Is it just me...?

sammiliegh

Is it just me or does anyone else have a mental break down when they go clothes shopping and find something super cute and try it on and realize you look like a whale?! Ugh

betteringmyselfeachday

That is why I love shopping for purses, shoes, lipgloss, etc!

Hang in there.. once you get closer to the end of your journey you will love shopping!

BigMomma742

Definitely not just you!!! I wish I could help you out with that, but I definitely have the same problem (90 pounds to lose and HUNGRY). Best of luck to you (us)!

jessrbt

The best motivation I have found when shopping is to buy clothes that fit and flatter my figure, which right now means plus size clothes. I dont think we should put off feeling good about our selves and deprive ourselves of a good outfit that makes you feel good. My biggest surprise in losing weight is the day I put on that outfit and its too big. It s a positive all the way around. I also discovered buying my closthes from plus size stores makes a big difference in how they fit. I never ever but clothes at wal mart, k mart or target because they are not really made for my figure and therefore will be a big let down. We dont have to wait to lose the weight to feel good about ourselves, do something good for you now and go shopping, in another month or so you will see a difference, feel beautiful! Good luck!

Lcharlottec

Nope. That's the story of my life.

joy5877

Love this - best advice!


The best motivation I have found when shopping is to buy clothes that fit and flatter my figure, which right now means plus size clothes. I dont think we should put off feeling good about our selves and deprive ourselves of a good outfit that makes you feel good. My biggest surprise in losing weight is the day I put on that outfit and its too big. It s a positive all the way around. I also discovered buying my closthes from plus size stores makes a big difference in how they fit. I never ever but clothes at wal mart, k mart or target because they are not really made for my figure and therefore will be a big let down. We dont have to wait to lose the weight to feel good about ourselves, do something good for you now and go shopping, in another month or so you will see a difference, feel beautiful! Good luck!
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roachhaley

What I've made myself to do is sit down, do some thinking (and research) and find which style and fit of clothes fit me the best. Before, I'd pick up any old thing and try it on. Now I know which shapes flatter me and which DO NOT flatter me. I think if you can avoid picking up unflattering shapes to begin with you'll have more success in finding stuff (or at least avoid feeling as bad).

beverlyhilyard

There are a lot of us women out there that have the same problem. But take one day at a time and look your best for that day. No matter your size you can still be beautiful. Wear nice clothes, make-up, jewelry and be beautiful in the inside.

Bobby_Clerici

It's not you; I looked like a beached manatee...:bigsmile:
Seriously, even guys feel you here.
Just keep punching, because I bought what did not fit and used it as motivation.
Guess what?
After losing 70 lbs, it fits, so I went out and bough other clothes I would like to wear one day, and this time next year?
I WILL:drinker:
Try it. And good luck.

All Is Possible

KaleidoscopeEyes1056

Every. Single. Time.

WineIsGoodForYou

I think a lot of it also has to do with the cut of the clothing lines nowadays. I'm sorry but even at my smallest I have hips, butt, and thighs. Clothing seems to be cut for 14 year old girls who have not developed curves yet and are built like sticks straight up and down. Don't get distracted, maybe try finding the cut that looks good on your shape?

Krushchev

Even when you're at your goal weight, if you're picking clothes that don't flatter your shape you're going to be disappointed. The key is to go in & try on EVERYTHING you like-- no matter how you think it will look on. Sure, you will have some "OMGWTF?!?!?!!" moments, but you'll also have some "OMGWTFSRSLYYAY!!" moments.

Also, I'm not sure if its an all-over thing, but my Target is now doing the "Fit your shape" thing-- pink tags for big hips, yellow for straight, idk. There's like 6 or 7 different fits.

Jelaine56

I think I feel smaller than I am.. So when I try on clothes it's very depressing

jessrbt

thanks, I believe all women are beautiful in their own way, happiness is not a clothing size, its the person's tude wearing the clothes. We can do this ladies, set small goals, and wake up each day feeling good about who you are!

Dayna154

The best motivation I have found when shopping is to buy clothes that fit and flatter my figure, which right now means plus size clothes. I dont think we should put off feeling good about our selves and deprive ourselves of a good outfit that makes you feel good. My biggest surprise in losing weight is the day I put on that outfit and its too big. It s a positive all the way around. I also discovered buying my closthes from plus size stores makes a big difference in how they fit. I never ever but clothes at wal mart, k mart or target because they are not really made for my figure and therefore will be a big let down. We dont have to wait to lose the weight to feel good about ourselves, do something good for you now and go shopping, in another month or so you will see a difference, feel beautiful! Good luck!

^^^^This is the best advice I have read in a while. If they dont fit well no matter how BIG or SMALL you are it can make you feel like you look like a whale.. Play up your assets and down your problem areas. Also the sooner you accept yourself for how you are the sooner you will feel good about the changes you will make and will stay better motivated to keep going when you hit the hard spots in getting thinner and healthier..
Dont give up.. If you cant afford new then look for second hand...


Also do you think its cute casue it is or cause it was small?? Perspective is a lot

valorieflowers

Me too! Clothes shopping is mentally traumatizing for me. And I am sick of that, one of my big motivations is for clothing shopping ot be pleasant instead of shameful.

Renae_Nae

I LOVE shopping with my sister because she can pick stuff out that looks awesome on me...just don't tell her that or I'll never hear the end of it. It's about finding your style and what works best for you.

jenbk2

I have a 30% off at Kohl's and can't even think about using it. I get too depressed.

