Can't we all just get along?!

italianangel143

I have been a member of MFP for a while now. I just recently started logging in my food again and for the first time since being a member I actually started reading and posting things (thinking it will help motivate me to do better). The problem is in every single post I have read there is always so much negativity? Why? I don't understand. We are all here with common goals... TO LOSE WEIGHT AND/OR STAY HEALTHY.

If your not trying to help or motivate someone why communicate with them? JUST SAYING... MAYBE THE OLD RULE SHOULD BE REITERATED! IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY... THEN PLEASE SAVE THE BULL SHYT FOR SOMEONE ELSE. ))))))

NerdyTXChick

I know what you mean. I was very leery of posting at first after seeing people get jumped on. I've come to realize there are certain subjects to just stay out of - namely, the best way to lose weight. I've been gradually posting here and there on the chit chat board, and so far everyone's been very nice.

DMZ_1

Yes, that would be great.

I think certain boards have more negativity than others.

mgnmsn

i used to LOVE the forums on here. good information, amusing people. now there is so much hate and bitterness. i do not get it. i avoid posting on here now.

KayeeDaisyBee

I joined very recently and it seems to me the arguments are mostly about nutrition. We have a lot of 'doctors' up in here. ;-)
We seem to have quite a few 'success stories' being very harsh and unfair on others right now? If you've lost a crazy amount of weight you've got no business being negative towards others 'cause you KNOW how hard it was to get there and how emotional it all can be, as far as i'm concerned if you've hit your goal weight it's time to start distributing and 'giving back' some of the support that got you where you currently are. Nobody here is in any position to judge anybody else, we've all started off in the same boat and there's only one way to go and what works for one person might not work for another...we will all find our own unique way to our own unique happiness.

Pay the negative ones no mind, they're just hungry, lol.

EveryoneElseIsTaken

I just started reading these forums too! I've only been going through the chit chat, fun one though. Aww, there's negativity?? Can't we all just hold hands and sing ring around the freaking rosy?? (even though it's about plague...)

Rayman79

The real key is to know who you should and shouldn't listen too. I don't disagree that there is too much aggression on here at times, but some of us have been around a while and seen the same ignorant people come in and sprout their nonsense time after time.

There is a heap of good information on the forums here, you just need to hang around a little to sort out the good from the excruciatingly awful.

TArnold2012

I haven't been here long but I have noticed the same. I take what I need from post and click that X on the top right corner when it is negative, some people need to make others look bad or feel stupid in order to feel good about themselves. At this stage in my life I don't waste time with drama any longer.

MaraDiaz

I do my best to be positive and I'm usually friendly even when I disagree with someone. If I ever come off as negative or mean, it probably means my sense of humor went off the deepend and I was in dire need of a just kidding around! font.

meshashesha2012

i understand what you're saying, but oftentimes people forget that if they start a post asking for advice or opinions, then they are inviting people to comment who dont agree with them.

i think all to often some people just want to hear opinions that agree with their own or hear "yes" to everything they want to her and when they dont get that, suddenly the posters are being mean negative or judgmental. it's like some people are ok with others being judgmental as long as they agree but when they dont agree, it's "OMG why are you being so mean to me".

my great grandmother once told me long ago, don't ask for opinions if you're not emotionally prepared to hear something you dont like. i find that advice is pretty darn good.

Tanig32

Its a shame when others have to make others feel bad or be nasty, this isnt high school but sometimes it seems like it because many people have their feelings hurt by the ones who are supposed to be cheering them on. I for one dont care if people have opinions about what i eat and how im doing my thing it works for me and thats all that matters i am a work in progress. If they dont like what you're doing they have a choice and that is to hit that remove friend button