Discouraged :(

I need help, encouragement, and a friend... I am on day 2 of the Insanity work out and feel so out of shape. I couldn't even finish the work out; let alone fully complete any of the moves.

I've come a long way from where I was 2 years ago. Having lost 43 pounds ( 180 to 137) in a year, I look good in my new smaller clothes, but when they come off, I'm not happy. I want to tone up and despite having lost so much weight, I am SO out of shape :(

I feel like I could cry. Insanity is SO hard and I feel like giving up already. There is no way i can get good results by day 60 if I can't even finish the 2nd work out. Has or is anyone ever felt this way about Insanity? If so, please respond and feel free to add me as a friend on here.

Sidenote: My beachbody coach sucks.. she's never online and her profile is blank.. no pictures of her own progress or anything..

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  • camiah
    camiah Posts: 146
    Do you maybe need to get to a base level of fitness for Insanity? I've heard it is pretty hard. No reason taking it slower, getting a base of strength established so it isn't so killer, and then coming back and really kicking *kitten* in it. If it is discouraging you so much, maybe the more realistic answer is to build up to it.

    I'm sending a friend request now. We can support each other in our slogging on to meet our mutual goals. Sound like a plan?
  • sunny_curls
    sunny_curls Posts: 12 Member
    Do you maybe need to get to a base level of fitness for Insanity? I've heard it is pretty hard. No reason taking it slower, getting a base of strength established so it isn't so killer, and then coming back and really kicking *kitten* in it. If it is discouraging you so much, maybe the more realistic answer is to build up to it.

    I'm sending a friend request now. We can support each other in our slogging on to meet our mutual goals. Sound like a plan?

    I thought about that, but I just wanna do it. I thought about doing Jillian Michael's 30 day shred first and THEN Insanity, but I don't know.. Maybe you're right. I feel like crap just thinking about giving up already though.. I'm not a quitter, I just wanna know if I'm the only one that's ever felt like this :(
  • nonafit
    nonafit Posts: 582 Member
    Why don't you try Jillian Michael work out before progressing towards Insanity
  • ocukor1
    ocukor1 Posts: 66
    Friend here, help is on the way... :) Well...first of all, when you start exercising after a long time of sedentary life it will always suck, especially if you start off too hard. Secondly, your body will eventually adapt to it and it wont feel as bad. Also, there is an alternative to hard core workouts, it's called just healthy lifestyle with healthy eating and a little bit of exercise once or twice a week, it would work just as good.
  • sunny_curls
    sunny_curls Posts: 12 Member
    Why don't you try Jillian Michael work out before progressing towards Insanity

    Seems like the smart thing to do I suppose.. thanks
  • Helloitsdan
    Helloitsdan Posts: 5,564 Member
    OP!
    Eat way more on Insanity days.
    Start out with a HUGE breakfast.
    It sounds like you are dealing with skinny-fat and thats okay!
    It's just something that happens when someone:
    1) Loses the weight too fast.
    2) Doesnt work out properly when losing weight.

    I would set aside 3 days a week for insanity and on those days know what your TDEE is and eat above TDEE.
    So I burn about 1277 cals a day.
    On an insanity day i'd eat about 3k.
    Those extra calories wont get stored as fat because of the intense workout.
    They will go towards recovery.
    And for the next 30-48 hours just about everything I eat will go towards recovery.
    You have lost the weight but the only wat to "tone" is to build up some lean muscle.

    Check my profile for a link to get you your TDEE and calories.
  • iWaffle
    iWaffle Posts: 2,208 Member
    I feel like I could cry. Insanity is SO hard and I feel like giving up already.

    My motto: "Replace your motivation with dedication and you will succeed." Are you motivated to exercise or are you dedicated to exercise. This is the difference of separation between the people you see in really good shape and the people who wish they were in better shape. Dedication means doing it even when you don't feel like it. I know Nike's slogan "Just Do It" is thrown around a lot but it's entirely true.
    There is no way i can get good results by day 60 if I can't even finish the 2nd work out.
    First you finish half the 2nd workout. Then you'll finish 3/4 of the 2nd workout and soon enough you'll be able to do all the 2nd workout. You'll see. You're conditioning your body and getting stronger. Each time you work against resistance you'll get better and better at beating it.

