Little Personal - People in long term relationships

trudance4

Hi

This is really personal but I am just so down!

Me and my bf have been together for over 4 years, we have a good relationship! But I have always went up and down in my weight, sometimes due to medication and sometimes due to bad food choices! When I met my bf at first I was about 11 stone and I have went up and down between 11 and 13 stone since then!

But recently I have noticed during my most recent weight gain he has seriously "gone off me" and I know its not all in my head, because I know what he is like when I have lost about a stone I have noticed it before but it has never bothered me so much, maybe its just because I feel so down myself about my weight!

I have quized him about it again and again but he just says to me "your beautiful and I love you", now one thing you have to know about my bf is, he is unbelieveably honest, so I think he even knows he would be stepping mark if he said it was because I gained weight!

I know this should be a thing to help push me on but I just feel quite hurt about it atm. I wanted to loose weight before I even met my bf, so this is not a new thing and I dont know what I want him to say, I understand that he has "gone off me" but I am just not sure how to handle what has happend!

I guess I just need some advice!

Thanks x

minburke

I think you might be reading more into it then he is.. Naturally were attracted to our partners more when they're fitter it's a fact of life but I don't think we love them any more or less because of it.. Just focus on what you want to do im sure he loves you just the same

RCSketch

My boyfriend is incredibly honest too. I kind of had the same feeling a couple of years ago when I gained a lot of weight. But then one day it became clear why he was less physically interested. I had lost my confidence. I stopped acting the same way I did before and stopped initiating anything myself. Once I realized that and gained some back it was a lot better. Maybe you should trust that you're sexy to him and feel that within yourself. Let that confidence shine out.

fiberartist219

This might also be due to age. I know at my age, the ladies want more nookie than the guys. I was self conscious at first, but then I heard some friends talking about how they are going through the same issues. It has nothing to do with me, and everything to do with mother nature.

trudance4

Thank you