BecomingElle

The best motivation I have found when shopping is to buy clothes that fit and flatter my figure, which right now means plus size clothes. I dont think we should put off feeling good about our selves and deprive ourselves of a good outfit that makes you feel good. My biggest surprise in losing weight is the day I put on that outfit and its too big. It s a positive all the way around. I also discovered buying my closthes from plus size stores makes a big difference in how they fit. I never ever but clothes at wal mart, k mart or target because they are not really made for my figure and therefore will be a big let down. We dont have to wait to lose the weight to feel good about ourselves, do something good for you now and go shopping, in another month or so you will see a difference, feel beautiful! Good luck!

AMEN.

Sometimes, I want to break down and cry in a dressing room. Sometimes I convince myself that it'd be better if people wore sheets or something instead, because clothes are just too much work.

But you know what? Cute things come in every size. A specific cute dress may not come in your size, but I'm sure you can find a different one just as cute in a bigger size that flatters you! Everyone looks the world better when they wear clothes that fit and suit them. Wear clothes that look amazing on you right now!

I went through a stage where I didn't buy anything except super duper cheap ugly clothes for "around the house" because I was going to "get nice clothes when I lost weight" but I wasn't actually doing anything to lose the weight at the time

I then started shopping for clothes that fitted and flattered by shape and size. Now I get compliments all the time on how I dress and my fashion sense. In fact, I'm not trying to boast, but I get compliments more often than a few of my friends who are slimmer than me. Sometimes I can't wear certain things, and that's okay. I let out a little sigh, and move on to find amazing clothes somewhere else

In fact, when i started taking more pride in my appearance and wearing suitable clothes, people even started commenting that I looked thinner. And I hadn't lost any weight! I was simply showing off the figure I had, instead of trying to dress for the figure I wanted.

Albeit I did buy a rather pricey dress the other week...it fits, only just, but doesn't look amazing yet. I've made a promise to myself to wear it out clubbing once I've lost a certain amount of weight Great motivation!

Being overweight doesn't mean you can't dress nice, or have nice hair or look gorgeous right now! I know it's hard and you want to wear a specific style or something that may not be right for you right now, but you're going to get there! But you can look just as gorgeous in the mean time.

marie_cressman

The best motivation I have found when shopping is to buy clothes that fit and flatter my figure, which right now means plus size clothes. I dont think we should put off feeling good about our selves and deprive ourselves of a good outfit that makes you feel good. My biggest surprise in losing weight is the day I put on that outfit and its too big. It s a positive all the way around. I also discovered buying my closthes from plus size stores makes a big difference in how they fit. I never ever but clothes at wal mart, k mart or target because they are not really made for my figure and therefore will be a big let down. We dont have to wait to lose the weight to feel good about ourselves, do something good for you now and go shopping, in another month or so you will see a difference, feel beautiful! Good luck!

^^this!

dress for your body. not all styles look good on me. i am VERY much a pear shape. I have wide hips, a booty, and big thighs, but a smaller upper body (no boobs.... waaaaaaaaaaaah! lol). i can not wear juniors clothing which cuts out a lot of stores that many of my friends are able to shop at.

Brenda_Pancakes

Sometimes... in the morning or before I'm going out somewhere... I'll change, like, at least 5 times... because each time I'm thinking "Ugh! That looks aweful..."... especially if the pants are a little snug and they push on my stomache... gives me that unflattering little roll above my jeans. Not cute.

But yeah, I feel ya.

taso42

i have a mental breakdown when i go shopping because i hate it and i suck at it.
/nocluehowtodressmyself

AlexanderK1994

My favourite jeans will be too big and I don't have them in smaller size. Although my mum is a tailor, she told me it's gonna be easier to just buy new jeans. But their lovely red-orange color~! T_T

But I feel ya. When I bought those jeans, I could barely squeeze into them... ._.

SPNLuver83

I did... which is why I have a chest full of purses lol.

amoffatt

Is it just me or does anyone else have a mental break down when they go clothes shopping and find something super cute and try it on and realize you look like a whale?! Ugh

*Raises hand* I do, I do!!! I have found myself crying in the fitting room because I cant get anything to fit or look good. I am also 4'11 and it makes me mad that most places think "petite" means short and thin. Some of us are fat for crying out loud!:sad:

After my breakdown, this motivates me to push even more!

love22step

I had that problem last summer, but not anymore! Hooray for MyFitnesssPal!!! The help I found here helped me solve that problem.

Curvimami

No its not just you. i do too. especially when I thought I could fit that size. It can be so depressing. but then I remember different brands are cut differently and try to remember my progress despite the number on the tag

mcginger1

That's been the story of my life, which is probably why I despise shopping (for anything but shoes). But there is hope. Last weekend, a friend wanted to check out the Lucky Brand store for t-shirts, so I agreed to go with him. While he was trying stuff on, I looked around thinking I could never fit into anything here. I happened to find a pair on clearance that I thought I'd at least try on, so I gave it a shot. And you know what? It was as if the heavens parted, the angels sang, and a bright ray of light beamed down on me. They fit. WELL. Even the junk in my trunk was comfortable. THIS HAS NEVER HAPPENED TO ME... EVER!! Stores vary, sizes vary, and our bodies are in a constant state of change while we take on this challenge. And sometimes, what looks cute on a hanger looks horrendous on. Just don't lose faith. XOXO

BigMomma742

and here I thought I was the Lone Ranger. Ha.

sammiliegh

Thanks everyone!! I truly appreciate all the sweet things said! I'm soo glad I'm not in this on my own!