2 Questions for you men over 40???

deniseearheart
deniseearheart Posts: 919 Member
1. My guy is 44 and in great health according to all of his blood work . His body is naturally toned and he looks great. My question is should he exercise regularly ?? He says he gets enough at work and I am wondering if that is enough?? He is an airplane mechanic.


2. I am 33 he is 44. My sex drive is through the roof and his is very low; other than cialis or viagra (which we already tried and they work fine but at 25$ a pill so not worth it) are they any vitamins he can take to help that?????

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  • deniseearheart
    deniseearheart Posts: 919 Member
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  • hewhoiscd
    hewhoiscd Posts: 1,029 Member
    1. If he doesn't want to exercise, you can't make him. If his doc says all is well, and he is happy, I'd leave it alone. That said, if you like to run races, maybe you can get him interested in the competitive side of things?

    2a. Have testosterone levels checked?
    2b. There are many ways to please a woman. Just saying...
  • deniseearheart
    deniseearheart Posts: 919 Member
    1. If he doesn't want to exercise, you can't make him. If his doc says all is well, and he is happy, I'd leave it alone. That said, if you like to run races, maybe you can get him interested in the competitive side of things?

    2a. Have testosterone levels checked?
    2b. There are many ways to please a woman. Just saying...




    yes he was scheduled to go in and have that done but never did. soooo that is why I was asking about vitamins :-) he does like to go hiking with me and we do a hiking date once a month other than that I NEVER try to force him to or even ask him to exercise with me but I suggested he do on a few occasions.....
  • deniseearheart
    deniseearheart Posts: 919 Member
    I guess I give myself credit for trying to keep it going . Trying to keep him interested
  • cobracars
    cobracars Posts: 949 Member
    Stop suggesting...its the first cousin of nagging.

    If he wants to exercise, he will.

    Although having a smokin' hot 33 yr old should be incentive enough to get him going. :wink:
  • deniseearheart
    deniseearheart Posts: 919 Member
    Stop suggesting...its the first cousin of nagging.

    If he wants to exercise, he will.

    Although having a smokin' hot 33 yr old should be incentive enough to get him going. :wink:





    BAHAHAHAHAH I have only mentioned it maybe 3 times in the 4 years together so that is technically not nagging... Just saying!!!
  • Bobby_Clerici
    Bobby_Clerici Posts: 1,828 Member
    1. My guy is 44 and in great health according to all of his blood work . His body is naturally toned and he looks great. My question is should he exercise regularly ?? He says he gets enough at work and I am wondering if that is enough?? He is an airplane mechanic.


    2. I am 33 he is 44. My sex drive is through the roof and his is very low; other than cialis or viagra (which we already tried and they work fine but at 25$ a pill so not worth it) are they any vitamins he can take to help that?????
    Google TRT "Testosterone Replacement Therapy" for the latter thing.
    As for exercise or whatever, maybe he does get enough work related activity.
    If his body is fit and his bloodwork numbers are fine, all is well.
    Good Luck!
  • tabulator32
    tabulator32 Posts: 701 Member
    The short answer: Yes, he should exercise. He probably gets some heavy lifting and maybe some cardio as an airplane mechanic but is it enough? Probably not.

    Now, as a forty-something guy, I can tell you...the more my wife reminds me to do something, the further back it gets pushed. Its a fine, double-edged conundrum with the potential to end in a "I-told-you-so" event on behalf of either side.

    Whatayado.
  • ken1994
    ken1994 Posts: 495 Member
    44 years old as well!

    1. Exercise is only as effective as the person wants it to be (reference any thread about the gym pet peeves and the treadmill readers :smile: )

    2. If a hot 33 year old can't get is sex drive going than he sould probably see a professional, most days I can pound nails if you know what I mean!

