How was I to handle this situation.

slepygrl
slepygrl Posts: 249 Member
in Motivation and Support
We went to Target last night and my 3 y/o nephew spotted an over weight man 1/2 way across the store and started yelling HEY FAT GUY!! HEY FAT GUY!! It took me a second to realize what he was saying. Then I jumped down the kids throat. His Mom was not with us. It's not like I could spank him. (Honestly if it were my kid, I might have.) I explained to him that that was mean and hurtful and if I heard it again I would wash his mouth out with soap. I was sooo mad!

How could I have handled that situation better? I didn't say anything to the guy. I pray to God he didn't hear him.

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  • rayvynn5374
    rayvynn5374 Posts: 272 Member
    How on Earth does your 3yo nephew know what "fat" is?

    In my experience making a fuss is the biggest problem i made with my kids. Maybe ask your nephew something along the lines of "do you want to talk to that gentleman? What do you want to say to him? How about we go ask him his name?" and make sure he is aware that sometimes words can hurt someone's feelings and make them sad. I agree your nephew did need to be "reprimanded" for his hurtful words and trust me now is better than later. When kids go to school and start bullying each other I think it is too late! I have 2 boys, 1 made it through school unscathed the second son not so much! We had to go to counseling and therapy, eventually pulled him out of public school and home schooled him for 2 years. He entered public school for high school this past fall and so is "bully free".
  • AzhureSnow
    AzhureSnow Posts: 289 Member
    I feel sad that a three year old child is already aware of "fat" and considers that an individuals identity. I would talk to him AND his parents about how to help him recognize hurtful words, and how if he wants to get someone's attention, he should politely ask an adult to help him find out their name.

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