I am very discouraged!

tiffeh345

I have not been doing so well here lately. I haven't visited this site in weeks. I have a very supportive friend, but we live far apart and it is not as easy to stay on track as it would be if she lived near me. I just feel like a complete failure. Anyone ever feel this way?

patchesgizmo

today is a new day, time to start fresh and make a difference. Friend some people on here to give you encouragement.

jenijerz

I have been feeling that way myself lately. When I joined MFP I lost a lot of weight and really got in shape. I have since gained it all back and then some. I decided that it was time to stop this yo yo dieting and make a lifestyle change. It is all about being confident in who you are and knowing that you will feel amazing when you can accomplish your goals. A 20-30 minute walk everyday will be very beneficial! You can do it, I know you can!

futuresize8

Your friend might not be nearby, but we're all right here. Make a habit of logging in and staying connected to all of your MFP family. I've never been more motivated than when I interact with like minded folks here! You can do this!!!

gjulie

Hi you dont say why?I know its great to have a friends support but remember you are your own best friend and only you can do it for your self,so chin up face forward and take action,of course you can do it.

mamamc03

It's not failure....it's an opportunity to succeed. You negated that "failure" by coming back and asking for help. That is what we are here for. You will get out of this funk! So eat your breakfast, log it and once you get some free time (after breakfast, work, etc) go walk or jog at least a mile. You will feel so much better. Sending love & hugs!

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SPNLuver83

You need to get your head in the game 100%!!! How bad do you want this???? WANT IT MORE!!!!

LoserKat2012

#1 you are not a failure! You came back and asked for help and that is a step in the right direction! Keep your chin up and give it your best! You will do great. There is lots of support here.

LoserKat2012

Jen you are right it is a LIfestyle change! I think too many people fail as they try to see there self on diet and deprive themselves! It is all about lifestyle and you take it one step at a time and one day at a time!

PiperMommy11

Your friend might not be nearby, but we're all right here. Make a habit of logging in and staying connected to all of your MFP family. I've never been more motivated than when I interact with like minded folks here! You can do this!!!

^THIS

Mamasota

Simplify things. It's nice to have friends but you can do it even without them. Many studies have shown that dieters can be even more successful going it alone. This is for you and all about you. I don't like to count calories - this is my formula - Breakfast - protien shake + 1/2 whole grain cereal with a littl low fat milk, coffee w/real cream (my one indulgence that I could not give up) - midmorning - small protien snack (1 string cheese or 2T peanuts usually) Lunch - 1 protien, 2 veggies (usally a large salad and a cup of soup or a sandwich on whole wheat) - mid afternoon - 1 good carb (piece of fruit, some raisins, etc) - Dinner - 1 Protien and 2 veggies and dessert up to 180 calories. Bedtime - small protien snack. Good luck.

Preacher224

Feel free to add me as a friend. I will send you a request as soon as I get done sending this post. I would like to help encourage you in your health and fitness goals. I have studied in this area for over 20yrs now and was certified as a fitness trainer thru ISSA. I specialize in nutrition and supplementation as well as exercise science. i would be glad to help you reach your goals. Begin afresh and determine to stick with it. You CAN do it.

murdie

Don't be discouraged! You took a good step by logging on MFP! Keep doing it every day! You can do it. I think we all have days that are hard, but don't give up!

SlimPossible8

this is how i was feeling last year. I joined MFP in 2011 and didnt start really using it until a couple of months ago. What helped me was to find friends on MFP to support you and make you want to keep coming back...however MY friends list is not so supportive lately. I would love to become friends and help support each other! I need people that will actually look at my posts and my food diarys and keep me on track. I have been doing fine lately but my posts seem to go unnoticed every day.

Its hard when you do not have someone close. I feel your pain because we are military and not close to any family. I have a friend in the neighborhood but its difficult to find time to workout together and she is struggling with anorexia so its hard for me to talk to her about eating habits. I am very pro neutrition and eating right. So talking with someone about nutrition when they only eat a couple hundred calories a day no matter how many times you explain to them why the eating is importaint for fitness...is difficult.

RaeRain

Start slow. Set small goals for yourself. I would concentrate on 5 pounds at a time. Setting small goals makes them more attainable, and your confidence will boost when you reach it. After your first goal of 5 pounds, you'll be able to look at the scale and be thankful for that .2 pound loss instead of being discouraged for not losing very much.

Set small fitness goals as well. Take a walk after dinner. Take walks on your lunch break while munching on a healthy snack. Slowly, if you can, join a gym and walk on the treadmill for half an hour while watching a show that you'd normally watch at home on the couch. Trust me, the small goals really pay off. You can do it! : )

rwinans

Totally!!!! It is really hard to keep at it but just do it for one more day......focus on the positive things you did today and then tomorrow add one more positive thing you did.

ctooch99

#1 you are not a failure! You came back and asked for help and that is a step in the right direction! Keep your chin up and give it your best! You will do great. There is lots of support here.

I think a lot of people feel this way from time to time to a degree. What has worked for me is small steps and not beating myself up about stuff anymore - just doing what is best for my health. If I feel run down or I don't feel particularly motivated, instead of forcing myself through an intense workout, I may give myself a break and just go hit some golf balls, go to the shooting range or throw the frisbee with my dog. On those nights I purposely try to eat lighter food and maybe watch a funny show or movie.

Still doing something active and not sitting on the couch just eating junk food feeling like a failure. Usually after a little break like this I feel re-charged and ready to hit it harder the next day. I am finding that rest and enjoyable activities are just as important to well being as hard exercise and healthy diet.

rwinans

I am with you! Although it is 113 degrees...about the high 90's at 5:00 a.m. so I am using Wi games instead. Love the bowling and the boxing. They even have a step exercise that I've been using.

