Rant on Public Forums :)

AwesomelyAmber

I'm sooo very sure that I just left a bunch of people on FB scratching their heads, but really hope that the ONE that it was meant for gets the message. Somehow I doubt it...
"Proving your a 'grown up' doesn't mean "Hey world, I am now 18!", it has more to do with how you portray yourself in a 'public place'...Yup, facebook included. Grandparents, Parents, Aunts, Uncles, FUTURE BOSSES...all look at this stuff. Private doesn't really mean "noone can ever see this except my 'friends'" people would do good to remember that...."

WHY is it that people feel the need to post absolute ridiculousness on their profiles??? It seems more often than not lately, I log onto my fb account and see some of the most "WHAT THE WHAT?!" posts from those that are suposedly trying to prove to the world how "adult" they are.

Today for instance one of my just turned 18 family members posts "Hmm what is on my mind? How about weedweedweed (repeat to fill an entire paragraph) followed by "boobz". This particular 'adult' has no job, an apparent addiction, and the biggest aspiration in life is to walk to the store and buy a coke with his disability check that he "earns" for a troubled youth. Last week it was a cousin that was angry at her boyfriend so she felt the need to let everyone know what a *(#*%$(* he was over and over. Before that another 'pal' went off about their job and how the boss could do very inappropriate things to himself and she would be happy.

OBVIOUSLY not everyone in the world are the perfect little people that they let their grannies and grampies believe, but sometimes it just leaves me shaking my head. I swear, I smoke, I drink, I party with the best of em... but I choose not to post that for the world to see.

So... what's your opinion? Ok to 'let it all out in the open'? OR Keep it PG for those 'friends' that might be your parents, grandparents, neighbors, aunts, uncles, or ummmm FUTURE EMPLOYERS???

ErinBeth7

I agree that you shouldn't post those kinds of things on the internet, especially social media sites. My biggest no no is relationship drama. Face your problems, don't Facebook them.

AwesomelyAmber

Oh definately!!! Love the ones that are "in a relationship", "single", etc. after EVERY argument! :laugh:

wyofarmgirl

I just delete them from my friends list....they won't notice anyway and then I don't have to look at their pathetic crap.

casperuk

Live and let live.

DrMAvDPhD

Turning 18 doesn't magically mature your brain. Sadly, the choices of 12 year olds are now being recorded for all time, and this next generation will have to deal with the consequences of that.

_SusieQ_

Boobs rock.

Im_NotPerfect

I just delete them from my friends list....they won't notice anyway and then I don't have to look at their pathetic crap.
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^^This. I had someone who got the exact life she wanted (Twin boy and girl kids through invitro, married to a marine who got deployed) and every post was her complaining about how hard her life was and how the kids were driving her nuts and blah blah...it stressed me out just reading them! I'm sorry you got the life you asked for....but I don't need to deal with "Oh woah is me and won't someone help me?". Sorry sister...DELETE!

Bentley2718

The only relative I have on FB is my older brother, who makes me at my worst look like a perfect lady. My FB is also under an assumed name, which takes care of the future employers bit. I do this so that I can be as obnoxious, nasty, etc. as I want to be, complain about coworkers, etc., and if someone doesn't like it, they can figure out how to block my feed or unfriend me.

As for other people's behavior, if I don't like it, I don't read it. If they bother me often enough, I take them off my feed. It's pretty easy really.

billsica

76tech

Boobs rock.

and jiggle

Bentley2718

I just delete them from my friends list....they won't notice anyway and then I don't have to look at their pathetic crap.
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^^This. I had someone who got the exact life she wanted (Twin boy and girl kids through invitro, married to a marine who got deployed) and every post was her complaining about how hard her life was and how the kids were driving her nuts and blah blah...it stressed me out just reading them! I'm sorry you got the life you asked for....but I don't need to deal with "Oh woah is me and won't someone help me?". Sorry sister...DELETE!

Being with someone who is deployed is difficult in ways many people can't really imagine. Plus all the BS the MC adds to it. And I can't being to imagine doing it alone with twins. Obviously I don't know this person, but what they are going through really is difficult--probably in ways they didn't anticipate.

odusgolp

I'm sooo very sure that I just left a bunch of people on FB scratching their heads, but really hope that the ONE that it was meant for gets the message. Somehow I doubt it...
"Proving your a 'grown up' doesn't mean "Hey world, I am now 18!", it has more to do with how you portray yourself in a 'public place'...

Let it be known... I didn't read past this.

But let me get this straight... Rather than sending a direct message or calling the ONE person in question, you posted a passive-aggressive non-specific FB status hoping an 18 year old would learn how to act like a grown-up?


