Sometimes, the Army SUCKS!

debussyschild

Just need to let off some steam for a second...

So, recently, my husband got orders to PCS to Yuma, AZ (we currently live in the FL panhandle), which is AWESOME! However, it couldn't have come at a more inopportune time. I'm a music teacher and my job at a charter school in the area is part-time and I absolutely hate my administration. Before we got orders, I've been looking for a full-time position and in my county alone, 5 elementary music positions have opened up, all FULL TIME!!!!! This is a very rare occurrence! However, since we have no idea what our report date is yet (thank you, S1, for taking your sweet *kitten* time cutting his orders), I can't in good faith apply to any of those year long full-time positions.

My rant spurs from this: today, one of the elementary schools where the current (and retiring) music teacher recommended me to the principal for the job, CALLED ME AND ASKED TO INTERVIEW!! I had to say no. :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: I can't in good faith sign a year long contract knowing full well that I more than likely will have to resign halfway through the year. That's simply unprofessional. And it's KILLING ME that I can't do that I love my husband and I love the Army, but not knowing a report date so I can make sound career decisions is really pissing me off!!!!!!!!:explode: :explode: :explode:

End rant. Thank you.

dlwyatt82

"I'm from the government, and I'm here to help."

Run away! :laugh:

mpankratz79

I am so so sorry. I totally feel your pain. Usually as an RN I can find a job no problem...but living here at Fort Irwin, CA I haven't even got a call back. And we gave up Germany with the thoughts that I would be able to find work easier. I hate that they take their sweet time with cutting order or changing them at the last minute. I hope it all works out for ya.

lindsyrox

I live in a navy town and that is just one of the many many MANY reasons why I would never be with someone who is in the service. Sorry chick but you knew what you were signing up for when you decided to be with him.

htmlgirl

and then wouldn't it be ironic if the orders were cancelled? For me, until we were about a month away from the report date, I lived life as if it weren't happening. If it's a year contract you could stay behind and finish your contract up. I did that with a 6 month.

But yeah the military sucks sometimes makes it hard to have a career as a milspouse

BodyCombatGirl73

That really does suck! However, I applaud your ethics and professionalism because there are alot of people out there who probably would have omitted that part and just gone for the interview anyway with the attitude "oh well, they can just replace me when I have to go...". I would have done the same thing as you and declined the interview, as I just couldn't live myself knowing the white lie I would have told (or omitted to tell).

YOu have to think that things happen for a reason and that sme good karma will come your way! GOOD LUCK! :happy:

MizSaz

You did a mature, responsible, and professional thing, and you did right by all the kids it would have effected. The Army might suck sometimes, but you do not Best wishes to you & your husband!

JPod279

All I can say is thank you to your husband (and you) for his service to this great country. Hope it works out for you two.

mayerel

Could you take a job and then meet your hubby when the year is over?

esphixiet

Oh how I feel your pain... Currently sitting in a province away from our home, he's in training, so I decided to go back to school (mostly to be with him, and kill the time of his year long training - cause you know, POSTING someone to where they'll be for A YEAR is just a ludicrous idea!)... and in the meantime, watching all these potential jobs disappear in front of my eyes... as we'll be posted FOR REALZ some time after September... So I wait. And wait. and Wait.

We've been waiting for this posting since 2010. So... yes... I feel your pain.

majones_orl

Great Rant.

I would suggest, interviewing for the job, but letting the principal know the situation with your hubby orders. She maybebe able to work something out for you. That is still professional. It would help the principal. She can continure to look, but has you to fill the gap while she looks. Just a suggestion. You never know, you maybe end up back in FL, and she will remember the Music teacher who helped her out in a bind.

lizaiza79

Hang in there! Fellow Army wife here, and we just got done dealing with similar issue with my husband's training at Ft. Rucker ...so hard to life live when you rarely get a definite date on things with any advance notice!

They might be ok with you signing if you tell them that you will be moving in a few months. I am a music teacher as well - sometimes they get desperate!

Dwamma

I can understand your frustration. But I do have to commend you for not commiting and then jumping when hubby gets his orders. I am sure the person who called you is feeling Blessed that you are an honest open upfront person. May God richly Bless you for this! Blessings!! <><

jcstanton

I live in a navy town and that is just one of the many many MANY reasons why I would never be with someone who is in the service. Sorry chick but you knew what you were signing up for when you decided to be with him.