    Good Luck!
  • YouAreTheShit
    YouAreTheShit Posts: 510 Member
    His testosterone is low and he is showing signs of arteriosclerosis (hardening of the arteries). The fact that he appears to be in great condition on the outside is not necessarily true about what's going on inside of him.

    The following link is for a site that will tell you everything you could possibly want to know about your man's health. A low sex drive is just one of the first signs of a much bigger health problem. I urge you to start reading over the next days and weeks. Taking this matter seriously could make a major difference in his future quality of life.

    http://www.peaktestosterone.com

    And you should ask him, "Honey, if you could perform sexually today like you did 15 - 20 years ago, would you want to?" If the answer is YES, then he has to start fixing the problem now. Some men ignore the symptoms and assume it's just old age. Don't accept that.

    I've been down this road and in a matter of six months am experiencing a "Fountain of Youth" in my life. Feel free to friend me if you want to. I understand all this stuff quite well at this point and am always available to answer questions.

    Take care...

    BTW, eventually the expensive pills won't even work. Then things REALLY get bad...
  • kwest_4_fitness
    kwest_4_fitness Posts: 820 Member
    My husband is 43 and his testosterone is below average. This inhibited his sex drive, his drive to workout, and his overall self-esteem. Maybe your guy should have his checked. Regular testosterone injections every two weeks have increased my hubby's levels and seem to have increased his drive in other areas. :wink:

    BTW, this is a prescription testosterone injection and not a supplement that my hubs is taking. The injection is much less expensive than the gel and if insurance won't cover it, there are prescription discount cards on line that most drug stores honor. It costs us about $50 for a 6 month supply.
  • DaoneandonlyMe
    DaoneandonlyMe Posts: 118 Member
    bump..mine is almost 44
  • deniseearheart
    deniseearheart Posts: 919 Member
    thanks guys those are some good ideas :-)
  • iWaffle
    iWaffle Posts: 2,208 Member
    2. I am 33 he is 44. My sex drive is through the roof and his is very low; other than cialis or viagra (which we already tried and they work fine but at 25$ a pill so not worth it) are they any vitamins he can take to help that?????

    The blood vessels in the penis are not very large and high cholesterol is one of the biggest causes of ED.

    http://www.cholesterolerectiledysfunction.com/articles/how-high-cholesterol-leads-to-ed_

    If he's having performance issues then it's worth getting checked to see if his cholesterol is high. Even if it isn't (mine wasn't) routine exercise will really boost your testosterone and that helps a lot of problems go away.
  • deniseearheart
    deniseearheart Posts: 919 Member
    He gets an erection 95% of the time his issue is more of getting or being in the mood
  • iWaffle
    iWaffle Posts: 2,208 Member
    He gets an erection 95% of the time his issue is more of getting or being in the mood
    Schedule time for it. Put it on the calendar. Seriously. "Saturday @ 3:00 pm" Not as romantic but it's just as fun.
  • FlyeredUp
    FlyeredUp Posts: 632 Member
    Yes he should still workout and it will cause his sex drive to go thru the roof. I always say that im 42 and feel like im 22 these days and thats not because I can workout out like I did when I was 22 again. :wink:
  • PeekABooGirl
    PeekABooGirl Posts: 218 Member
    I've found that men in their 40's generally have pretty high sex drives. If he seems to have no interest, then there is something going on for certain.

    You mentioned he has a difficult time getting in the mood? Well, start working up to it early in the day. Send explicit text messages. Give him a quick call at work and tell him what you want to do to him when you see him at night. (-:

    Have you talked to him about it? Maybe something's going on that he's uncomfortable or embarressed to talk about?
  • doug4018
    doug4018 Posts: 130
    I think there's a big difference between a low sex drive and ED problems. Everyone pretty much has given you all the advice you'll need, but if he's not interested then that's different than being interested and can't get an erection. Just sayin...

