Friends or no Friends?

13pointUNO

Nope. I have no friends on here yet. I just log my daily stuff and try to stay focused. For me, I am not against friends but I want to do this myself. So do not feel bad for doing what you have to do. Also, I am always reading community posts, that helps me see I am not alone with various topics. Good luck.

same here. i don't need a wolfpack

wantstolooseweight

Nope its completely your decision and personally I would tell the odd friend if they were serious about it but if the whole of my work wanted to join then its a definite no from me.... firstly if I want that bar of chocolate then I'll be having that bar of chocolate (Yes I'll be logging it) but there is no way in hell I want them critisising me in the middle of work over it....... Secondly as you say they probably wont be using it at the end of 2 weeks. Just tell them... "Well there is no point really, I keep all my diary/info private because I'm doing this for ME and ME alone" Just be nice to them but stick to your guns, you know how you feel and what you want don't feel bad about it!

ClareWantsProgress

I deleted my old account and started over when I found out some of my real life "friends" were sniping about me behind my back on other forums. Started over and doing it on my own.

It's totally your choice. I treat it like facebook - I use a pseudonym and do not have any family or co-workers as friends. Not even any friends from the town where I live, just a few I've met from out of state that share similar interests.

I've found it easier and much less complicating.

RedHeadDevotchka

I would rather have only online friends here than IRL friends bc for whatever reason (maybe I don't feel judged by you guys), I dunno, it works for me. Do what your gut tells you to do

Anna800

I have strangers as mfp friends, while I may tell people in real life about this site, I do not need people I know reading my food diary and my weight related status updates.

JenAiMarres

i hog all my fitness info from my real life friends. no one really wants it anyways! when they find out I consume things like spinach daily and actually work out...it kind of freaks them out.

KaidaKantri

No, it's your choice to do so. It sounds like it would be awkward around the office anyway if everyone knew that everyone was trying to lose weight/be healthy. I think that if you WANT to communicate with them outside of work, give them your fb information or an email address. If they ask why not then just give them a simple information that it's your business and you don't want to share your personal information like that.

MB_Positif

Well, to be honestly, nearly every single friend I have gotten to join MFP has never stuck with it. But if you already have some sort of accountability group at work these people probably will stick with it. It is ultimately your choice if you decide to add all of them or not, but if you don't they're going to probably be pissed because they'll probably all add each other.

sewerchick93

I wouldn't friend any real life friends or family members. They judge enough without knowing every detail of my food choices and exercise habits....why give them fuel for the fire?

HeatherClement

I made the mistake of sharing my weight loss goals on facebook... now I get all kinds of "advice" from everyone and their brother... ranging from condescending (which really ticked me off) to pitches for their supplements. Agh.

That said, I do have friends here on MFP - including two my bff's from across the country who are also trying to lose, and my husband and daughter. They don't bother me a bit.

Maryaly40

I introduced this site to my co-worker...Thank GOD she doesn't want to be my friend LOL! She only uses it to track her calories. PHEWWWWWWWW hahahahahahaha

kirstenmaria

I'm very selective with my friends. I feel that a certain few people will be a support system...and will help me remain accountable. It's easy to lie to myself, it's harder to lie to someone I don't want to feel ashamed around.

lcn1220

I wouldn't friend any real life friends or family members. They judge enough without knowing every detail of my food choices and exercise habits....why give them fuel for the fire?

Same here. What happens on mfp stays on mfp.

smantha32

I wouldn't give it out.. I find it's people at work who try to drag me down more than my friends and family.
My loved ones want me to be healthy. People at work want me to be less healthy than they are.

cberridge1987

Personally, I find it good having 'friends' on here, for motivation and such, but I wouldn't add actual friends as I find it hard enough to support my own healthy lifestyle, let alone help someone else that I know. My wife is trying to lose weight as well, however she is not as motivated as me and I always feel guilty when I'm losing weight and she isn't.

MustBeTheRows

No one from my real life is or ever will be my friend on here with the exception of my SO.

wgn4166

i have worked at my job for 20 years and I know I cannot count on them for support. I wouldnt tell them.

leodru

I dont have any of my "life" friends on here - i meet people in forums who seem to be similar minded and i find it helpful.

mommyhof3

Nope. I have my MFP support group and I love them all! I don't need anything more than that to get me through.

AshRyd

All the friends I have on here are friends I have met on here. I have either come across them thru other comments or other friends and we have similar goals, up and downs, eating habits and exercise routines. I refuse to have co-workers on here as friends (as is the same with facebook) this is my personal space - I don't want them any where even close to this space.

I have also come to realize I am a stress eater and sometimes those work people are the cause of my stress so i don't want them around all the time! Somedays I need my MFP people to get me thru the weakness of the Lay's potato chip calling after a bad day with those people :laugh:

misspatrice562

I agree with a lot of you here. I have made some good motivational "mfp" friends and prefer strangers over people I actually know. I'm doing it for myself and it's just easier. When people you see in your everyday life are "aware" you are doing something to better your health sometimes they comment or say things (in real life) that aren't encouraging and I don't need that! lol . . . If I eat a cookie I'm NOT a failure, I "earned" it and have logged it in my diary and am in balance with my net calories. lol

HoneyIShrunktheMom

I don't care to have people "watching" me here AND in my everyday life; that would just get a little overwhelming. But that's just me.

That is it. Exactly.

nwhitley

Depends. I have 1 real life friend on my friends list and the others are people I have met on MFP. What will probably happen (b/c this happened to me) is that the people you work with will sign up and probably be active for a couple of weeks. Then, all except 1 or 2 will stop b/c the newness will have worn off and they won't want to put in the hard work. When that happens, just delete them. That's what happened to me and why I only have 1 real life friend on my friends list now.

mbk830

2 of my closest friends are on MFP, but I'm not friends with them on here. They have similar goals (to maintain), mine are very different (to lose, a lot). I very much need the support of my MFP friends, but my real life friends just don't understand some of the struggles.