Overly Obssesive

jaysonhijinx

I've been called a "gym junkie" 3 times now in the last 2 weeks which is quite valid.

Generally I'm at the gym up to 6 days a week with 3-4 heavy lifting sessions (possibly upping to 4-5 while trying to bulk up) and 3-4 cardio sessions either using treadmill/cross trainer or playing basketball.

I have been told on various occasions that I do need to slow down and take more rest days to recover properly, but if I'm feeling fine, I'm gonna workout. If I feel I need rest, I'll rest.

Unlike the OP I don't have competitions to get in shape for, I'm just busting hump to get the body I want. I know my body better than anyone else, I don't need someone telling me to rest when I know I'm good to keep pushing.

kitinboots

I have a feeling its going to happen. I just joined the gym and I'm loving it but I'm going 6 days a week! My boyfriend can't complain though because I'm in the greatest mood afterwards!

anels449

I live in a household that's not all about me and my needs. It's about the family as a household unit. Meaning my situation may be different than someone who has the time to devote to workouts. My kids are 6, 3, and 2 mos old, so we're not an 'each individual is self-sufficient' household yet either. My wife and I are doing a lot of healthy changes together (she's lost 65lbs). However, if one partner feels some neglect or has issues with a perceived obsession, whether it be reality or not, then something is not going to work. I've been married a long time..... if I was only concerned with how I lived and felt, then I'd be single. Some are better off single.

^^
This!

mishkat

Interesting question. I guess I would only consider something obssesive if it

1. Takes up the majority of your time, so that your relationships become secondary.
2. Prevents you from participating in family activities.
3. Requires not only a strict schedule on your part, but means that others must go out of their way to accomodate your strict schedule as well - with no exceptions.
4. Is a money drain, and affects family finances.
5. You hide any part of it (time, costs, schedule) from your spouse/family. If you can't be honest about it, then there is a problem.


These are not just critiera for working out, they are criteria for playing video games, reading too much, watching too much tv. etc.....

Agree with this.
I think your wife is hinting at the need for you guys to sit down and talk about how thus is affecting all involved.

AmyB69

I'm told I'm obsessed on a daily basis! My family, co workers, everyone. Oh well! I enjoy it and, I figure if I'm going to be sitting watching some tv, I might as well ride my exercise bike at the same time. It's worked great for me and I have no intention of stopping! I work out about 2 hours a day during the week and about 3 on the weekends. I enjoy it and I hit my goal a month ago and I can see the results and it makes me happy.

delonda1

I've been told A LOT that I am obsessed and need to stop... I don't care because it makes me happy and the gym is a stress relief and I know when to stop and so if my body can handle it I will do it..... I sometimes will do 3hrs a day of working out. its not everyday but my workout time (depending on schedule) can range from 45min-3hrs usually.

I haven't been injured yet and make sure I stretch my body. Therefore the people that think that I just say to them "I'd rather be working on a healthy body than sitting around doing nothing or just watching tv"

mscolleen2003

Three things;

1. Can you get her involved?
2. Can you meet her in the middle, maybe she misses time with you?
3. Is it worth making her unhappy?

I'm much older than you, so maybe I see things different. I have a wonderful man, if he said that to me we would be sitting down to discuss a compromise, because what makes him happy...makes me happy

gsager

It's called being dedicated. Don't listen to that crap. My son is a competitive bodybuilder, you get out what you put in. Good luck with your competition.

raeleek

I think what it comes down to is that we're all truly working hard to make ourselves healthier and happier and we're are changing out life styles. I talk endlessly about things with my friends and husband and they're all very supportive. I also do what I need to to make sure I have time for myself to workout, rest, and eat properly. In a sense we're becoming stronger versions of ourselves! Keep up the good work!

bailyc

I hear ya! I started my second cycle of Insanity last week and decided to add morning runs in three or four days a week (because I LOVE how I feel after a good run and because my dog is getting chubby!) My roommate just rolled her eyes and told me I was crazy and obsessive. Nice, huh?!

Roommate, wife = not the same thing. If you're leaving her with your share of the household responsibilities (or even part of them), then you need to find a way to make thing more equitable perhaps. I'm single with no kids and there's no way I could work full time, take care of my home, yard, and finances, and work out as much as you. That said, sometimes I choose to let the home and yard chores slide. But if I do, it's just on me... doesn't affect anyone else.

My ex-husband had a tendency to work 16 hours a day. He wanted kids. I declined because I didn't want to be a single parent.

All of that said... I'm making a lot of assumptions here because you didn't give us all that many details. So if your situation is totally different, feel free to disregard.

All the best,
Jen

Jen, it can be possible to relate to someones situation without having all the terms the EXACT same. I'm pretty sure the original post was just about hearing someone make a "your obsessed" comment. My roommate is unhappy with her weight but eats horrible and spends all of her nights watching TV (which I used to do with her). Her comment was purely a dig at me because I have started to make some really positive changes in my life. Misery loves company, so I've heard.

AprilRenewed

Interesting question. I guess I would only consider something obssesive if it

1. Takes up the majority of your time, so that your relationships become secondary.
2. Prevents you from participating in family activities.
3. Requires not only a strict schedule on your part, but means that others must go out of their way to accomodate your strict schedule as well - with no exceptions.
4. Is a money drain, and affects family finances.
5. You hide any part of it (time, costs, schedule) from your spouse/family. If you can't be honest about it, then there is a problem.


These are not just critiera for working out, they are criteria for playing video games, reading too much, watching too much tv. etc.....

This one million times.

I tend to get OCD about stuff myself. Whether it's reading a book or working out or researching a certain topic...to the point where I lose myself until my husband nudges me and says, "Hey. We're here too. Don't miss out on us."