Coworkers that make you want to scream

tobielauren

I need to vent.

I work with this guy lifeguarding over summers. I can't stand anything he does. He's a mooch and always asks for everyone else's stuff. He makes dumb comments that college kids should know let alone elementary school kids. He tries to "show off" with his comments and stories and thinks it's cool to be thef fast drunk kid. He thinks fridays are weekends, painted over the tile in the shower in the beginning of the summer when we were cleaning thef guard room. He can't swim. He can't run. He's not polite to three patrons. Ugh. I'm sorry but I just want to punch him in the face most days.

Then there's the whole I don't think he's good with females as authority...he just thinks they are something pretty to look at and use to get "pleasure" (trying to keep it pg) if anyone would touch him with a 10 foot pole.

Ugh. Sorry for the vent. Thanks for listening. Anyone else with awful coworkers?

LonLB

I need to vent.

I work with this guy lifeguarding over summers. I can't stand anything he does. He's a mooch and always asks for everyone else's stuff. He makes dumb comments that college kids should know let alone elementary school kids. He tries to "show off" with his comments and stories and thinks it's cool to be thef fast drunk kid. He thinks fridays are weekends, painted over the tile in the shower in the beginning of the summer when we were cleaning thef guard room. He can't swim. He can't run. He's not polite to three patrons. Ugh. I'm sorry but I just want to punch him in the face most days.

Then there's the whole I don't think he's good with females as authority...he just thinks they are something pretty to look at and use to get "pleasure" (trying to keep it pg) if anyone would touch him with a 10 foot pole.

Ugh. Sorry for the vent. Thanks for listening. Anyone else with awful coworkers?

I've learned to never stew over this kinda stuff......I'll call them out on it, and EVERY time that is enough to make them uncomfortable enough to stay away from me entirely.

Works like a champ.


Now, not working and being a student I've met a couple, and unfortunately I've had to revert back to dealing with it, so I don't seem like the "old prick" in school.......But I still have my ways of messing with those people. I'll call them out on things they say, in front of everyone in a way that pisses them off, but they can do nothing about it. LOL I'm a jerk like that I guess.

tobielauren

I have to walk a fine line because I am in charge at my beach. I can only call him out and make jokes so much with three other guards hearing. I legit feel bad for him. You know body dysmorphia? How you don't see yourself as you really are? Well he has life dysmorphia. Completely oblivious that he's not going to make it in the field he wants to bc he isn't even in the program bc of grades and couldn't really do anything else besides work that involves his hands and her may even screw that up...hmph...I'm just going to read a book, listen to pandora and ignore him

LonLB

Disclaimer-NOT meant to be a negative comment towards you.

My wife and I have had a similar discussion.......I think the issue lies in how women perceive mens reactions to this situation. You totally can call him out, even if you are in charge. You just have to do it in the right way. There are ways to make him understand how he is, without saying anything negative to him. Just have to manipulate the situation/words/HIM

tobielauren

Good advice. Thanks

Bmm1978

Today’s Lean: Look Within
by Kathy Freston

Are you really irritated by someone? Profoundly turned off by or appalled at someone's behavior? Here's a little trick to help you stop tweaking: Pull the attention away from that person, and try to find that exact quality that bugs you within yourself. I promise it's in there... way, way down deep inside of you. It grates on you when you see it in another because it's the thing that needs to be addressed (accepted/loved) in you.

Once you address this rejected, neglected stuff within, you’ll have greater capacity and compassion to deal with it in someone else. In fact, when you heal/upgrade/evolve yourself, you’ll act in ways that help others to heal/upgrade/evolve because you’ll be coming from an integrated, self-accepting place. People respond to authenticity, and you get to authenticity by examining your inner truth.

So the problem isn’t always with “them”; sometimes it’s a projection of us. As we improve ourselves, we improve our world.

Prahasaurus

Did you just write that one of your lifeguards can't swim? Which beach is this, btw? Just so we know...

Seems like as the person in charge, you should do something about that, no?

--P

tobielauren

You caught that. Yes. He can't swim. Unfortunately I can't fire him

jad54

OP, sounds like the guy you work with is fratastic. Pay him no mind.

