whats attractive?

Irishdeathbat
Irishdeathbat Posts: 11
edited December 24 in Chit-Chat
I see soooo many skinny beautiful women in the media and everyone says "oh she/he is so h2ot" if every celebrit or media figure was bigger in size what size would you consider attractive. I ask because my husband thinks I'm perfect and clearly I don't.I am 5'10 and a size 24 26. After having my son I have gotten a little more hourglass like around the hip region.
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  • crazy8ts
    crazy8ts Posts: 360
    Simply put, if your husband thinks you're perfect, then you are. Rest assured, his belief in your perfection goes far beyond your measurements... I would trust that you can continue to work on your own "perfection" goals, and his view will never change

    My personal opinion... I couldn't tell you a woman's 'size' if my life depended on it... could really care less what the tags on their clothes says... 'cause if they put my t-shirt on when they're "most comfortable," then I'll always find them sexy!
  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    When it comes to women, I'm a firm believer in variety being the spice of life.
  • mrsnathanandrew
    mrsnathanandrew Posts: 631 Member
    My fiance thinks I'm beautiful the way I am, he tells me daily that he's happy with how I look and it doesn't bother him, however it bothers me. I started in a size 24, my goal is a size 8ish, 145 lbs, or when I'm happy. However, I think it varies on how a celebrity carries their weight, like Adele for instance I believe is beautiful!
  • bbbsmama
    bbbsmama Posts: 96
    Honestly, the girl I think is the most beautiful in the 'hollywood' scene is Adele. She is gorgeous!
  • Melanie_RS
    Melanie_RS Posts: 417 Member
    They have done studies on attractiveness and the majority of men find women of average ("average") size most attractive. The photos of declining weight and increased weight were not attractive as right on top of that bell curve. I'm pretty sure evolution has something to do with this as to heavy or too thin signals there might be a problem with fertility.

    Of course this being a bell curve, there will still be men/women who like all along the spectrum, you have to...it's a bell curve. ;)
  • mrmarius
    mrmarius Posts: 1,802 Member
    When it comes to women, I'm a firm believer in variety being the spice of life.

    agrees
  • SouthernSweetie74
    SouthernSweetie74 Posts: 844
    When it comes to women, I'm a firm believer in variety being the spice of life.

    Nice answer! :)
  • SouthernSweetie74
    SouthernSweetie74 Posts: 844
    Okay, at the risk of sounding arrogant... (which I am completely not)...

    Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

    And I daresay... that even men take into accountability more than just size. Maybe not all, but many that I come into contact with (in the real world) seem to be like that.

    I have never been skinny. I am a work in progress for sure.

    But I do not lack in getting attention from men. I have been told I was beautiful all of my life. And I'm not talking about just by the old ladies. I don't necessarily think it's my outward appearance alone that makes people describe me that way. I am an upbeat person; I'm friendly; I'm kind; I'm fun; and I can be confident.

    I think, especially IRL, that attractiveness is much more than just looks. It can be attitude, the way a person carries him/herself, the confidence level, and possibly a myriad of other things.
  • LonLB
    LonLB Posts: 1,126 Member
    Here is a good example

    This thread
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/657588-your-wtf-i-need-to-get-in-shape-moment


    The original poster saw her picture and decided 'that' was the last straw and it was time to get in shape. Personally I think she looked great.


    Really it's in the eye of the beholder, and can also be so much more than just appearance.
  • ♡MyCurves
    ♡MyCurves Posts: 103 Member
    I think thick & curvy is beautiful...not skinny...just my opinion :)
  • alikrorp225
    alikrorp225 Posts: 54
    I have to agree that it seems everyone is different. Remember back when that People magazine came out with Bradley Cooper and the "Sexiest Man Alive"? There were people who were thrilled about it and others who were like "What?!" lol They wanted Ryan Gosling...and there are plenty of people who think Mr. Gosling is unattractive(I am NOT one of those people, btw). There are people who think actresses like Jennifer Aniston are beautiful and others who think she's ugly. Notice I'm giving celebrity examples here because it seems people think celebrities are the "standard" by which we all must live. There's no way to live up to that standard when no one even agrees on which celebrities are the most attractive. *facepalm* I happen to think James McAvoy is, aside from my husband, the most gorgeous man on the planet. Others would disagree.

    So if your husband, boyfriend, fiance, etc. etc. finds you attractive...that's all that matters really(although compliments from others are nice, too. :wink: ) I'm very thankful my extra gorgeous husband tells me I'm beautiful every day...especially after almost 20 years of marriage.:happy:
  • Hickyvikki69
    Hickyvikki69 Posts: 371 Member
    I think thick & curvy is beautiful...not skinny...just my opinion :)


    so agree with you!
  • akiramezu
    akiramezu Posts: 278
    fit and strong with a pretty face under 130 pounds. shoot me lols
  • Pimpmonkey
    Pimpmonkey Posts: 566
    Attractive to me is believing in and and loving yourself. Because no matter how beautiful/sexy you are if you lack self confidence and self-love, you lose your shine and people can't see you as clearly.
  • jadedone
    jadedone Posts: 2,446 Member
    What makes you happy.
  • JennieAL
    JennieAL Posts: 1,726 Member
    I'm 5'7" and just under 130 lbs, size 6. I guess for me, if I could tweak myself to be "ideal" I'd increase my bra cup size to a C or D and add about 3 inches to my legs. Then I might be satisfied. I can get the boobs... just can't change the legs. That's what I think to myself anyway.