    You should have seen me struggling with chin ups a couple months ago. I felt really stupid trying to do them in the gym. I was sure that everyone was wondering why I was even bothering when I obviously could barely do them. Now I walk up to the bar and can crank through 8 of them the first set and people just stare like "I wish I could do those". It feels so good and all the humble pie I was eating getting to where I am today I can now feed to everyone else. Of course now I need to work on pull ups but I have this think whooped before I even start in my mind. I'm going to do them because I choose to do them.


    “If you think you are beaten, you are;"
    http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/show/327729
  • sunny_curls
    sunny_curls Posts: 12 Member
    Friend here, help is on the way... :) Well...first of all, when you start exercising after a long time of sedentary life it will always suck, especially if you start off too hard. Secondly, your body will eventually adapt to it and it wont feel as bad. Also, there is an alternative to hard core workouts, it's called just healthy lifestyle with healthy eating and a little bit of exercise once or twice a week, it would work just as good.

    This is true also. I think I'm just going to do Jillian Michaels 30 day shred and see how I feel after that. Thanks for your response! Friend requests on the way!
  • sunny_curls
    sunny_curls Posts: 12 Member
    So many suggestions I don't know what to do first! Thanks everyone!
  • camiah
    camiah Posts: 146
    I definitely know your feeling. I'm stubborn, and don't like to entertain the notion that there is nothing I can't do. And while we can do more than we typically think we can, there is a limit to what we can do. Push beyond that limit, you risk hurting yourself or becoming so discouraged that you quit completely. It isn't worth it if it makes you give up completely. If this were a friend, and you knew how much she was struggling with Insanity, and you know what her physical capabilities are, what would your advice be to her? Take that advice--whether it would be to try something different to build up to Insanity, or slog along. Also, you aren't quitting Insanity, you are delaying it until you are better prepared to do it successfully. You wouldn't take calculus without having taken algebra first. Think of it along those lines.
  • Helloitsdan
    Helloitsdan Posts: 5,564 Member
    Please make sure you eat more or you may end up retaining fat and losing lean mass.
  • JudyL5305
    JudyL5305 Posts: 196 Member
    Sent a friend request. It is very easy to get discouraged but please don't. I think you have set the bar too high right now., Definitely start off with 30DS and work your way up to insanity. You will feel better about the workouts and be able to do more of it and feel accomplished,
  • camiah
    camiah Posts: 146
    I love the 30 Day Shred. I have an injured shoulder, so I can't do it right now, but when I can, I'm going to incorporate that into my workout rotation.
  • sunny_curls
    sunny_curls Posts: 12 Member
    I definitely know your feeling. I'm stubborn, and don't like to entertain the notion that there is nothing I can't do. And while we can do more than we typically think we can, there is a limit to what we can do. Push beyond that limit, you risk hurting yourself or becoming so discouraged that you quit completely. It isn't worth it if it makes you give up completely. If this were a friend, and you knew how much she was struggling with Insanity, and you know what her physical capabilities are, what would your advice be to her? Take that advice--whether it would be to try something different to build up to Insanity, or slog along. Also, you aren't quitting Insanity, you are delaying it until you are better prepared to do it successfully. You wouldn't take calculus without having taken algebra first. Think of it along those lines.

    Very true as well :) thank you!
  • sunny_curls
    sunny_curls Posts: 12 Member
    Sent a friend request. It is very easy to get discouraged but please don't. I think you have set the bar too high right now., Definitely start off with 30DS and work your way up to insanity. You will feel better about the workouts and be able to do more of it and feel accomplished,