Nice sensitivity. :huh:

kaotik26

Hurry up and wait: Story of the Military

herwitsend

Hurry up and wait: Story of the Military

I was going to post the EXACT same thing. Hope you get some answers soon.

dsjohndrow

I have been there. Ordered to Munich and shipped to Missouri. That's why I got out.

If it was me, I would just go get the job where you are. He could be in MO tomorrow, and GA the next week.

And thanks for the sacrifice that your whole family makes.

cessnaholly

The phrase that always makes my skin crawl:

"Needs of the Navy, sweetheart."

:ohwell:

Good luck with your deployment.

TriumphNow

If it's a year contract you could stay behind and finish your contract up.

This is what I was thinking if it's an option for you personally. I hope it works out for you.

SofaKingRad

When you see Yuma, AZ, you won't be thinking it's that awesome of a move.

doorki

I grew up with an Air Force dad and we always hated when the dreaded order envelop showed up. My mom sacrificed so much in her career to support my father's career and this nation.

Thank you for the sacrifice. And I know it sucks

rammsteinsoldier

My ex-husband was air force and I ran into the same problem with getting teaching jobs. Hang in there. I understand your frustration!

jcstanton

I have been there. Ordered to Munich and shipped to Missouri. That's why I got out.

If it was me, I would just go get the job where you are. He could be in MO tomorrow, and GA the next week.

And thanks for the sacrifice that your whole family makes.

^^This! I will never be able to express my gratitude to all of our service men and women and their families.

Bobby_Clerici

I'd have just taken the position.
Screw it.
Sometimes you don't need to 100% honest 100% of the time.
You sound like a great human being; never mind the words of this sociopath...:smokin:
Good luck to you, and THANK YOU BOTH for your sacrifice and your husband's service to our nation.

MrsPong

im a marine wife, I know exactly how you feel. I was working with the Cleveland Clinic in ohio while he was in japan, he came home like 6 months early and we had to move... I loved that he came home but hate that i had to give up a great job. I now have a great job where we live so it worked out...but Its hard to get settled when you know ull have orders in 2-3 years...

Add me for support on weight loss/military anything!

stacygayle

I can feel your pain as a former Army wife. You never know what's going to happen from one day to the next much less a year. If I were you, I would interview and take the job for a year and then meet your husband in Yuma. Especially since you don't know when you will get the orders. It could be a year, who knows.

At least you'll be moving from a hot place with lots of humidity to a hot place with little humidity lol

ezramedic

I live in a navy town and that is just one of the many many MANY reasons why I would never be with someone who is in the service. Sorry chick but you knew what you were signing up for when you decided to be with him.

So unnecessary.
You don't decide who you love. You just love them.

And to say she knew what she was signing up for? I didn't know. I didn't know how much of myself I would truly be giving up. You can't possibly know until you're already in.

This comment was so unnecessary and cruel.

DBiddle69

I was in the Air Force for 24 years…there are ways to work on this instead of getting frustrated. Have you explained the situation to the principal that wants you to interview? Being in a military community many organizations understand these situations. Maybe they would be willing to work with you until his report no later than date (RNLTD). Does it have to be a one year contract? Maybe you could be the stop gap between hiring a full time music teacher. And if all else fails you end up taking the one year contract and staying behind for a few months to finish out the year. My experience with the Air Force assignment system is your RNLTD for state side to state side assignments is around three-six months after the notification of orders…typically six months

Or the other possibilities, again my experience is from the Air Force and may be different in the Army, he could get his RNLTD bumped either way. Say you were to get a job in Yuma that required you to be there in July and his RNLTD was not until Sept…he could get an early RNLTD of July or if you had the one year contract with the school who wants to interview you and it expired in June 2013 he could get his RNLTD bumped further and report in July 2013. This is typically easier to do with stateside to stateside assignments.

stevewynjones

Forgive my ignorance but can't you live there and he goes to his posting?

Happens all the time in the British army....,

DBiddle69

I live in a navy town and that is just one of the many many MANY reasons why I would never be with someone who is in the service. Sorry chick but you knew what you were signing up for when you decided to be with him.

So unnecessary.
You don't decide who you love. You just love them.

And to say she knew what she was signing up for? I didn't know. I didn't know how much of myself I would truly be giving up. You can't possibly know until you're already in.

This comment was so unnecessary and cruel.

Not sure she was meaning to be cruel...just uneducated about the lifestyle or ever being in that situation.

debussyschild

I live in a navy town and that is just one of the many many MANY reasons why I would never be with someone who is in the service. Sorry chick but you knew what you were signing up for when you decided to be with him.

It's certainly not something just ANY woman can handle.