Having a hard time staying motivated

sngnyrslp

I went out for a friend's Birthday last night and ate ENTIRELY too much, and now I'm at my boyfriend's for the weekend, and I'm already having trouble finding healthy food options. I'm having a tough time staying motivated. No gym or salads all weekend is making me feel really bad about myself, which is making me want to give up! Help!

stephalvarez5

well, what i can offer is reality. nothing lasts forever. even if you've done so well in the past EVERYONE is bound to mess up a day or two, a whole week, or maybe even a couple months off the wagon because i can surely admit i've done it as well. there are people that have rejoined MFP numerous times and they always come back with "SERIOUS THIS TIME" "FOR REALS THIS TIME" and yes some of those people fail... nobodys perfect and we are all bound for failure. I'm not trying to make you feel worse or that you're not capable because you were capable enough to lose the weight you've lost so far. yes i know it sux that it takes days and weeks even months to lose weight, when it only takes one day to gain it back. so unfair.

if you're feeling down on yourself, you're gonna have to learn how to condition yourself to adapting to the failures because this won't be the last time, but don't ever think "this is the end, i can't do it, i give up" because as long as you're alive and aware.... well u know.

also keep into consideration, seasons change and so do our eating habits. for example: to me winter means, heartier meals with familys, celebrations, birthdays etc. so i adapt my exercise schedule according to the seasons. May is a hectic month for me simply because i have a lot of birthdays in that month in my family so i keep that in mind and push harder with exercises.

i don't know if this helps, if not then just think about this: you cared and were motivated enough to complain on this post so... there's gotta be fight in you left...

.s.

Channing

Exercise is my number one self esteem booster. Can you go for a walk or jog? Get those endorphins kicking in and you'll feel better immediately.

Also, I have the tendency to have the "well it's too late to save the weekend I might as well go all out" attitude. Don't do it!!!! It's not too late!!! You'll feel so much better on Monday and just keep reminding yourself that nothing tastes as good as being thin feels!:flowerforyou:

BrendaLee

No matter how you eat this weekend, it's no reason to give up. When I go to my mom's for the night, I can't eat healthy for the life of me, and dive into the cookies head first, but as soon as I'm back home, back on the wagon I go. I'm not happy that's the way it is, but I know I can't quit.

Go for a walk or do an exercise video online (free at sparkpeople.com and exercisetv.tv).

lizzys

if you know your going to cheat go with protein come monday when your back at the gym you will build more muscles and muscles burn more fat go to the store and buy a exercise tape

PlumCrazyGirl

Understand completely. I have decline social engagements for tonight because I am afraid I will overeat on sweets and other foods. Plus, fearful the wine or chocolate martinis would be my other downfall. So, instead as depressing as this is ... I'm staying home instead of being with friends. I don't think I can be present watching them enjoy the food/drink and me not be able to enjoy the same things.

amandajocampbell

My sister is a all or nothing person. When she eats bad she is like well I am done for and stops. I am working on the opposite of that. When I am bad, I just say well that's life now work harder. And make sure that you keep your goal in mind. For me it is getting healthy enough to have a baby, so I have great motivation. You are great. We all know how it is.

nguill6

Quick! Run to the store and grab the most delicious looking fruit you can find. I bet even an unhealthy eater can't resist a summer cantaloupe or some juicy orange slices! Pour yourself a few big glasses of ice water. And insist on spending more time in the bedroom than the kitchen- YOU CAN DO IT Don't give up!!!

Lose26LbsByXgiving

I read in some diet book. As long as you are good 80% .. the 20% does not matter.


COUNT DOWN: 6 mores days to weight in, need to lose 2.5 lbs. I'll lose 26 lbs by Xgiving (11 weeks) and get a blue ray player as reward :drinker:

sngnyrslp

Thanks everyone for your replies, you're all making me feel a lot better about my slip-up. I'm starting to feel like, with just a little bit of extra effort at the gym and a little bit more discipline this upcoming week, I'll be able to undo my bad day by my Wednesday weigh-in!

stephalvarez5

Understand completely. I have decline social engagements for tonight because I am afraid I will overeat on sweets and other foods. Plus, fearful the wine or chocolate martinis would be my other downfall. So, instead as depressing as this is ... I'm staying home instead of being with friends. I don't think I can be present watching them enjoy the food/drink and me not be able to enjoy the same things.

i think that is sooo sad... are you really out of control to the extent of starting to becomming anti-social? it's GREAT to take good care of yourself and look after yourself but i hope you soon learn to control your situation so that you don't have to miss out on social events.

.s.

stacey76

I have the same problem. I've been limiting my social engagements with friends just so I won't be tempted to drink and eat with them.....

Tasha1476

I read in some diet book. As long as you are good 80% .. the 20% does not matter.

Good! haha. I had a bit of a weekend slip-up myself. but I have things back under control again.
That can just have been my 20%

juliep63

Someone once posted this on the forum and I've used it as my mantra ever since:

"5 minutes in your mouth, 5 months on your *kitten*" :sad:

I've even offered it to other people as a reason for why I'm not partaking during social events. No one will try to pressure you after you tell them that! :laugh:

PlumCrazyGirl

I ended up going to the party after being told by my husband my reasons for not wanting to go (food/drink) was stupid. I went and pretty much what was on my mind was that chocolate martini she's drinking, he's got a beer, oh look at those cookies.

I should be proud I ate none of it and drank nothing. I'm not.
However, at church a member who hasn't seen me in a bit did comment it looked like I lost weight. She had no idea I was attempting again.

I should be celebrating small success not wallowing in my lack of bigger success. Celebrating me is what I need to learn how to do.