    My only issue with 30 day shred is how monotonus (sp?) it gets after a while. At least with Insanity I'd be doing something different and not getting bored with the workouts, you know?
  • pdanko1972
    pdanko1972 Posts: 13 Member
    I started the 30 day shred 3 days ago and the first day I had a hard time finishing , each day it has gotten a little easier. Let me tell you though I feel EVERY muscle on my body right now every muscle on my body right now, even my butt hurts. I would someday like to do insanity myself , but personally i believe you have to work up to it or you could get hurt.
  • poedunk65
    poedunk65 Posts: 1,336 Member
    just do what you can do and eventually you will work up the stamina to finish. Way to go by starting, just don't stop. You are welcome to add me as a friend, but be warned I can be brutally honest, lol
  • Lleldiranne
    Lleldiranne Posts: 5,516 Member
    Why don't you try Jillian Michael work out before progressing towards Insanity

    I was going to suggest this, too.

    Not all workouts are suitable for beginners. If your "coach" tells you differently it's time to fire her. I like Jillian Michael. Start with 30 Day Shred. Each level has modifications for beginners, and the moves are not too complex, but you still get a butt-kickin' body transforming workout. I only did 30DS for a week, but I've been in a lot of other programs. I found some of her other workouts and LOVE Extreme Shed & Shred and Ripped in 30. I am thinking about trying Insanity, but only now, when my endurance is already building and I have a fair level of resistance training already behind me.

    If you can afford it, it might be worth it to work with a personal trainer for a few weeks. It's helpful to have a live person who can tailor workouts to your level and goals, correct your form, and then point you in the right direction. (I did this a few years ago, and it was a great help!)
  • Insanity is the hardest thing I've ever done - well, except maybe that Spinning class that nearly killed me (literally) last year. Anyway, it's mind over matter. I grew up playing sports and I still coach today, but the reality is, my fat body doesn't let me do all the things I want. I'm on Day 17 and I just keep going because I want to achieve my goals. When I'm doing Insanity, there are some things I just cannot do because my belly is still too fat or my knees won't allow me to. When that happens, I at least try to jog at the same intensity as they're doing whatever they're doing. Sure, I'm losing a little bit of the actual workout, but it's better than quitting. I'm still averaging over 1100 calories burned. I just did the Fit Test for a second time Friday and I was better by a lot in 7 of the 8 tests. So, I guess my point is, keep trying, do the best you can, and if you can't - just keep moving; you'll get results either way. =)
  • hardy27
    hardy27 Posts: 8 Member
    I'm doing the 30 day shred now. In day 7 and it's a real good workout. I'm building my way up to insanity. I would love to try it but knew I wouldn't be able to keep it up. It looks like the name " insane". Jillian Michaels is a good pushers as well so I believe it would be a good first step!!!!
  • SilverLuma
    SilverLuma Posts: 46 Member
    I need help, encouragement, and a friend... I am on day 2 of the Insanity work out and feel so out of shape. I couldn't even finish the work out; let alone fully complete any of the moves.

    I've come a long way from where I was 2 years ago. Having lost 43 pounds ( 180 to 137) in a year, I look good in my new smaller clothes, but when they come off, I'm not happy. I want to tone up and despite having lost so much weight, I am SO out of shape :(

    I feel like I could cry. Insanity is SO hard and I feel like giving up already. There is no way i can get good results by day 60 if I can't even finish the 2nd work out. Has or is anyone ever felt this way about Insanity? If so, please respond and feel free to add me as a friend on here.

    Sidenote: My beachbody coach sucks.. she's never online and her profile is blank.. no pictures of her own progress or anything..

    Don't give up! I'm on day 2 of Insanity too! It was soooo hard but as long as you are doing some of the moves, in good form then that's great! You will improve. My friend is on phase two and it took her a week and a half before she really started to feel like she was doing well with a lot of the moves. You can do this! Break when needed, do only one to two moves if you need. Just take it at your own pace and you will be fine :). Don't get discouraged!
  • SilverLuma
    SilverLuma Posts: 46 Member
    Also, I already ache so bad! Do your legs feel like they are about to die? Haha, mine sure do! But I know in time I will improve and it will all be worth it!

