All the single ladies (and childless)...

janessafantasma

I'm happily single and childless and not lying to myself about either. Any other ladies out there enjoying the single life while all your friends try to pressure you into believing that you are lying to yourself in a desperate bid to save face since *GASP* you're close to 30 and not desperately trying to find a man to mate with???

It would be nice to find some of you and befriend you and not talk about children or boyfriends.

Don't get me wrong, I'm sure children are great, im just not interested in giving birth to one. Also, boyfriends are great, I'm just not interested in being responsible for someones happiness right now. I'm also not some crazy, over sexed almost thirty something who parties away her life. I'm a studios deans list student working on two degrees and multitudes of research while working as an advocate for the homeless.

redraidergirl2009

I don't think children are great and I'm happily childless and planning on sterilization. My boyfriend knows this and doesn't want children either, but I am upfront with people about my intentions of not having kids. Because I know if they think otherwise or don't know it can be a bad thing. I have had people not believe me or think I'll change my mind which is super annoying. I'm a damn adult for crying out loud.

I don't mind not being married. I have friends that are my age and married and all they do is complain about how they never have time for anything or money. Doesn't sound good at my age so I'd prefer to wait until I have a good paying job without crazy hours.

earthtoemilyy

ahh can i add you as a friend? i'm 22 and i've totally always felt a natural aversion to children. i'm sorry but i really don't like them! i know that makes me sound like a drag, but really...ew. people tell me i will change my mind but i know i won't.

also single. but just got out of a 4 year long relationship. convinced that guy is THEEE one, so yeah, pretty depressed about that. but not interested in finding anyone else, just interested in working on myself.

i don't go to school right now but i work at a veterinary clinic and run my own business and will be hopefully getting my butt in gear and off to vet school soon.

Crystalchaos72

I am happily single and childless, unless you count fur children wow, you are a busy lady

rozsbluejay

Well said. I enjoy my own company most of the time. I have guy friends and they bug too much sometimes. I hate hearing their girl drama. Makes me wanna be alone for a while longer. Besides I don't think I will be able to have enough respect for another person just yet and well as for kids, I'm too selfish. Sounds mean, but I'm honest.

janessafantasma

I hate, LOATHE, when people tell me "oh wait until you are older" (I'm 28) or "with until you meet the right man". Ugh, gag me. I asked for a hysterectomy for my 25th birthday and was absolutely serious about it. When I meet the "right one" he won't want children either.

I just don't want kids, I don't ever want a baby in, near, or around my uterus. EVER.

I have considered adoption someday, but that's after I've finished my doctorate and have the time and ability to take care of a child in all the ways I'd want to. If I become a parent, I'm not half assing it.

janessafantasma

ahh can i add you as a friend? i'm 22 and i've totally always felt a natural aversion to children. i'm sorry but i really don't like them! i know that makes me sound like a drag, but really...ew. people tell me i will change my mind but i know i won't.

also single. but just got out of a 4 year long relationship. convinced that guy is THEEE one, so yeah, pretty depressed about that. but not interested in finding anyone else, just interested in working on myself.

i don't go to school right now but i work at a veterinary clinic and run my own business and will be hopefully getting my butt in gear and off to vet school soon.

Yes, please add me!

janessafantasma

I am happily single and childless, unless you count fur children wow, you are a busy lady

I have a fur baby. His name is Mr. Levi Wigglesworth and he is a ten year old Japanese Chin and I promised him he would be my only baby. Ever. Also my parents have asked me to never have children, ha.

janessafantasma

I also don't want children out of selfish reasons. I can't even bear the thought of not being able to run to my local Walgreens whenever I want to because of a baby, or being able to sleep in or o to bed when I want...and how I would I divide my time between a baby and my dog when I'm fairly certain that I love my dog more than I could ever love another human being, my hypothetical child included..

deads99

Kids fn suck

FatStoatLondon

I like having a partner, but then again, he is my best friend too, so I couldn't really do without him. We've been together for 27 years, 15 of which we spent living together, but now we live in separate apartments, about 5 minutes walk from each other. If you ever meet someone special but you want to retain your independence that might work for you too.

I have never wanted kids, and neither has my sister; we are 45 and 43 respectively. My mum told me once she hadn't really wanted kids but in the 1960s it was what you did if you were a woman. I have had a lot of stick from people, who have all sorts of reasons for thinking I should have kids, all of whom have kids themselves. It's hard to defend yourself without coming over as a pompous childhating ***** so my advice is to smile and change the subject, and revenge yourself on the gossips by enjoying your life. And one last thing, don't feel you have to pretend to like children if you don't find them at all interesting. It's ok to find them boring. And try to avoid the term fur baby - it's just plain cringeworthy.

janessafantasma

I like having a partner, but then again, he is my best friend too, so I couldn't really do without him. We've been together for 27 years, 15 of which we spent living together, but now we live in separate apartments, about 5 minutes walk from each other. If you ever meet someone special but you want to retain your independence that might work for you too. I have never wanted kids, and neither has my sister; we are 45 and 43 respectively. My mum told me once she hadn't really wanted kids but in the 1960s it was what you did if you were a woman. I have had a lot of stick from people, who have all sorts of reasons for thinking I should have kids, all of whom have kids themselves. It's hard to defend yourself without coming over as a pompous childhating ***** so my advice is to smile and change the subject, and revenge yourself on the gossips by enjoying your life. And one last thing, don't feel you have to pretend to like children if you don't find them at all interesting. It's ok to find them boring.

My mom has said that I should always keep an apartment even if I move in with someone. When I need to be around people, I will seek them out, when I don't, I need to have my space and my alone time. I'm very solitary at times. I think I get it from my grandfather.

I find children incredibly boring and dull, and all of my friends know that, so when they have children it's an odd experience for me. I'm always very happy for my friends who have children and want them because it is special to them, and I respect them for raising children, but they usually respect my feelings towards children as wells which is wonderful. I just have no maternal instinct towards children and really always avoided them as much as possible. I am however, incredibly protective towards children and I will flip out when I see any sort of injustice or abuse being brought to them.

FatStoatLondon

LOL cool, you're the lucky one if you don't have to fake being interested in them

janessafantasma

Ha! There are two babies in my life that I don't have to fake interest in, my adorable neice and my best friends baby. My friends have been well aware of my aversion to babies for years.