Are you starting to see my point yet??




How about now???

cds2001

Yep -- this new generation coming along will have to learn the hard way. I know that now you have a good number of employers who check on that stuff as well as colleges for acceptance and scholarship offers. And they should keep in mind that just because you have your privacy settings set to 'friends' you should be aware that your friend could copy and send along anything. Just be sure you know who your true friends are and be sure not to make them an enemy.

Bentley2718

Turning 18 doesn't magically mature your brain. Sadly, the choices of 12 year olds are now being recorded for all time, and this next generation will have to deal with the consequences of that.

This is all too true. I think as a culture we haven't quite caught up to the technological reality that there are cameras everywhere, and our thoughts logged at the click of a button.

_SusieQ_

I'm sooo very sure that I just left a bunch of people on FB scratching their heads, but really hope that the ONE that it was meant for gets the message. Somehow I doubt it...
"Proving your a 'grown up' doesn't mean "Hey world, I am now 18!", it has more to do with how you portray yourself in a 'public place'...

Let it be known... I didn't read past this.

But let me get this straight... Rather than sending a direct message or calling the ONE person in question, you posted a passive-aggressive non-specific FB status hoping an 18 year old would learn how to act like a grown-up?


Are you starting to see my point yet??




How about now???

*POKE*

Sorry, I got distracted right after you sai.... SQUIRREL!

Fiery_Vixen

Oh definately!!! Love the ones that are "in a relationship", "single", etc. after EVERY argument! :laugh:

Ugh...I've befrinded people from highschool on facebook who are STILL like this. We're 30 years old now people...GROW UP!!! I don't want to know about how sad you are that the guy you've been pining after STILL won't give you the time of day, how mistreated you are at work by everybody, and how life didn't turn out the way you wanted; just like you knew it always would. Get over the loser, get another job, and actively do something to make your life better...do more than just update your status about it on facebook every ten minutes...sigh.

AwesomelyAmber

The only relative I have on FB is my older brother, who makes me at my worst look like a perfect lady. My FB is also under an assumed name, which takes care of the future employers bit. I do this so that I can be as obnoxious, nasty, etc. as I want to be, complain about coworkers, etc., and if someone doesn't like it, they can figure out how to block my feed or unfriend me.

As for other people's behavior, if I don't like it, I don't read it. If they bother me often enough, I take them off my feed. It's pretty easy really.

That makes perfect sense!!! I really like the idea of having an assumed name so that people don't KNOW who you are on a job app or something...

iwantahealthierme13

"Today for instance one of my just turned 18 family members posts "Hmm what is on my mind? How about weedweedweed (repeat to fill an entire paragraph) followed by "boobz". This particular 'adult' has no job, an apparent addiction, and the biggest aspiration in life is to walk to the store and buy a coke with his disability check that he "earns" for a troubled youth. Last week it was a cousin that was angry at her boyfriend so she felt the need to let everyone know what a *(#*%$(* he was over and over. Before that another 'pal' went off about their job and how the boss could do very inappropriate things to himself and she would be happy."

If your facebook was that bad and everyone was doing it why would you use two of your FAMILY MEMBERS as examples?? Even though your cousin is on disability, I doubt their biggest aspiration is to walk to the store. I am on disability, I would hope none of my FAMILY MEMBERS talk about me like this let alone on the internet. How is posting this making you look better than anyone else who does this stuff? You just made yourself look really bad.

infamousmk

Wait... You don't like that people post their issues on facebook, and you don't like the way people portray themselves.. so you come to MFP and post your issues, and portray yourself as the kind of person who very likely is way too wrapped up in other people's business (regardless of where they air their dirty laundry)? Am I reading you right?

odusgolp

Wait... You don't like that people post their issues on facebook, and you don't like the way people portray themselves.. so you come to MFP and post your issues, and portray yourself as the kind of person who very likely is way too wrapped up in other people's business (regardless of where they air their dirty laundry)? Am I reading you right?

There's a remarkable pot:kettle thing going on here.


I said WHAT WHAT??....

jackpotclown

Boobs rock.

and jiggle

and bounce \m/

Shayshow

I SAY IF YOUR A "BALLS OUT" KINDA PERSON GO FOR IT. BUT YOU HAVE TO BE PREPARED TO ACCEPT THE DOWN FALL IF YOU GET ANY. AND YES ALOT OF IT IS ROLL YOUR EYES CRAP, PERSONALLY IM NOT ONE FOR THE "WEED" PART BUT I CAN GIGGLE AT A GOOD "BOOB" MOMENT

YES I TOOO LOVE BOOBS!!

