Help!

kristi012173

Why do we as women compare ourselves to other women??? I ran into my ex-husband last night with his new girlfriend...and I am left with nothing but bad feelings about myself ever since. A little background...I was marrried for 17 yrs, and we have 3 children together...and have only been divorced about 2 yrs. My ex and I are in pretty close contact being that our youngest son is only 9 yrs old. I am recently re-married to the most wonderful man.....so why am I fretting so much? I knew from my kids that he was dating someone new...and this part of me wanted her to be ugly! He has had other girlfriends in the past and I always felt like I had to find something "wrong" with them... Why is it that I have to be prettier, smarter, or have a better job in order for me to feel good about this? Is it just our nature as women, or is something wrong with me? I guess there is some part of me that still has some lingering feelings for him because we were together so long...but our relationship was soooooo unhealthy and I am in a much better place since our divorce, and I truly do want him to be happy. I firmly believe that if you have ever truly loved someone, that u want happiness for them, even if it is not with u. So help me out...guys, girls...what are your feelings on this? And how do I not let this eat me up inside??