    But attractive is hard to define. Though there's some science behind what humans deem attractive. Average features and looks seem to be what's considered attractive. And as for shape... there's a hip to waist ratio for women that's considered ideal. And then... we all have our little quirks about what we find personally attractive in others. :)
  • jen_bd6
    jen_bd6 Posts: 501 Member
    You do not have to be skinny to be beautiful. Your husband thinks you are perfect and he's right.

    Size has nothing to do with beauty. Beauty is inside (no matter how cliche that sounds). Confidence, loving yourself, and increased self-worth are the traits that make you beautiful, no matter your size.
  • dhiannon
    dhiannon Posts: 111 Member
    Attractive to me is believing in and and loving yourself. Because no matter how beautiful/sexy you are if you lack self confidence and self-love, you lose your shine and people can't see you as clearly.


    ^^^ Perfect^^^

    I've been told many times I'm not very attractive, I guess that goes along with being a red head in most cases.
    At the end of the day it doesnt matter what other people think of you its how you respond to it and how you let it effect you.

    How many times honestly have you met someone who you though wasnt attractive but because of the person they are you find your mind set shifting? Yes at first sight we all judge but at the end of the day if someone was to base the person I am on looks alone well I dont want to be a part of their world anyway - Their loss.
  • SouthernSweetie74
    SouthernSweetie74 Posts: 844
    You do not have to be skinny to be beautiful. Your husband thinks you are perfect and he's right.

    Size has nothing to do with beauty. Beauty is inside (no matter how cliche that sounds). Confidence, loving yourself, and increased self-worth are the traits that make you beautiful, no matter your size.

    agree
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I see soooo many skinny beautiful women in the media and everyone says "oh she/he is so h2ot" if every celebrit or media figure was bigger in size what size would you consider attractive. I ask because my husband thinks I'm perfect and clearly I don't.I am 5'10 and a size 24 26. After having my son I have gotten a little more hourglass like around the hip region.

    Everyone has different taste and some people can look at a very thin woman and think she's beautiful AND a heavier or curvier woman (and I mean as in hourglass, not overweight when I say curvy) and also think she's beautiful.

    Look at all the men drooling over Christina Hendricks.
  • jenbk2
    jenbk2 Posts: 614 Member
    I think confidence is what makes you beautiful. You can be a size 50 or a 2- if you have confidence in how you look it shows.
  • stylistchik
    stylistchik Posts: 1,436 Member
    I know I really appreciate an attractive personality. If a person is fun to be with and makes me smile, they are automatically an attractive person and it doesn't really matter what they look like. I'm sure I'm not the only one who thinks this way. Plus everyone gets old and saggy one day and if all you had was a pretty face or a hot body then you'll have nothing left.
  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    I love a woman who can recite pi to a thousand places. It warms my......heart.
  • LifeChangingExp
    LifeChangingExp Posts: 454 Member
    Beauty is in the eye of the .. ohh screw this.. 6'3 230 cum to me
  • mrowrmeowmrowr
    mrowrmeowmrowr Posts: 288 Member



    I've been told many times I'm not very attractive, I guess that goes along with being a red head in most cases.
    At the end of the day it doesnt matter what other people think of you its how you respond to it and how you let it effect you.

    What the hell!? You're hot, no worries!

    I'm a faux red head :P
  • dhiannon
    dhiannon Posts: 111 Member
    Aww thank you. xx

    Some people can be cruel though can't they?.

    Each to their own but anybody who cant get passed a Barbie Doll look aint worth worrying about in my book. It says more about them than it does anyone else.
  • jen_bd6
    jen_bd6 Posts: 501 Member
    I love a woman who can recite pi to a thousand places. It warms my......heart.

    Ha! Love it ;)
  • jen_bd6
    jen_bd6 Posts: 501 Member
    Aww thank you. xx

    Some people can be cruel though can't they?.

    Each to their own but anybody who cant get passed a Barbie Doll look aint worth worrying about in my book. It says more about them than it does anyone else.

    People are cruel! I personally think redheads are hotties... and that has nothing to do with the fact that I have red hair myself ;) I think everyone is beautiful. Physical looks don't get you anywhere... if you look like a barbie, but have the personality of a soap dish, then good luck being successful and making it in this world.
  • EmCarroll1990
    EmCarroll1990 Posts: 2,832 Member
    To me? Thin / fit girls.
  • annabellj
    annabellj Posts: 1,337 Member
    Simply put, if your husband thinks you're perfect, then you are. Rest assured, his belief in your perfection goes far beyond your measurements... I would trust that you can continue to work on your own "perfection" goals, and his view will never change

    My personal opinion... I couldn't tell you a woman's 'size' if my life depended on it... could really care less what the tags on their clothes says... 'cause if they put my t-shirt on when they're "most comfortable," then I'll always find them sexy!
    let me just say if you are single you definitely wont be for long! lol, but you are beautiful! and he can tell me how sexy he thinks I am all day long but if I dont feel sexy then I wont be, that dreaded last ten pounds! Jennifer Lopez type curves!
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