Wanting to take the easy way out *mini vent*

apedeb09

Just wanted to vent for a minute.. First let me start by saying that my mom is overweight with high blood pressure (she has been hospitalized multiple times for it and has come very close to dying because she let it get so out of control) and has been pretty much my whole life..She used to be skinny growing up and in her mid twenties but after she had me is w hen she starting putting on some weight. She drinks pop and eats junk food like it's going out of style. I love my mom to death but she is just really driving my nuts lately.... The other day I was on here looking at the before & afters thread and she saw of the pics and said "wow.. what are they taking?". I said "Nothing. They're eating right and exercising." and she was all of a sudden not interested anymore. Then she asked me to look up online for her this weight loss pill (I think it was called relacore) and I told her "all you have to do is eat a little better and count your calories. The way to lose weight is make sure you're burning more than you eat a day" and she just brushed me off again, got an annoyed look on her face and changed the subject again..

Then last night she was over my house and asked me to look up "sensa" and said she was going to order it.. (ya know, the BS stuff on TV that you sprinkle on your food and magically you're thin?) and I said "mom, why dont you just do what i'm doing? eat better, count your calories and try to get in some exercise" and she goes "Ugh, no.. i don't do that.. I've lost weight before, I know how to do it" (um yeah, taking metabolife and then she gained it right back) ..All the while she is sitting there with a mountain dew and a bag of cheetos. I tried to tell her that eating better doesn't have to be all bland, boring food.. I make delicious, healthy meals all the time and don't feel like I'm being deprived at all.. She just won't listen to me! I know she's a grown woman, makes her own choices and I can't tell her what to do.. but she is always complaining about her weight yet does NOTHING to help herself. Sometimes I wish I could just tell her "Hey, mom, you wanna lose weight? Get off your *kitten* and make it happen! You are never going to lose it sitting there eating ice cream, cookies and fast food all day".. But obviously I can''t.

Alright, that's my vent.. Sorry for the novel! Just so frustrating to deal with.

cobracars

I'll bet we all have someone in our life like that...

Mine is my wife. Has always had a full time job. We've been married 26 yrs and are empty-nesters. She has some health issues and is famous for putting things off. She will talk about needed to make a dr appt for weeks before she finally makes the appt. She is prone to believing in diet fads and yet she is an intelligent woman. She watches shows about aliens, UFOs, ghost hunting, big foot sightings and etc. She sees what I'm doing as far as watching my calories and not eating junk. Yet she still doesn't seem to get the whole "portion control' thing and she will just have a english muffin or a granola bar for breakfast. Then snacks on fruit chews (pure sugar!). 80 cals in one little packet isn't had, but if you have 5 packets, not so much. She has digestive problems so has been doing gluten free for about 5 months now, but still eats gluten probably a few times a week. She has not been diagnosed as having a gluten allergy and she is not celiac.
Saturday and Sunday morning while I went out for a 2 mile walk she sat on the couch reading the paper AND watching cable news, which of course this weekend was 24 hr nonstop coverage of the tragedy in the movie theater in Colorado. I would tend to tune in for awhile and then move on...they just kept repeating themselves all weekend anyway.
Every weeknight when I take the dog for a 1 mile walk she's getting prepared for work the next day and getting ready for bed.
I've lost 20 pounds so far but she'll just brush it off saying "you're a man and its easy for men!"

Like you, I'm just frustrated that her common sense seems to go out the window when it comes to eating.

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Gimpdogg

It really is a simple formula for loosing weight. Eat better and exercise, but it is a lot of hard work. Unfortunately most people will not put in that work. All you can really do is keep dropping hints and try to get her to do it the right way, but in the end its het decision to change her life no one else's.