By myself

giftieetcetera

Once a week, I work out with a friend. Once or twice a week, I work out with my husband. I love it and those are easy workouts to show up for.

Other days, I work out on my own. It sucks. But I do it and I am in better shape for it.

shaynes14

Hey there. I started with my husband but he gave out after a little while. I think now he wishes he had kept going because I have reached my initial goal and he is still needing to lose weight. Somewhere along the line, my goals shifted from losing weight to getting more fit. I just signed up for a half marathon! My advice to you is to make some goals for yourself beyond weight loss. Sign up for a race...that should keep you moving. Since July of last year, I have been in 6 races. I haven't been fast, but it is a fun atmosphere to be around. After the first 5k I wanted to do more.

I know it's tough, but I am so glad I went out on those days and ran alone. I have come to enjoy that time. I still don't "love" running, but I love the sense of achievement afterwards.

Best of luck achieving your goals!

Heyman09

I DID IT!!! I went running all by myself.....I kept procrastinating but by the time I got out there I was in it to win it.....I also jogged a lot longer than I usually do.....I enjoyed the outdoors (Even though it was like 98 degrees lol) It was nice to get a way for a little while......Hubby and I talked and ( For those of you who are familiar with the show "How I Met Your Mother) I told him that I felt like the Lily and Marshall couple.....He wants me to get out there and enjoy things on my own but its hard.....Thanks for the support.....Yes I've tried at home but we live on a 2nd floor of a really old creaky apt complex where most of my workouts echo downstairs lol.


Okay!!! Let me clear something up!!!! My husband is the best and he goes with me 95% of the time to workout.....I didn't mean for it to come out that he doesn't support me.....The reason he said that was because he works WAYYYYYY to much and his body shut down on him last week with temp running and puking all day.....He has decided that he was going to take a few days off from working out with me so he can rest at home......He said he wouldn't stop me from running though....I'm so sorry I confused everyone. I just have a hard time doing things on my own.

Hezzietiger1

It costs a lot of money, but get a personal trainer. There's something about having homework and a deadline and a PERSON you have to check in with every week who's going to call you on it if you're not on track!

Yep. Hire a trainer. Dropping money is great motivation and you will gain a best friend.

ashlensmomma

I never have a work out buddy. My husband is not the type to care about his looks. Best of all he doesn't care about mine either. But he knows I do, so he supports me fully. I never go to a gym, I either walk outside, or I do aerobics or more recently I have discovered that I LOVE Zumba! So I watch youtube videos and do it alone. It's kind of like having friends to work out with.

alsaxon

How do I get motivated enough to workout by myself??? It's always been my husband and I and ,like today for example, he wants to stay home but said he wouldn't stop me from going.....Part of me wants to stay home too. I need to motivate myself to go by myself.....I went running last Friday by myself but I don't have the motivation to do it tonight.

I know that feeling!!! The best advice I've heard was to give yourself three real reasons that you want to do something. If they are important to you and you have at least three reasons then you will probably stick with your program.

eg. I want to lose weight SO THAT I can feel confident in a biking. I want to lose weight SO THAT I look good to my husband Naked ! I want to lose weight SO THAT I can pursue modeling.

giftieetcetera

Great update. I'm so glad that you got out there!

NavyKnightAh13

My husband doesn't work out, as a matter of fact, he decides that he is too lazy to exercise and would much rather lay about then work out with me.

But, it doesn't stop me, i still work out because I am doing this for me, and for my son, and that it is time to focus on myself, battling depression, and learning how to live after losing my mom and grandma. I got to a point where I decided that maybe he will come around, if not, o well, because I want to be happy, look good, and finally wear things i couldn't wear before, and most importantly, be around for my son so I don't die young. also, to be able to run 5ks and maybe one day a marthon....who knows, the future is limitless.

froeschli

Hmm, I actually hate exercising with others, unless its a dance class, or martial arts or another group thing...
running, cycling, swimming, weights, that's something to do on my own. I like going my own speed, talking to myself, pacing myself. On my own, i can decide on an intensity and maintain the same heart rate +-5bpm throughout a run, without checking my HRM. with other people around, that's all messed up. i don't listen to music for that same reason, it throws off my pace.

maybe i am not very social

Robin_Bin

Try a variety of things, figure out what works for you.

* Find other exercise buddies.
* Develop alternative exercise routines you can do at home.
* Learn to enjoy the time you challenge yourself or the "peace" of exercising on your own.
* Commit to a plan -- a certain number of days or minutes.
* Do something to make yourself accountable. Since your husband is supportive, he could still be the one you "report" to, even when he doesn't go. Or report to someone here or just the system.
* I find that committing to a class by signing up for it (and maybe paying a nominal amount) helps me.
* Plan non-food treats for yourself if you meet your goals.

Good luck.

Bobby_Clerici

People can offer you encouragement and inspiration but true motivation is all internal.
We either have that drive or need to find a way to ignite it.

To light that fire, be honest, and answer for yourself:
Why do I want to be healthy and fit? Discover the real answer, and attach great pleasure to that as you set your goals.
Feel and experience that joy when you think of being healthy and fit.

