How do I overcome this frame of mind?

Slim_Donna

Hi everyone, i've been on MFP for a while now and this is the first time i've posted a topic. This is the first time i've really needed some help and motivation

I've now got to a stage where i'm starting to slip back into bad habits. I'm starting to snack on bad foods out of boredom, enjoyment and comfort. I then think that tomorrow is another day and i'll make more of an effort tomorrow, but then tomorrow comes and it's the same story. Like tonight, my other half has come home late from work (which he does most evenings) and i've had my main meal for the day and my other half needs to eat when he comes in so he cooks himself a pizza. I then find myself eating a slice of pizza that he has, and then half a big bar of chocolate. I'm not hungry when I do this, but then i'm not full enough to refuse a bit of pizza, i'm at a happy medium, where I like to be, where I feel satisfied. But then when i've got the kids bathed and in bed, and all the washing up and housework has been done I like to sit down for a little bit before bed and enjoy a bite to eat whilst catching up on corrie. Lol. So basically i'm eating out of enjoyment

Now i've already lost 33lbs since January and i've worked my (now smaller) *kitten* of to get there. And I've said no to slices of pizza in the evenings, and refused puddings at my mums house. Now i'm at the weight i've been all my adult life, i've not been smaller than now since I was a teenager but i'm not entirely happy and would like to lose another 14lbs to be at a weight I'm more comfortable with. So why do I now feel like I couldn't give a crap now? I do really, I would still like to lose a bit more weight and I know that having a bit of chocolate or pizza isn't going to undo all my hard work. But I don't want to maintain my weight, I want to be losing but my motivation isn't there right now.

Has anyone else been where I am now and how have you overcome it?

HELP....

shelbiejo

If you know you problem is eating more later at night with your SO, leave some calories left over throughout the day. That is what I do if I know I will be going somewhere with my boyfriend. It is also all about how bad you want it. If you want it bad enough you will be able to say no just like before. Workout more too to give you more calories to eat.

Slim_Donna

Hi, thank you for taking the time to reply

I think exercising a bit more would help so i need to make more of an effort to try and do that. I've been a bit lazy with exercise lately too :blushing: I've already made the effort to do my swimming every week as normal as I havent been for about 5 weeks. Or I could just say no, that wouldn't take as much effort! Lol.

But right now I just need the willpower and it just isn't there

aqm22

Hi, thank you for taking the time to reply

I think exercising a bit more would help so i need to make more of an effort to try and do that. I've been a bit lazy with exercise lately too :blushing: I've already made the effort to do my swimming every week as normal as I havent been for about 5 weeks. Or I could just say no, that wouldn't take as much effort! Lol.

But right now I just need the willpower and it just isn't there

You've worked hard. You deserve a reward and a break. As long as you're not overdoing it or gaining back the weight, I think you should be fine. People get burnt out. It's always healthy to take a breather and then come right now re-energized.

chunkydunk714

Me being burnt out on weight watchers has cost me 30 pounds and its so depressing. I feel like I dont know what I'm doing anymore. On a good note, I know one day it'll all come together and I'll win this battle!

sandiburn

I am right where you are. It started going down hill for me when we went on vacation in June. you see, I had a goal and I wanted to be down to a size 12 by our vacation. I met it. I have discovered that since then I have been sliding backwards. Even to the point that I have not exercised in 2 weeks. I feel so guilty. I have been thinking that I need to set myself new goal to get myself motivated again. Im just not sure what it will be. Maybe that is what we both need. A GOAL.

JamesterCK

If you know you problem is eating more later at night with your SO, leave some calories left over throughout the day. That is what I do if I know I will be going somewhere with my boyfriend. It is also all about how bad you want it. If you want it bad enough you will be able to say no just like before. Workout more too to give you more calories to eat.

^This is all really great advice. Especially the part about wanting it bad enough. I always thought I wanted it before, but was so quick to jump off the wagon when tempted. This time, I have been able to (fairly) easily say no to things I normally would binge on. It's definitely all about being in the right frame of mind. To get you there, maybe you need to sit down and type/write out a list of the reasons you want to get healthy, to remind yourself. That might help keep you on track. Just look at that list every time you start to forget; it works for me!

Josette89

Beating yourself up for eating that way is what is killing our motivation. One day just go for a jog, then do it everyday after that. You'll start feeling like you have more energy and you will start feeling better about yourself. Don't get yourself down, it isn't the end of the world. You've already identified your problem, now go about trying to fix it.

RunMyOregonBunsOff

If the sweets get, then you could try doing what I did a few weeks back. I had a personal issue that was pretty rough to deal with and found that I was NEEDING chocolate like every day. I wasn't just eating it all day but I didn't like that I felt like I needed it. So I went on a week long sweets hiatus...I allowed myself stuff like a little jam or the like if I wanted it but no candy, cake, icecream, cookies and no chocolate. Now a few weeks later, I don't feel like I need it any more. If I want some then it's a teeny bit that I kind of savor so that I really get the taste without all the callories. I agree that it's a good idea to save some of your calories through out the day and then allow yourself a small portion of pizza or whatever. It's good to have a little break when you need it but when you start to feel a little like you aren't in controle anymore, it may be time to buckle back down before you gain back more than 5 lbs or so.

Another little tip that might help is to find something that you can do while watching tv that will keep your hands busy. A puzzle, crocheting, knitting (I know that sounds so old lady) save some of your laundry that needs to be folded...if your hands are busy then you aren't going to be as likely to be snacking. Good luck!

Oh and I just thought that I would mention that I made a bit of progress before I joined MFP so I have a bit more weight loss under my belt than 3 lbs. lol

Slim_Donna

Thanks for the replies everyone :-)

I think what triggered it was a month ago when we moved house. We had to redecorate the whole house so my usual eating and exercise routine went out the window. I was grabbing a takeaway or microwave meal when I had the time, on top of the late nights and early mornings I'm totally knackered! I haven't been able to get back into a routine yet because things are still a little hectic and now in the evenings i just want to relax.

I think i know what the issue is it's just hard to get round it, iykwim? I feel all out of sorts, tired, can't be bothered :-( Maybe eating at maintenance for a while may help until I feel like I can get back on track?