It's sort of odd.

pavingnewpaths

What makes being superficial a bad thing? Why is such a horrid crime to choose someone because they're gorgeous as opposed to choosing someone because they have a great mind?

I understand society standards, and I understand that it's considered shallow. But why?

What makes it perfectly acceptable to like someone because they have a good personality but if you fall for someone because they're pretty it automatically makes you shallow?

I get that it "just is" but I never quite understood why.

sjsosu

I think I'd get really bored or even irritated with someone that didn't have some redeeming non-physical qualities.

ScatteredThoughts

I don't think that being superficial necessarily applies to just "good looks". Anytime you favor someone based on a singe aspect, you can be setting yourself up for trouble.

Skin color, height, income level, physical attractiveness - We all preferences, but should you let them blind to a person's other qualities?

MaraDiaz

I think I'd get really bored or even irritated with someone that didn't have some redeeming non-physical qualities.

Me too. Given my choice, though I'd like the whole package, and really, who wouldn't? And ultimately, looks isn't my top priority at all. I won't date a rightwinger no matter how smart or good looking and interesting he is. No offense, I just won't. I love politics, and I want someone I'm compatible with in that area more than anything else.

_TastySnoBalls_

^^^^
THIS

taxidermist15

im going to add some fire to this debate.

ladies, how many times have you gone up to a not so good looking man in a pub or a club and asked ot buy him a drink?
or vise versa for me

You cant see how much of a beautiful mind they have..

there has to be some sort of physical attraction no?

And no, i'm not saying that is the MAIN thing that i look for in a partner, but it has to somehow come into it somewhere?

MaraDiaz

im going to add some fire to this debate.

ladies, how many times have you gone up to a not so good looking man in a pub or a club and asked ot buy him a drink?
or vise versa for me

You cant see how much of a beautiful mind they have..

there has to be some sort of physical attraction no?

And no, i'm not saying that is the MAIN thing that i look for in a partner, but it has to somehow come into it somewhere?

I've never gone up to any man and asked him to buy me a drink. You mean I've been missing out on free drinks all this time? :sad:

loneworg

I feel physical attraction can be a door to a relationship, but when they start talking and sound like paris hilton, ya thats boner killer

taxidermist15

im going to add some fire to this debate.

ladies, how many times have you gone up to a not so good looking man in a pub or a club and asked ot buy him a drink?
or vise versa for me

You cant see how much of a beautiful mind they have..

there has to be some sort of physical attraction no?

And no, i'm not saying that is the MAIN thing that i look for in a partner, but it has to somehow come into it somewhere?

I've never gone up to any man and asked him to buy me a drink. You mean I've been missing out on free drinks all this time? :sad:

technically i said, have you ever gone up to a man and asked to buy him a drink. So youd be doing the buying, but they thats just me, equality and all..

sktllmdrhmz

What makes it perfectly acceptable to like someone because they have a good personality but if you fall for someone because they're pretty it automatically makes you shallow?

I think that it's in part because good-looking people, and I mean good enough to completely fall for based on looks alone, are in such a minority. The majority sets up the rules to benefit itself.

Octopies

Because if you fall for someone for just their looks, you're setting yourself up for failure pretty much. Looks change and fade with age and experience. There needs to be something more to the relationship other than "lol ur hott" to hold it together.
Same for if you fall for someone based on just their brain. People change up there, too.
And yes, I do realize most relationships are based on both physical *and* mental attraction, but we're not talking about normal relationships. We're talking about superficial ones.

myofibril

Possibly because one of our primary evolutionary goals is to reproduce and then there needs to be some compulsion in place to ensure that the parents stick around to rear their young until they too are capable of reproducing. Life is a powerful force.

Therefore if people only judge by appearances their is less likelihood of that happening and Nature gets mightily annoyed.

Of course, this could just be complete nonsense and most of us are just jealous biyatches...

LonLB

nothing wrong with being attracted to someone however, if that is the only criteria that matters then you will miss out big time.