14.
I have a long way to go but its a journey.
CW: 138

Nessiechickie

They probably weight more then you and look good in a bikini because they have more muscle.. and as i hope most people know muscle weights more then fat.

jowings

I totally understand! I went from about 150 to 128 and maybe lost a half a size. I didn't understand how I could lose so much weight and still be a damn size 8! It wasn't until I actually started working out and toning up that I went down a full size. It freaked me out a bit because I went from 128 to about 130-132 after 6 months of lifting, but I look MUCH more toned and feel much better than I did at my smallest. Don't put too much stock in the scale and don't compare yourself to others-it will drive you nuts .