BUT REDICULOUSNESS IS JUST THAT.
ILL BE THE FIRST TO SAY I CAN APPRECIATE A BREAK FROM THE SERIOUS FORMALITIES AND JUST GIVE IT HELL ONCE IN A WHILE.

AS FAR AS NOT BEING "ADULT" BECAUSE ILL POST SOMETHING OFF THE WALL, UNPREDICTABLE OR SILLY, I MYSELF AM VERY RESPONSIBLE, IM VERY KIND, I AM ANTI DRUG AND EDUCATED - BUT SOMETIMES YOU JUST HAVE TO PUSH THE ENVELOPE, DOES NOT MEAN YOUR NOT A HARD WORKING GOOD PERSON
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AS FAR AS BEING 18? 18 DOES NOT MAKE YOU AN "ADULT" IT MAKES YOU "LEGAL" TO GET INTO MORE TROUBLE YOUR NOT READY FOR, BUT DEFFINATELY NOT AN ADULT.

AND YES SUSIEQ - BOOBS DO ROCK!

skullshank

Boobs rock.

this.

TaintedVampyre

I agree that you should't post those kinds of things on the internet, especially social media sites. My biggest no no is relationship drama. Face your problems, don't Facebook them.

^This^

AwesomelyAmber

*sigh* I wish it was as easy as just "not reading" or "deleting" but it's not. That's why so many of us have them on the list in the first place. Whether they are our family, our friends, our KIDS, or whatever...they made it to the 'list' for reasons other than the crap they post.

And NO, I would not post this on their pages individually.... In my opinion these posts are not for me to play "parent" with and chase people down to say "Yay or Nay" on their status updates. BUT if they read my status updates maybe just maybe they will think twice about what they write... If not, well... I'm not going to lose any sleep. :laugh:

Shayshow

How about now???
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*POKE*

Sorry, I got distracted right after you sai.... SQUIRREL!
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LOL VERY COOL!!! TOO FUNNY!!

AwesomelyAmber

"Today for instance one of my just turned 18 family members posts "Hmm what is on my mind? How about weedweedweed (repeat to fill an entire paragraph) followed by "boobz". This particular 'adult' has no job, an apparent addiction, and the biggest aspiration in life is to walk to the store and buy a coke with his disability check that he "earns" for a troubled youth. Last week it was a cousin that was angry at her boyfriend so she felt the need to let everyone know what a *(#*%$(* he was over and over. Before that another 'pal' went off about their job and how the boss could do very inappropriate things to himself and she would be happy."

If your facebook was that bad and everyone was doing it why would you use two of your FAMILY MEMBERS as examples?? Even though your cousin is on disability, I doubt their biggest aspiration is to walk to the store. I am on disability, I would hope none of my FAMILY MEMBERS talk about me like this let alone on the internet. How is posting this making you look better than anyone else who does this stuff? You just made yourself look really bad.

I KNEW I'd get a few of you... THANKS MOM!!! :flowerforyou:

Elzecat

I'm sooo very sure that I just left a bunch of people on FB scratching their heads, but really hope that the ONE that it was meant for gets the message. Somehow I doubt it...
"Proving your a 'grown up' doesn't mean "Hey world, I am now 18!", it has more to do with how you portray yourself in a 'public place'...

Let it be known... I didn't read past this.

But let me get this straight... Rather than sending a direct message or calling the ONE person in question, you posted a passive-aggressive non-specific FB status hoping an 18 year old would learn how to act like a grown-up?


Are you starting to see my point yet??




How about now???

Well said.

Calling or talking directly to the people involved seems like the best mode of communication. Posting comments, statuses, even directly emailing someone definitely doesn't always get the point across in the way that something was intended. I had this happen recently--I perceived an insult related to something that was emailed to me from a new friend. I replied with basically a very long unhappy email rant....didn't talk to the person directly for about 3 months...and when we talked in person we found that it was just a misunderstanding--I nearly allowed myself to lose a potentially good friend over something posted on the internet. Now I try to be a little more direct.

As for the OP...I know I tend to get too wrapped up in what other people post sometimes...I'm starting to get handy with the delete" and "hide story" buttons though! Why waste so much time worrying about what other people post on their social media pages?

odusgolp

Hrmmm....



Now??

Six6xiS

"Proving your a 'grown up' doesn't mean "Hey world, I am now 18!", it has more to do with how you portray yourself in a 'public place'...Yup, facebook included.

Real grown ups are not on Failbook.