ImKindOfABigDeal40

I have not been doing so well here lately. I haven't visited this site in weeks. I have a very supportive friend, but we live far apart and it is not as easy to stay on track as it would be if she lived near me. I just feel like a complete failure. Anyone ever feel this way?

I think we all get down on ourselves from time to time. My recommendation is to try to change your mindset. Hold yourself accountable and you alone. Treat your fitness lifestyle just like you would a job. What happens if you don't show up to work? Don't make excuses just go out and do it. That's my two cents anyway.

LisaJ2904

Oh like every other day ! The thing is I keep coming back and if I end up back at the start, then I will just have to start again. You will get there, so will I and so will everyone else who keeps coming back xx Good luck x

Hellbent_Heidi

I have not been doing so well here lately. I haven't visited this site in weeks. I have a very supportive friend, but we live far apart and it is not as easy to stay on track as it would be if she lived near me. I just feel like a complete failure. Anyone ever feel this way?

Don't rely on others to get you motivated..you have to want it for YOU!

Hang in there, and while you're at it.. I see you haven't filled out your MFP profile. Start with that and put some though into WHY you want to lose weight or reach fitness goals, etc..... You can do this! :drinker:

carrieo888

Failing at something does not equate to BEING a failure. You should not judged yourself by the obstacles you face, but how you overcome the obstacles.

Here's my all time favorite missive: If you fall down half a flight of stairs, do you pick yourself up and throw yourself down the rest of the way?

Get up, shake it off, and DO IT. Supportive friends are good to have, but they can not be held accountable for your choices. Only YOU can motivate YOU.

Good luck!

SueMizZou

It is easy to get into a negative mindset. It is also possible to talk yourself out of it. I helps me to make a plan, what do I have to do to change things. It sounds as if you are pretty isolated. You can expand your horizons by taking action. Volunteer work helped me. I made a lot of new acquaintances. Suddenly I had people to have lunch with and have coffee with. It is not easy when you don't feel good about yourself but there are lots of worthwhile things to do. One that might help, that I know attracts a lot of younger people in my town is volunteering at the humane society. Ours even has a program called "walk a hound lose a pound." A new venture would help

tasiamere

Your friend might not be nearby, but we're all right here. Make a habit of logging in and staying connected to all of your MFP family. I've never been more motivated than when I interact with like minded folks here! You can do this!!!

Completely agreed. My two biggest motivators moved to NYC and Oregon. I was a mess; unfocused, unmotivated and pretty down. Found MFP and the people on here I "met" are awesome! I also make it a point to try and video chat (skype or oovoo) with my sister and BFF as often as I can. Good luck and keep your chin up. Log in even if just for the forums. You'll get some pretty awesome feedback just from there.

Vickiesings

I feel that way a lot! I have a lot of weight to lose. I am new to this site but have been trying to lose weight for a while....exercising and cutting way back. We can do it!!!!

suelegal

I have not been doing so well here lately. I haven't visited this site in weeks. I have a very supportive friend, but we live far apart and it is not as easy to stay on track as it would be if she lived near me. I just feel like a complete failure. Anyone ever feel this way?

:flowerforyou:
I understand what you're feeling. I think we all have felt that way sometime or other, and all wanted to just give up. But I hope you won't!!!

You have to make the decision and then stick with it, even when you are over. The commitment is to you, not to anyone else! Think before you do, or don't do! I know you have what it takes! Yes, it takes courage and determination, but you have that already, so it's time to renew your commitment to you and your health. Just check in every day. We're not judging you, we're here to encourage you! Come on, stick with us and you'll be back on track in no time!

Darlingir

not visiting the site in weeks doesn't help much...make a commitment

katstartingover

I understand how you feel. I was feeling that way a few weeks ago when I know how hard I was trying and nothing was happening. Just don't give up. And you still have all of us here for support. I'll help you if you want the help. I'll support you when you're down and celebrate when you're doing well. Just remember to visit the site every day. You can do this...

jrs5444

I have not been doing so well here lately. I haven't visited this site in weeks. I have a very supportive friend, but we live far apart and it is not as easy to stay on track as it would be if she lived near me. I just feel like a complete failure. Anyone ever feel this way?

I think we all get down on ourselves from time to time. My recommendation is to try to change your mindset. Hold yourself accountable and you alone. Treat your fitness lifestyle just like you would a job. What happens if you don't show up to work? Don't make excuses just go out and do it. That's my two cents anyway.

Awesome advice! I know it's hard but sometimes we just have to make ourselves do it...trust me, it took me a lot of talking to myself to drag my booty out of bed at 5:00 this morning to run...BUT I feel so much better that I did! Ultimately, it's up to you to do what you know you need to do...but some friends, whether in "real" life or on here are nice to have around for support and encouragement--honestly, my favorite friends on here are the ones who give me a swift kick in the rear when I'm not doing what I know I should! Good luck!

alawilliams

Oh how I have had this EXACT feeling so many times. I literally go thru cycles where I get down and very depressed because I'm just not loosing as fast or as much as I want to. I even considered an antidepressant. BUT, I had to come to terms with myself that this is what I want and I had to put my head in the game. MFP members are so encouraging. Don't let yourself get into a mind set that your a failure.... YOU'RE NOT. Your here, log in EVERY DAY and just read everyones success and you will get the motivation your looking for. This is how I have gotten this far. Keep your head up, you can do this.

ironanimal

If you want it, you will work for it. If you don't you will make excuses.

Be commited or be unsuccessful.