Stupid man who doesn't know what he's talking about/rant

slepygrl

I've noticed people have VERY strong views when it comes to weight training, dieting and such. I compair it to politics and religion.
I think as long as you are doing what you feel is safe and RIGHT FOR YOU, you don't need to listen to other peoples input. Be gracious. Tell him thank you, then delete it and move on.

You are doing a FABULOUS job. Keep us the good work!:drinker:


P.S. On a personal note, that guy is an idiot. :noway:

NoxDineen

You look fantastic.

As for the guy, he's clearly wrong. It sounds like he means well, but he's just totally wrong and that's a bad combo since he probably will steer some women away from strength training. If I were in your shoes I'd start with the assumption that he really is trying to help, and based on that avoid a confrontational tone on your reply. (He won't likely listen to anything you have to say once he feels like its a fight.)

Maybe thank him for his interest in your health and his willingness to help a stranger, and tell him you know of lots of women who lift heavy without looking like He-Man. Tell him it's a pretty new workout concept for women but that there is a lot of science behind it, link him some sites and if he's genuinely interested he'll at least look at them.

If he comes back with "No, cardio is the right way" forget about him (or think about him when you're struggling on that last rep and use the anger to push it out). Keep lifting like a boss and posting progress photos. Whatever he says to women on the site won't be more persuasive than photo proof of what heavy lifting is doing for you.

Out of curiosity would you mind telling me how much you lift? I just started trying to lift heavy (doubling up my Barbie dumbbells) and I'm not sure ifnim in the right ballpark. Thanks.

lol the only reason I still do cardio is because it's rule #1 in Zombieland.

I love you.

Rilke

Personally I feel he was being helpful ......

Best to say thanks and nothing more too much arguing in the world & we all have our own opinions

He was not only wrong (plently of people are wrong when they are trying to be helpful) but he was condescending and patronizing. Not "helpful".

roodledoodle

Just ignore him - your results speak for themselves!!! Well done on such brilliant success

AnitaVolpato

Don't pay him no mind! He is just another man inserting foot in mouth as usual.... tell him poof be gone!

MellyGibson

Firt of all, I just about lost a bit of my breakfast when I saw the phrase "Big Boy Weights".

Talk about condescending.

OK, so HE thought he was being helpful. Obviously he is ignorant (and I don't mean that in an insulting way - ignorance is nothing more than lack of knowledge). Ignorance can be fixed. If it were me, I'd write him back suggesting reading materials to further his education in such matters. Politely, of course!

....big boy weights, indeed....

rml_16

Aw, c'mon! Random guy on the Internet is the best source of information on any and every subject. I think you should totally listen to everything he says!

historygirldd

First of all, your post is inspiring and you look great. Second, ignore him and just keep posting pictures and entries as you lose inches and get stronger. That will show him he is wrong..

Congrats on the results of your hard work.

f1ctional

I think he wants to play with your girl parts

kayteesb

I used to think that too but guess what I learned...it was my carb-heavy eating that bulked me up. I was hitting the weights and eating the hell outta those carbs.
The truth is, from what I've learned at least & in my recent experience over the last 2 years, is that you are right. Lifting weight, building muscle burns more calories...so we lose inches. The cardio is good for everything, especially the heart (duh) but to tell you or anyone else not to lift is nonsense.
He may have thought he was being helpful but you know what works. Science shows that muscle burns more calories and you keep burning after the workout. Forgive him. Enlighten him. Keep it moving.

dhakiyya

this works if you're a mum with small kids..... if anyone tells you not to lift anything more than 10lb or whatever, the reply is "oh my days, that means I can't even pick up my baby!!" Even after a c-section (i.e. major abdominal surgery) the advice is "don''t lift anything heavier than your baby" - and a newborn baby can often be more than 10lb. So how on earth is that amount too heavy for a woman who has no medical issues?

that puts those comments into context. How many women bulk up from lifting and carrying their kids? Zero.

hpsnickers1

I belong to another site that is like an online journal and I posted an entry about being so proud of myself for walking into the free weights area and how it did feel so much better than the machines. I posted how I was reading New Rules of Lifting for Women and how since starting to lift heavy I have lost 6 inches off my waist, 2 on my arm, 3 on my neck, 3 off my hips, and 2 off of my bust. The scale has barely moved but anyone would be crazy to not jump for joy at those numbers.

Anyway, a lot of women asked about lifting heavy and while I'm not expert, I directed them to sites and articles and told them my own experience. A lot of men cheered me on and praised me for getting over my fear of the weight room.