And then ask yourself why do you NOT want to be fat?
Connect with that reason burning pain that you can really feel every time you think about being fat.

This is the key to internal motivation.
Few people can actually do this which is why most people fail in their efforts over and over.
Take the time to do this, and you'll touch off a powder keg of determination and drive.
Sure, you may have challenges; we all do, but you'll keep punching and reach your goals.

All Is Possible!

smantha32

I workout myself at home. I'm not married, but all the times I've gotten with a workout buddy to stay motivated, they've always bailed on me and left me doing it by myself anyway.

Debbe2

People can offer you encouragement and inspiration but true motivation is all internal.
We either have that drive or need to find a way to ignite it.

To light that fire, be honest, and answer for yourself:
Why do I want to be healthy and fit? Discover the real answer, and attach great pleasure to that as you set your goals.
Feel and experience that joy when you think of being healthy and fit.

And then ask yourself why do you NOT want to be fat?
Connect with that reason burning pain that you can really feel every time you think about being fat.

This is the key to internal motivation.
Few people can actually do this which is why most people fail in their efforts over and over.
Take the time to do this, and you'll touch off a powder keg of determination and drive.
Sure, you may have challenges; we all do, but you'll keep punching and reach your goals.

All Is Possible!

Love this ^^^. Great advice! Just get out there and workout, enjoy the "me time" and work it! Good luck!

robinhardysmall

I work out everyday by myself including tonight ~ because my husband physcailly cannot- but I want to be the best and healthiest wife I can be for him. That is what keeps me going...

PS2CR

I agree - I do it from home.

Make it part of your routine. I put my workout clothes on when I get up in the AM and don't allow myself to shower until that workout is DONE. That's incentive!

This. ^^^ It really helps that I've enjoyed a sport for over 35 years that is essentially solitary (figure-skating). So I've never depended on anyone else to go work out with me (in fact, I prefer to go alone). But as I'm now in my mid-fifties, I have noticed a growing tendency to blow off working out if I wait to do it in the afternoon. (Guess that's supposed to be nap time or something, now, lol!) So, I put on my skate clothes first thing in the morning, and also skip the shower and make up until after the workout. That's incentive to get it over with, yes.

mndamon

For me? Music music music. I have a pre workout mix I'll listen to while I wait for the pre workout supplements to kick in and stretch.

PS2CR

For me? Music music music. I have a pre workout mix I'll listen to while I wait for the pre workout supplements to kick in and stretch.

This, too.

A workout without music is a workout without soul (or adrenalin).

amberfarmer99

Yay!!! I'm so glad you went. I'm having a hard time right not getting motivated to to stuff. I don't like to work out with people. Just me and my music, I get embaressed easy. I feel like people will judge me, and I don't want to leave my house to do it. I know it sounds crazy. I even make my kids stay in their rooms, so they can't see me. I use to be able to get up and do it, but now I've lost my get up. I'm so happy you found yours.

mrsnathanandrew

I now have All by myself stuck in my head :-|

Think of something to help motivate you. When I don't want to workout out, I think about how I'll look in my wedding dress ing a month and a half if I do workout, and how I'll look if I don't!

RunninSD

Sorry to say it but your husband is lazy. Losing weight and getting in shape is hard damn work. If you don't want it for yourself then how do you expect to make it to your goal?

***** For a long time I couldn't lose weight, and then I sprained (torn ligaments and all) my ankle and couln't run for two months but I hopped on my stationary cycle and rode until my but was so sore I couldn't do anymore.

......YOU have to want it. I try to tell my friends and family that are overweight but they are just like I was 30+ pounds ago. Fat and ignorant (or in denile whichever you prefer) about the actual condition of their health and life style.......


I look at them and think to myself...WTF I can't beleive I was as big as they are. I don't know what the hell I was thinking letting myself get that big. I'm paying for it now too. But I'm glad that I caught myself before I died of obesity, heart disease or diabetes like members of my family.

marycmeadows

just go do it!! I have never had anyone to work out with -- I kind of like it better that way because I can do exactly what I want! the motivation is within. if you depend on someone else for that you're sure to fail.

JeSuisPrest

People can offer you encouragement and inspiration but true motivation is all internal.
We either have that drive or need to find a way to ignite it.

To light that fire, be honest, and answer for yourself:
Why do I want to be healthy and fit? Discover the real answer, and attach great pleasure to that as you set your goals.
Feel and experience that joy when you think of being healthy and fit.

And then ask yourself why do you NOT want to be fat?
Connect with that reason burning pain that you can really feel every time you think about being fat.

This is the key to internal motivation.
Few people can actually do this which is why most people fail in their efforts over and over.
Take the time to do this, and you'll touch off a powder keg of determination and drive.
Sure, you may have challenges; we all do, but you'll keep punching and reach your goals.

All Is Possible!

Bobby...if I wasn't a happily married woman I think I'd fall in love with you!! You give the most amazing, helpful and uplifting advice. Kudos to you for being so inspirational!!!