Concern for a friend that fell off the weight loss wagon....

Nelliebird1430

I am really bummed about a girlfriend of mine that is unhappy with herself , has stopped contacting our friends and basically hides, because she's overweight again. She's also become kind of negative and not as fun to have around, since she has made herself so unhappy by gaining back all her weight. We used to be gym buddies, but she had a child and hasn't been back since. I do completely understand that having a child is hard, and it can be hard to balance work, child, and working out, but people do it, it's not impossible. If you really want to be healthy and lose weight, you will. IF YOU HAVE TIME TO WATCH TV, YOU HAVE TIME TO LOSE WEIGHT! That said, I know that when a friend is in a good workout place and you are not, it can be annoying to hear them constantly talk about being healthy (I have been in that place myself before) but I am genuinely concerned for her and only want to help her. I have suggested MFP a few times, trying to get her interested and she won’t log on. I have shared (she asked for the info) how I am eating and losing weight. But I feel like she keeps blowing everyone off because she's embarrassed. Should I just leave her be and let her find her own journey or keep trying even if she stops talking to me all together? Anyone have a friend like me that might be "annoying" like me, and made you back away or actually helped you? I don’t' want to lose her she’s my dear friend of a LONG time, and she's always talking about wanting to lose weight.... I just don't know what to do for her :frown:

dawnitalinn

I don't know you or your friend's relationship but I do know that when I wasn't working toward being fit and healthy and I was overweight and lazy, I hated hanging around those doing something in their life. I especially hated it when that would be all they talked about. It wouldn't be so bad if they might mention it but still had plenty of other things to talk about as well. Sometimes when people are excited about something they get so focused and forget about other things in life and only talk about that one thing. The other thing to ask her is to see if she might have some postpartum depression, that could be contributing to her pulling away. If she is that good of a friend I would hope you could ask her what is going on and hopefully she will give you an honest answer, if she isn't honest, then there isn't much you can do.

samiatf

I in the same situation since I gained all my weight back I don't socialize any more it's like I am a failure !