Then this guy showed up and wrote this comment on my picture of me in the weight room:
"Forget the Weights - Use the Treadmill ;-)"

When I got that email notification I was about to flip my lid! Then he wrote me a note on my entry:

"Hi MissTattoo:
I see you love to take photos and that immediately
puts you on my side. I saw your gym photo...nice image in front of those
dumb bells ...Don't use weights as it will bulk up your bod...you want to aerobic training ( treadmill, elliptical, zumba class) and if you must use weights, try not to use anything more than 10 pounds because you will end up looking like one of those bodybuilders. Message me if you want any tips! I'll make a special plan for you and you will see results. Srsly thou...stay away from the big boy weights. Trust me. Cardio is the only way to melt fat. Lifting will just add muscle to fat and you will just get bigger."

O_O

My first reaction was to cuss him out. How many women has he convinced with this bs!? Then I got mad at the word SRSLY! WTF!? It took me longer to type Srsly than Seriously!

I'm calm now but I still plan on sending him a very long reply about how he is wrong and should do his research before sending that crap to people.

Here's the photo he commented on. Does it look like I got bulky from doing weeks on machines and then got to the free weight room?

TROLL!!! And he apparently knows nothing about the female body. Just explain to him that the female body doesn't make enough testosterone to get "bulky". And weight lifting will burn off more fat than any amount of cardio. Hell, it's hard enough for men to gain muscle. Women need steroids and/or HGH pills to do it - and then they just become more masculine rather than bulky.
And even if his definition of bulky is "fat over top of muscle" that fat will eventually go away as you lift. (Sounds to me like this guy has done absolutely no type of scientific research at all other than maybe reading some exercise articles from the 60s or 70s)
My dumbbells are at least 15lbs (my purse weighs more than 10!). I've done squats with 80lbs. I use 30lb resistance bands for pull downs. I'm 5'2" and maintain 110-113lbs (depending on my carb intake).
Keep lifting!!!!!

sofakingawesome69

I say beat his *kitten* with your newfound muscles so he can see just how bulky you are. JK If you found something that works and you can stick with, do it. Obviously if you are getting results you like, then it works. SO many of us try to find that something and just spin our wheels trying different things. GO for it, you are looking great and getting into shape.

Rilke

By the way, OP, you look great. Fabulous figure.

TinaKeniston

You look great! I would just ignore him and his friend request. You have better things to occupy your mind and time than people like that! Keep up the great work!

Jess830409

lol the only reason I still do cardio is because it's rule #1 in Zombieland.

LOVE this...haha

MissTattoo

Srsly I tht I'd prgrs pst ur lvl. Sry u hv sml pnis syndrm, pls fnd anthr outlt. Pfrbly on ur own pink trdml, *kitten*.

I thought I was having a stroke for a minute!

MrsSWW

Then I got mad at the word SRSLY! WTF!? It took me longer to type Srsly than Seriously!

Oh man, this made me laugh :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: I thought the same while I was reading it!!!

:flowerforyou:

braign

Automatically not a 'nice guy' with a helpful attitude because of the 'stay away from the big boy weights' comment. Not a respectful way to talk to anyone. Whether he was flat out trolling or just a poor, misguided chauvinist (eyeroll) who really did want to help you doesn't matter, and I'm glad you didn't listen to him.

JosieMars

Obviously a troll! It'd be funny if it wasn't so stupid :P
I just hope noone else sees that comment and takes him seriously.

mama2shi

Oh my...big boy weights, huh? lol

That is as bad as one of my friends telling another one (both girls) "Make sure you use the girl weights" WTF are girl weights??? Do we have special pink sparkly weights somewhere? 5 lbs. is 5 lbs. and 100 lbs. is 100 lbs.

You keep doing what you are doing, he sounds uneducated and creepy.

tinglesby

i agree with this dude!!!

FrugalMomsRock75

Obvious troll/pervert/wind up.

I would not take his message too seriously.

I wouldn't take it too srsly, either.

mistylovesmusic

For the first time in my life, I use free weights. I mostly use 20 pound weights right now but use heavier weight on the machines. Unlike when I do strictly cardio, I've seen a difference in my entire body! I finally have defined arms and not bulky man arms! Both forms of exercise are great and even better if you alternate them. Apparently he has a fear of women being stronger than him. :ohwell:

starracer23

Don't waste your energy getting upset at the schmoe!
He knows nothing...you keep on lifting, chick.

DeadEyedSuburbanite

*puke*

Condescending jerk probably trying to hit on you.

Ignore him. Don't bother trying to argue. Just don't engage the crazy.

P.S. You look smashing.

billsica

you look like your going to be pretty bad *kitten* with those weighs.

That sounds like some garbage I would troll to people who deserve it.
That guy is obviously a moron.

Squeeee

I'd just be tempted to send him a picture of my head pasted on a body builder's body saying "Oh no! You were right!! ...but seriously, thank you for your concern, but I'm doing what works for me. I encourage you to do some research because it seems that you've been misinformed."

Or something along those lines...

ironanimal

Yup. I can definitely see how you're starting to look like a bodybuilder.

Oh wait. No I can't. LMAO. Some people are just so clueless.

angeeishere

He sounds like a total buttwad...