My daughter is being bullied!

pettmybunny

I don't think this is true at all.

I agree with PP that children who are bullied should stand up or themselves, and that things like "bouncing his head off a desk" "shoving him into a locker" or a "roundhouse kick" are such incredibly bad ideas I can't believe grown people are talking about them in a positive way. Standing up for oneself is about confidence and strength. The little girl in question is being spoken to in a nasty way presumably because another little girl wants to lift her own social standing by putting her down. The solution is for her to find the strength to not be put down and to win her own social standing by merit of her positive qualities. If she can join some clubs or teams she's interested in (even tae kwon do!) and be a good friend to her friends, this bully will find herself ineffective in squashing her. It's so wonderful that your daughter came to you for help. After you've spoken with the teachers and principal, I hope you'll help your daughter to use this opportunity to grow stronger and more confident as a person. That's a gift she'll always have.

If you had read my post closer, you'll see that I didn't have my son shove the bully into a locker because I was worried about him getting into trouble for retaliating... I told him I was talking to the principal. What I didn't add in my post was that if my son had done that (even though he had a foot on the bully) he probably would have gotten his butt handed to him on a platter. The kid that was bullying him was BAD NEWS. Had a parole officer and everything, although I didn't find that out until after he was kicked out of school. If I had known about it, you better believe I would have called the kid's PO and complained, and I bet something would have happened sooner.

azwildcatfan94

And full respect to the pacifists out there. You are operating on an intellectual and emotional level we should all aspire to. Unfortunately, the bullies are operating on the level of a pack animal trying to establish their dominance. And, they will not understand anything else right now.

I don't think this is true at all.

I agree with PP that children who are bullied should stand up or themselves, and that things like "bouncing his head off a desk" "shoving him into a locker" or a "roundhouse kick" are such incredibly bad ideas I can't believe grown people are talking about them in a positive way. Standing up for oneself is about confidence and strength. The little girl in question is being spoken to in a nasty way presumably because another little girl wants to lift her own social standing by putting her down. The solution is for her to find the strength to not be put down and to win her own social standing by merit of her positive qualities. If she can join some clubs or teams she's interested in (even tae kwon do!) and be a good friend to her friends, this bully will find herself ineffective in squashing her. It's so wonderful that your daughter came to you for help. After you've spoken with the teachers and principal, I hope you'll help your daughter to use this opportunity to grow stronger and more confident as a person. That's a gift she'll always have.

I don't believe I advocated pushing anyone into a locker or bouncing their heads. I did advocate standing up for ones self and if necessary to defend herself physically. I believe my statement about dominance stands. It doesn't always mean physical dominance.

thumper44

Just my 2 cents.

I don't believe leading them to be violent towards the bully is always the right decision.
Proper channels of what happening is important, Teacher, principal etc.

The bully if "embarassed" in front of other kids might do the opposite of what you would think.

If the bully gets beaten up, you can't under estimate what is going on in their minds.

They might:
Wait for them off of school property.
Bring friends with them next time.
Bring a weapon to get the upperhand.

I know this is far fetched, but throwing possibilities out there.

Short story.
I was at a bar this past weekend and a fight almost happened with someone I know.
I went to step in front of my friend and pushed him away.
So afterwards another friend told me that a friend of his got into a fight.
Self defense, he hit the guy, other guy hit the pavement, then hospital, then he died.

This friends friend got 5 years in jail, where every week or so he was beated up and went from hospital back to jail cell repeatedly.

My point.
Accidents Happen, and you can't control what might happen when it gets to that situation.

Raming a head into a desk.
Giving a round house.
Banging into a locker

All incidents where someone could bang their head and knock them unconscious, hit the floor etc.
Could bruise the brain or possibly cause it to bleed.