    side note: Some people suggest doing Month 1 twice if you are just beginning. I think that's what I am going to do.
  • inverseofmissy
    inverseofmissy Posts: 114 Member
    If you are interested in doing the 30 day shred first, there is a large group of people who are all starting today. Some are doing it 30 days straight, others doing it 5 days a week, some rotating the 3 workouts so they don't get too sore or bored, etc. You are welcome to join! I started a few weeks ago with a harder jillian dvd (no more trouble zones-50 min workouts!) and I just couldn't get past the 25 minute mark, I had to accept that I'm just not ready for that level of workout and hence I'm doing the 30 day shred now :) No harm in working up to things :)http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/6853-jillian-michaels-30-day-shred-start-date-july-8
  • ocukor1
    ocukor1 Posts: 66
    You don't really need a special DVD "program" to get toned, lose more weight, or whatever your goal is. Just creating a habbit of exercising couple of times a week doing jogging, push ups, sit ups squats, or whatever you're comfortable with, will work for you. The problem with these programs, just like all these commercial diets that people get on, is that many people just don't follow through. I've seen so many people buying P90X or YouNameIt DVD's and the whole miracle lasted two days until they got tired of it. New programs keep popping up every day, it's insane (Insanity anyone?).

    Anyone can make a DVD with bunch of exercises and sell it. It is the business right now and it's flourishing, because it is a part of national weighloss plan. Bottom line is, you still need to exercise, whatever the exercise is, it doesn't have to be a brand name, you create your own, and you follow through, and you will get results that you want. IT IS ABOUT YOU! And as for the makers of these programs, it is all about $$$$$$$$, they don't care if you fail, but YOU DO.
  • JudyL5305
    JudyL5305 Posts: 196 Member
    Sent a friend request. It is very easy to get discouraged but please don't. I think you have set the bar too high right now., Definitely start off with 30DS and work your way up to insanity. You will feel better about the workouts and be able to do more of it and feel accomplished,

    My only issue with 30 day shred is how monotonus (sp?) it gets after a while. At least with Insanity I'd be doing something different and not getting bored with the workouts, you know?

    I completely understand the monotony I am definitely someone like that. I did the shred for 18 days and was so bored with it. But it wasnt my main workout it was only an additional one. So I went and signed up for Bob Harper online I love him and he always made me work.. I think you just need to find what works for you what pushes you and go for that. Try netfix if you have it try different videos until you build up and can do insanity. The other thing is modify insanity as you build yourself up to doing the moves.
  • ilarrotta
    ilarrotta Posts: 160 Member
    I cannot speak for everyone, but most people feel like that when they start Insanity. I did as well. Felt like throwing up, felt like crying, and actually cried and threw up. I went at my own pace and when I felt like I couldnt continue, I took a deep breath, and when I felt like crying I took a 10 sec break. Never had exercised before, only the occasional spinning class at the gym. I am currently in Month #2 of the program. I cannot denied it, it is super hard. Everyday is a struggled. But then I remember why I started, why I keep going.
    I have lost almost 10 lbs on Insanity alone and 13 inches around my body. It has given me so much energy and strength. Dont give up! Go at your own pace, little by little and in the middle of the pain, you will start to love it. If you need any encouragement, you can add me.
  • mlkleve
    mlkleve Posts: 9 Member
    Maybe mixing up your workout routine would help! Insanity is a hard one to jump into.
  • I agree with some of what the others said. I did Insanity last year (didn't finish the second month). I don't think I finished any of the work outs 100%, I took breaks and adapted exercises, but I saw significant results. Even the people in the videos take breaks! It is very hard, but if it is important to you, just keep going and you will improve. Progress, not perfection!
  • I did the 30 Day Shred and felt the same - it got boring. I LOVE the new Ripped in 30 video from Jillian and Buns and Thighs. Between the two, you get great workouts - 4 weeks of workouts with a set 30 day goal (rather than the 3 week video which isn't quite 30 days..) and you can mix in the buns and thighs videos on a day you are feeling bleh about the Ripped in 30 video. It's a great build up video, and she never does the same move twice - it's promised and she holds to it! Plus the workout it just simply better. There's so much she does better - explains the excersizes, mixes it up, motivates, etc. Friend request on the way as well!