Husband unsupportive :(

momof2boysvn

I am a SAHM with 3 kids and have happily dedicated the last 5 years to my family. I am in a point where I need something just for ME. I decided I would race in a 5k this summer. I was so excited. But everytime I bring it up,my DH has something negative to say. I told him I need to get new shoes, and he says, " It doesn't matter what shoes you wear, your feet and ankles will still hurt". I told him I needed time to walk/run to train for this without the kids and he says, "You're making this too big of a deal. You're acting like this is the Olympics. You don't need to train. Just take the kids and go walking." I will still do the 5k, but I am sad and not nearly as excited as I once was. My DH has been racing motocross as long as I've known him and I have ALWAYS supported him, even when I didn't feel like it. I just didn't exoect this reaction. Sorry this was so long. I needed to get it off my chest, so I can recover some of the excitment I originally had.

AshleyRKnutson

If you want to race a 5K...THEN RACE IN A DANG 5K!!! Try your best not to let him get you down. I'm sorry you're not getting the needed support at home, but you've got it here!!

RhonndaJ

Have you spoken to him about how his comments make you feel? Have you explained that while it may not be THE olympics, it's YOUR olympics and it's important to you, at least as important as his own racing?

If you have... then what AshleyK said.

lucylousmummy

dump the kids on him and go lol, but seriously i was basically in the same boat back in february, i'm a sahm with 4 kids and decided i wanted to do the "race for life" 5k this summer, i asked my husband to have the kids for me so i could go out and do the c25k running app but more often than not it would get held up or cancelled as he was unavailable, i finally got frustrated enough with him to flip, sat him down and told him exactly how important it is to me (favourite aunty has had cancer twice and recovered i want to do race for her shes coming along to support me bless her) how unfair he was being by not giving me 40 mins, 3 times a week, and how frustrated i was feeling with him, he has tried to be more "available" so i can go out, but if he forgets i just go regardless, inform him literally as im walking out the door. i think sometimes no matter how many hints we drop, unless we sit them down and tell them directly they just don't get it. good luck x

lizziebeth1028

dump the kids on him and go lol, but seriously i was basically in the same boat back in february, i'm a sahm with 4 kids and decided i wanted to do the "race for life" 5k this summer, i asked my husband to have the kids for me so i could go out and do the c25k running app but more often than not it would get held up or cancelled as he was unavailable, i finally got frustrated enough with him to flip, sat him down and told him exactly how important it is to me (favourite aunty has had cancer twice and recovered i want to do race for her shes coming along to support me bless her) how unfair he was being by not giving me 40 mins, 3 times a week, and how frustrated i was feeling with him, he has tried to be more "available" so i can go out, but if he forgets i just go regardless, inform him literally as im walking out the door. i think sometimes no matter how many hints we drop, unless we sit them down and tell them directly they just don't get it. good luck x

^^this, excellent advice! point blank tell him! and if that doesn't work....charge full speed ahead with your plans anyway! Whether you have to find a neighbor or family member to watch the kids, or get up in the morning before their up and about. Just do it. Once he sees how passionate and successful you are with this challenge he may get on board.