    I have a friend who has the same problem with her husband and he's in his early 30's, sometimes it's the guy and not necessarily a medical problem.
  • discodaddy61
    discodaddy61 Posts: 161 Member
    yes he should work out his metabolism is already working based on his daily activity so exercise 30 minutes a day 3 x a week will improve circulation muscle tone and avoid common aging problems as arthritis and muscle atrophy. for the record im a physical therapist and recommend all to do some form of exercise.

    now about the other problem: exercise will actually improve libido. the exercise releases endorphins which increase circulation but also will stimulate sexual drive. i am 50 and it has done wonders for me.
  • catshark209
    catshark209 Posts: 1,133 Member
    My partner is 52 and we have no problems of.....that sort. And he can out-everything me in the gym, dang it. He was running marathons before I was even a thought in my mothers head. I guess it just depends on the person.
  • FlyeredUp
    FlyeredUp Posts: 632 Member
    His testosterone is low and he is showing signs of arteriosclerosis (hardening of the arteries). The fact that he appears to be in great condition on the outside is not necessarily true about what's going on inside of him.

    The following link is for a site that will tell you everything you could possibly want to know about your man's health. A low sex drive is just one of the first signs of a much bigger health problem. I urge you to start reading over the next days and weeks. Taking this matter seriously could make a major difference in his future quality of life.

    http://www.peaktestosterone.com

    And you should ask him, "Honey, if you could perform sexually today like you did 15 - 20 years ago, would you want to?" If the answer is YES, then he has to start fixing the problem now. Some men ignore the symptoms and assume it's just old age. Don't accept that.

    I've been down this road and in a matter of six months am experiencing a "Fountain of Youth" in my life. Feel free to friend me if you want to. I understand all this stuff quite well at this point and am always available to answer questions.

    Take care...

    BTW, eventually the expensive pills won't even work. Then things REALLY get bad...
    At 40 my sex drive was very low, at 41 I had my T Levels checked and they were above average. Started working out everyday and within a month my sex drive went thru the roof.
  • deniseearheart
    deniseearheart Posts: 919 Member
    His testosterone is low and he is showing signs of arteriosclerosis (hardening of the arteries). The fact that he appears to be in great condition on the outside is not necessarily true about what's going on inside of him.

    The following link is for a site that will tell you everything you could possibly want to know about your man's health. A low sex drive is just one of the first signs of a much bigger health problem. I urge you to start reading over the next days and weeks. Taking this matter seriously could make a major difference in his future quality of life.

    http://www.peaktestosterone.com

    And you should ask him, "Honey, if you could perform sexually today like you did 15 - 20 years ago, would you want to?" If the answer is YES, then he has to start fixing the problem now. Some men ignore the symptoms and assume it's just old age. Don't accept that.

    I've been down this road and in a matter of six months am experiencing a "Fountain of Youth" in my life. Feel free to friend me if you want to. I understand all this stuff quite well at this point and am always available to answer questions.

    Take care...

    BTW, eventually the expensive pills won't even work. Then things REALLY get bad...
    At 40 my sex drive was very low, at 41 I had my T Levels checked and they were above average. Started working out everyday and within a month my sex drive went thru the roof.






    Ya I was thinking maybe had something to do with not exercising.. But he and I talked and he is going to schedule that appointment but is waiting on his medical cards from work to arrive which is why he has been putting it off ... he does want to please me he said LOL :-)
  • staps065
    staps065 Posts: 837 Member
    Ya I was thinking maybe had something to do with not exercising.. But he and I talked and he is going to schedule that appointment but is waiting on his medical cards from work to arrive which is why he has been putting it off ... he does want to please me he said LOL :-)

    He's already had blood work done and the Dr. didn't check his T levels? Should be a standard test for a 40+ male. Sounds like he may be avoiding going.

    I agree with the others: Yes, he should work out and you really cannot force him. I have the opposite problem. My wife makes every excuse possible not to workout.

    I also agree with gthe others that said if they had a 33 Y/O hottie like you at home, you'd have to pry me off you! :happy: