Weight and Relationships

Amberh82

I posted this on my blog, but wanted to see if anyone else has or had the same issue? if so, what did you do to overcome it?

In the past I have had no problem losing weight. I'm motivated, dedicated, had will power, etc. and I did it. So I started to think about why this time it has been so hard. I'll do good on eating a few days, then not the rest of the days. I exercise consistently so that isn't the problem, its just food. I know I have several good reasons for losing weight, so why am I not being so disciplined this time! I have been searching for the reasoning behind this. And last night something dawned on me...and it is probably something a lot of people have experienced in the past. I haven't been in a committed relationship in a while (not a bad thing) so I always wanted to look good because I cared about how other people saw me (and you know, to attract the guys). But now, I've been in a relationship for almost 2 years with someone who will love me no matter how much I gain or lose. Which is nice. And I think that it is crushing my will power because that is always in the back of my mind. Now, don't get me wrong, I want to lose weight for me, not him. But just knowing that someone is there to love you no matter what I think can derail a diet sometimes. I'll be doing good for days, then something fattening comes along and I'm like, "Yumm...." and instead of thinking, "that isnt' going to help you lose weight", I just think "oh well, it won't damage the diet too much". But the problem is I don't stop at that one bad meal, I keep going....where in the past, I would have maybe not had the bad meal or had it, then moved on...

BobbieJoDever

I know exactly how you feel! When my husband and I first found each other we were so happy. We knew that no matter what we would stick together and love each other through everything. In return we got comfortable with everything and stopped caring about our appearances. We gained over 100 pounds each and now we are trying to fix it. You have to think about what the weight really causes (heart disease, a shorter life span, depression). I changed because I want to live longer with my husband and if we lose weight we can have as much fun together as we want. If your like me your living but not truly living. When you can wear the clothes you want and be confident you are 2x more attractive. It helps me to get out around other people, go for walks, and think about how bad I look when I'm scarfing down all that food.

_Sara_A_

I actually find that dating and living with my boyfriend helps me be more accountable. He is doing this with me, him to learn how to be healthier and maintain his weight, me to be healthier and lose weight. We look at each other's profiles every day or every second day, and ask how our day went. We do ask if each other has cheated (lol food wise), and got any exercise in, and how was the exercise. I'm finding it easier this time because I feel that I have someone there for me to support me even on my bad days.