Overcoming the Negative Self & Loving Yourself..

SweetMegz04

I often have those days where I am full of positive thoughts, motivated and determined.
Then- one day, night.. whenever I get that " I am not worth this" feeling.

Overall I think that I have a hardtime loving myself- I know I am a good person and I love that.
However, when it comes to body image and just confidence; I have slim to none.

This issue brings me to a point where I struggle in my Social Life and Dating..
I often feel that I can only be friends with a guy and nothing more. Even if they flirt, etc. I think they're just being nice or joking around... I don't take it seriously, even if I'd like to.


So I guess my question here is:
Do others feel this way too?
How do you get through this!?

I have tried many years of Therapy and different Counselors, Support Groups, etc. Nothing seems to help.


Any Advice would be appreciated.
Thank you

tdotali

I don't necessarily struggle with feeling my self worth when it comes to dating...but definitely in other areas in my life -particularly my work.
I understand the roller coaster as well. One week you feel fantastic and you just wish that you could bottle up that confidence and drink it whenever the you're feeling the opposite.

Self doubt is a btich - but it's there to ultimately protect you. It's protecting you from emotional pain. I think that you have to take that fear and doubt and push your way through it. Know that when a man approaches you it's because he is interested. Very rarely will a man approach a woman to be 'friends' with her. Why would he do that? Most men are very sexual creatures and when he approaches you cause he is attaracted to you and wants to know more, and hopefully get a little nookie.

I know that this is cliche, but know that you are worth it. Get out and do some playing and pampering to get your serotonin levels up. Get out there and do things that make you FEEL GOOD!! That good feeling will eventual make you shut the self-doubt off!