Sometimes you just wanna Punch Someone in the Balls!!

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  • GeorgieLove708
    GeorgieLove708 Posts: 442 Member
    I completely understand how you feel. It's not the same situation, or at least, not as severe as yours... My son has a bad case of lactose intolerance (doc and specialist say possible casein allergy, even though the tests came back negative) and everyone in my family and my husband's family has known for over a year and neither side will make any effort to learn anything about it. My family just asks repeatedly if he can have certain things, which is good, as opposed to giving him something that will make him sick. But would it be so hard just to learn what he can and can't have? Any time he goes to visit his paternal grandparents over night they will feed him mac and cheese, cheese tacos, cow's milk, ice cream, etc. and when I get him back he will be sick. Ranging anywhere from diarrhea for 1-2 days to diarrhea and vomiting for 4 weeks depending on how much he got. We've tried multiple times to get them to stop and have gotten to the point where we don't let him go over there unless we absolutely need him to (i.e. our apartment was painted, needed to keep him out until fumes aired out). Family are supposed to be the ones you can count on, not the ones making everything harder.
  • cobracars
    cobracars Posts: 949 Member
    Any time he goes to visit his paternal grandparents over night they will feed him mac and cheese, cheese tacos, cow's milk, ice cream, etc. and when I get him back he will be sick.

    Once is a mistake, twice is unexcused. No more feedings at grandma and grandpa's house. Unless you supply the food and they actually use it.
  • SheTrucker
    SheTrucker Posts: 35 Member
    I am so sorry for you and your son, I know that type of situation is scarey. My 19 year old brother has been type 1 diabetic since 1 year old, and it seems that if he's going to have a seizure it will most likely be in the wee morning hours too, and the blood sugar has never been consistant when it happens it just seems like sometimes his body is more sensitive and if its gonna happen its just gonna happen. It took a long time to learn about this disease and get used to poking a little boy's finger or watching him cry while you're forced to give him multiple shots in a day, and tell him no when he asks for candy or other fun things young kids have. I also know how it feels to have other people speak mindlessly about the disease, or treat it like no big deal. It seems like people think that diabetes is only making sure your blood sugar is up and eating candy when you feel low, not realizing that you can get too high and have just as big a problem. There has been several occasions where I've had to come out swinging for my brother because our Grandpa thinks he can have anything he wants as long as sugar isn't on the list of ingredients. Its hard enough to control and teach the patient, let alone everyone else that knows more than you that seems to sabotage your efforts. I hope for nothing but the best for you and your family, and keep up the great work :) Mothers of children with any kind of disease or disability are truly angels! I know mine is!
  • GeorgieLove708
    GeorgieLove708 Posts: 442 Member
    Any time he goes to visit his paternal grandparents over night they will feed him mac and cheese, cheese tacos, cow's milk, ice cream, etc. and when I get him back he will be sick.

    Once is a mistake, twice is unexcused. No more feedings at grandma and grandpa's house. Unless you supply the food and they actually use it.

    I agree. As I said, he only goes over there if we absolutely need him to, but I'm not in control of all situations so there are, unfortunately, times when he needs to go over there. Only twice since the beginning of the year, but still. And I do provide alternatives, my MIL is just that much of a &*#$%. And everyone considers me the bad guy here for keeping him away (he still visits, just not overnight) because she has leukemia.
  • InnerFatGirl
    InnerFatGirl Posts: 2,687 Member

    Finally, I have to ask... why do women who are angry assume it's okay to say things like "Sometimes you just wanna Punch Someone in the Balls" or "almost left my house without all their parts"? If a man made gender-specific threats of sexual injury or mutilation, he would be universally condemned... yet women get away with it all the time...

    I have to agree with this. I'd expect a totally different reaction if this thread was titled 'sometimes, you just wanna punch someone in the tits/vagina'.

    Not a dig against you, OP, just an observation...
  • sarinaturner
    sarinaturner Posts: 9 Member
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    It's applicable and it will make you laugh.

    On a more serious note, I'm very sorry this happened to your son.

    Sometimes people mean well, they just don't know how to express it. Their heart may be in the right place, but their foot ends up in their mouth.
  • cubizzle
    cubizzle Posts: 900 Member
    Personal opinion here, but to the people saying that at least these people cared enough to show up.....I completely disagree. Showing up doesn't show they care at all. Taking time to learn and make any effort whatsoever to be a positive part of the kid's life would show they cared. Showing up doesn't prove anything at all.

    Sounds to me at least like the kid has some caring parents and I wish you all the best.
  • rachey_v
    rachey_v Posts: 127 Member
    I'm sooo glad that your little boy is okay now!! I am a carer for my husband who has several health conditions which really affect his life. One being ME/CFS, it's an "invisible illness".. I've had his family say things like, well if he gets out of bed sooner he wouldn't feel so bad... REALLLLLY????

    There is nothing scarier than seeing a loved one being that ill and feeling helpless against it, your in-laws obviously care to come round, but definitely need to take the time to get educated, I found a really good video online and sent it to all my hubby's family so they could see what he was really dealing with on a daily basis. It seemed to help better than my constant explaining did!

    I hope you manage to get to a point where you feel secure in them looking after your son, especially as we all could do with a break sometimes.. Feel free to add me as a friend for support and big hugs for you and your boy!
  • kristalfrissy
    kristalfrissy Posts: 158 Member
    Thanks for all the comments about my son. He's doing great. We took him fishing this morning and he caught 2 catfish and a black bass so he's had a good day. Pretty funny when my husband fell in too! Lol.
  • cmeade20
    cmeade20 Posts: 1,238 Member
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    It's applicable and it will make you laugh.

    On a more serious note, I'm very sorry this happened to your son.

    Sometimes people mean well, they just don't know how to express it. Their heart may be in the right place, but their foot ends up in their mouth.


    Every day I feel like I'm one dumbass away from completely losing it!

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