how do you invite a girl to a movie but not as a date?
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i moved to Phoenix a little over a year ago and have been meeting new people through groups like Meet Up. sometimes ill meet a girl who i'm not interested in dating but i would like to be friends with...see movies, play pub trivia, go places etc...
whats the best way to ask them while making it clear its not a date?
ive tried just being casual and saying hey we should check out that new movie. but even if the plan is to meet there i get the sense they were thinking it was somethig more sometimes.
whats the best way to ask them while making it clear its not a date?
ive tried just being casual and saying hey we should check out that new movie. but even if the plan is to meet there i get the sense they were thinking it was somethig more sometimes.
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Bring some other friends?0
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Just be honest, say you would like to be friends with her and ask her if she would like to hang out sometime. We like having guy friends too and as long as you are up front and honest with her about where you stand she will appreciate it, if she chooses not to be friends with you it is her loss.0
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Bring some other friends?
no problems in that scenario. much less of a chance of misunderstanding.0 -
stop it0
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Ummmmm, say I just wanna go see a movie...not a date?
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Just be honest, say you would like to be friends with her and ask her if she would like to hang out sometime. We like having guy friends too and as long as you are up front and honest with her about where you stand she will appreciate it, if she chooses not to be friends with you it is her loss.
for some reason that just seems forced to me to come right out and say "lets be friends" but maybe it is for the best.
im really just looking for some kind of code phrase. like "would you like to come in for some coffee" at 2 a.m. is not really about coffee...but the "lets be friends" equivalent.
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stop it
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Just ask her.
I think us men over think things sometimes.0 -
ask her to see it, but make sure you dont send out date signals like paying for her ticket, meeting with her before hand or putting her hand on your penis.0
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I recently went through this myself(met people through Meetup and a guy asked me for coffee on Tuesday.. now I'm stuck wondering if it's a date or friends getting to know each other!)
Just shoot her an email that says hey, I enjoyed meeting you and was wondering if you would like to hang out again doing XYZ.
I'm not interested in dating but i would like to be friends.. and leave it at that!0 -
I recently went through this myself(met people through Meetup and a guy asked me for coffee on Tuesday.. now I'm stuck wondering if it's a date or friends getting to know each other!)
Just shoot her an email that says hey, I enjoyed meeting you and was wondering if you would like to hang out again doing XYZ.
I'm not interested in dating but i would like to be friends.. and leave it at that!
thats definitely a good idea, but i am interested in dating and am hoping to meet people in those Meet Up groups and wouldnt want to lie to her.0 -
ask her to see it, but make sure you dont send out date signals like paying for her ticket, meeting with her before hand or putting her hand on your penis.
wait a minute...its not normal to place friend's hands on my penis? no wonder so many think im interested and/or gay!!!0 -
seriously though, i think you should just ask her, not send out any confusing signals (like offering to pay for the ticket) and only bring up the fact that you dont like her in THAT way if you the impression she thinks of you that way.
you canalso try the subtle hint like asking if she things men and women can have strictly platonic relationships0 -
Its tough if your Fred Willard!!0
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Hm, this is a tough call...
I think that I'd feel less confused if someone invited me to hang out with more friends, as a group. Also, perhaps mention the word "friends" nonchalantly someplace in the email? Something along the lines of: "You strike me as quite interesting, and I think we could be friends. Email me if you want to catch a movie sometime" 0 -
ok.. here's the deal.. you don't..0
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ok.. here's the deal.. you don't..
why not?0 -
I recently went through this myself(met people through Meetup and a guy asked me for coffee on Tuesday.. now I'm stuck wondering if it's a date or friends getting to know each other!)
Just shoot her an email that says hey, I enjoyed meeting you and was wondering if you would like to hang out again doing XYZ.
I'm not interested in dating but i would like to be friends.. and leave it at that!
thats definitely a good idea, but i am interested in dating and am hoping to meet people in those Meet Up groups and wouldnt want to lie to her.
True, but you are not interested in dating that specific girl.. so in that case you aren't lying if you tell her you aren't interested in dating her.
You could also say something like I am interested in dating, but I'm trying to meet people and make friends before I start dating anyone. That way she knows your intentions, but also realizes that you are trying to be social and not just rushing into anything.0 -
mesha and rosa i like those ideas. thanks.0
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sounds like the FRIEND ZONE0
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