Antisocial Much?
Iimoorshiai
Posts: 11 Member
Does anyone else feel like they want to avoid almost all friends and social situations... at least while beginning their diet changes?
I just feel so anti social and really don't want anyone seeing me until I feel better about myself.
Is this normal and should I continue to semi hermit myself until I am comfortable with my eating and not drinking? I am so frustrated!
I just feel so anti social and really don't want anyone seeing me until I feel better about myself.
Is this normal and should I continue to semi hermit myself until I am comfortable with my eating and not drinking? I am so frustrated!
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Totally! I dread going into a party or restaurant situation right now, especially since I am trying not to drink. I brought my own sandwich when I recently hung out for a weenie roast, and felt like a huge dork lol.0
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I almost feel like I am wasting my life by avoiding things but at the same time I try to remind myself that once I am where I want to be with myself I will enjoy life more... It sucks!0
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I totally feel like this and I had a friend call me out on it. It so hard to tell friends- especially skinny friends that I don't want to see anyone please I feel like I look horrible.0
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I can totally relate! When we're in our twenties our social lives revolve around going out, to bars, resturants, street festivals. I plan for social events ahead of time. Like I know I'm going to a Jam Band Fest this weekend with tons of microbreweries and food trucks. That I can deal with. It's the unexcepted things that come up. Like my friend who just texted me asking to go out for a drink tonight.0
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Definitely. Sometimes it's just easier to avoid the situations than to have to explain myself. And if I do go out with friends or even my husband, I feel like an a** if I don't drink or order something ridiculously healthy so I give in a lot of times. I have a trip coming up in a few weeks with my husband's family and I just started a new meal plan which requires me to eat 6x a day so I'm going to have to bring my own prepared food. I know there will be questions and I just hope they're understanding. I go back and forth between wanting so badly to reach my goals and wanting to just "live" without having to worry about it.0
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I hear ya, I"m turning into that friend who makes the other people feel bad because I only eat half or a third of the meal when we go out to eat. But we gotta do what's right by us. I read somewhere that in social settings if other people are eating more its more likely that you will too, same in reverse. I remind myself that my behavior is influencing others in the group to eat less too. Resturant food is so high cal (for the most part), and appetizer, and a drink , and everyone at the table could use a doggy bag.0
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It was hard for me, I thought why did I start my diet in the summertime when there's so many social situations. Then I just started showing up to happy hour and not drinking.0
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I think the tendency to want to retreat a bit is probably natural. As soon as people in my life starting becoming aware that I was trying to lose weight, they started in with all of their advice (make sure you do this/don't do this) , all of their nay-saying (you're not going to keep it off) and their unlicensed expertise on weight loss. That, or they become hypercritical of what you're eating or doing (should you be eating that? I'm just trying to help!). When you ask for help/suggestions/advice, it's different. But when you feel flooded by it, or when you know you'll get flooded by it in a social situation, it makes the thought of being social less appealing. Just remember to reach out to the people in your life who are an encouragement to you and who support you in your choices so that you don't isolate yourself too much.0
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i isolate because people are always saying....oh you can have that just not every day....i hate those words....i feel like yelling....leave me alone!...So now i'm alone but its cool...when i lost the weight last time i had to isolate...once i started socializing again it started creeping up .... so this time i will meet for the coffee and i'll have it black and no cookie or cake darn it.....0
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I was the opposite, I started to socialize with people that had what I wanted. I joined a cycling team, started going to running groups and hiking groups. I started finding friends that were into working out and doing the things I enjoyed to help motivate and keep me in the right frame of mind. I do still have my friends that are completely against the whole diet/working out thing, but I limit my time with them to once a week and watch what I eat/drink when I'm with them.0
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I don't have an issue with socializing as much as I do with saying no to food offered to me. I've offended my visiting MIL twice just today because I refused a bit of chocolate she offered me and ate what I had cooked (low cal and measured) instead of the food she had cooked (very high cal and very tasty). I hate tedious explanations about calorie deficits. I keep hearing things from people like "Have a good breakfast, small lunch and very small dinner and go for a brisk walk and you'll lose weight. No need to do this silly calorie counting." It's annoying as hell to justifying my habits of not eating breakfast (I just can't!) and eating huge dinners and going to the gym everyday.0
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There is nothing more that I want to do right now then to grab a drink and socialize! Especially because I am new to the area and really don't know many people here! ARG!0
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Yes! I'm a total hermit right now0
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<--- Hermit as well0
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Yeah it's much easier for me to stay on the straight and narrow, when I'm not going out with friends to bars and restaurants... but it is a bit sad that dieting makes me scared to go out, for fear of failure =(0
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Nope, because I refuse to live my life that way. I go out, make better choices, have a drink here and there, and spend time with my friends and family. You have to learn to live with this as it is a lifestyle change... not a diet.0
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I'm feeling like that right now as I'm re-starting and getting back on track. I feel infinitely too weak to be in those situations and would far rather just be at home, where I can feel a bit more control over what's around me as far as food and there's less to tempt me. It's very hard around me because my in laws are BIG food people. Every little thing that happens, has to be celebrated with food...and it's ALWAYS going out to eat, which makes it even harder because at some point you get tired of being the person who's eating a salad again, at a spaghetti place. =P0
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Absolutely! It is not because I feel bad about how I look or want to avoid the food and drink, it is mostly becuase I am in the zone and want to stay in it. It is all about me except when I am at work. And I do drink wine a couple times a week with dinner at home and sometimes out, every couple of weeks I surface. lol..0
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Absolutely! It is not because I feel bad about how I look or want to avoid the food and drink, it is mostly becuase I am in the zone and want to stay in it. It is all about me except when I am at work. And I do drink wine a couple times a week with dinner at home and sometimes out, every couple of weeks I surface. lol..
I think you put it the best. Not so much avoidance, more so "in the zone" ;]0 -
I am very anti-social. It's a lifestyle I fully embrace.0
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