There's a guy in my office that is always complaining about some ailment. Colds, the flu, broken bones, etc. For instance, he had a pinched nerve in his back a few months ago. He said the doc told him "it was the worst pinched nerve he'd seen in 35 years of practicing medicine." The thing is...it's like that for everything with this guy. His "shattered" finger (it was actually just jammed/sprained), his broken fibula (it was actually a hairline fracture), etc. Not only is he accident prone, he's a damn liar. We actually have an office pool going on what sickness/broken bone he'll endure next. I went with broken ankle because he's been playing a lot of tennis lately.

girlbehindthechair

I totally agree, if you are looking outward at other's flaws, then you should really look inward and try to find what causes you to feel so much agression towards the other individual. Just like any relationship. I agree with PP.

scruffykaz

I don't think looking inward will change the fact that some people are just idiots..

Onaughmae

I am still trying to figure out how a person gets a job as a lifeguard that cant swim...thats beyond scary.

tobielauren

We made a drinking game...every time we want to make fun of him we drink. I switched to water after a glass..i would have been falling over

Darlingir

Today’s Lean: Look Within
by Kathy Freston

Are you really irritated by someone? Profoundly turned off by or appalled at someone's behavior? Here's a little trick to help you stop tweaking: Pull the attention away from that person, and try to find that exact quality that bugs you within yourself. I promise it's in there... way, way down deep inside of you. It grates on you when you see it in another because it's the thing that needs to be addressed (accepted/loved) in you.

Once you address this rejected, neglected stuff within, you’ll have greater capacity and compassion to deal with it in someone else. In fact, when you heal/upgrade/evolve yourself, you’ll act in ways that help others to heal/upgrade/evolve because you’ll be coming from an integrated, self-accepting place. People respond to authenticity, and you get to authenticity by examining your inner truth.

So the problem isn’t always with “them”; sometimes it’s a projection of us. As we improve ourselves, we improve our world.

I have a feeling that doesn't apply to this situation....not everything has to be some deep rooted psycho-babble...please

LonLB

I don't think looking inward will change the fact that some people are just idiots..

Agree 5 billion %%%%%%



Some people are just ****ty people. Trying to find some inspirational Bull**** to make them not annoy you is just that Bull****. Have a problem? Address and solve it. Or at least try.

jad54

I am still trying to figure out how a person gets a job as a lifeguard that cant swim...thats beyond scary.

I work with a guy that doesn't know the difference between a stock and a bond. We work at the Merc.

Nothing shocks me anymore.

Hellbent_Heidi

You caught that. Yes. He can't swim. Unfortunately I can't fire him

Can you make the inability to swim known to someone who CAN fire him?

LonLB

Today’s Lean: Look Within
by Kathy Freston

Are you really irritated by someone? Profoundly turned off by or appalled at someone's behavior? Here's a little trick to help you stop tweaking: Pull the attention away from that person, and try to find that exact quality that bugs you within yourself. I promise it's in there... way, way down deep inside of you. It grates on you when you see it in another because it's the thing that needs to be addressed (accepted/loved) in you.

Once you address this rejected, neglected stuff within, you’ll have greater capacity and compassion to deal with it in someone else. In fact, when you heal/upgrade/evolve yourself, you’ll act in ways that help others to heal/upgrade/evolve because you’ll be coming from an integrated, self-accepting place. People respond to authenticity, and you get to authenticity by examining your inner truth.

So the problem isn’t always with “them”; sometimes it’s a projection of us. As we improve ourselves, we improve our world.

I have a feeling that doesn't apply to this situation....not everything has to be some deep rooted psycho-babble

Thank you!

sarahharmintx

We need a vent board.

tobielauren

Part off the aggravation may be...but other portions is it's like someone scratching a chalk board over and over and over and over....you get the picture

LonLB

We need a vent board.

Ya because we are clogging up the "how hot am I" and "do you think I'm super duper" section with 'ALL' of these Vent threads.

:laugh:

TubbsMcGee

I probably work with the worst person EVER.

He can't do his job, and people complain about him on a weekly basis (customers/coworkers/head honchos/etc).
He's only been here a year, and I've had to write up incidences outlining every time he screws up...we refer to it in the office as "the book", 8 pages just of his f*ckups.

He steals all the time, he flat out lies to customers, he interrupts everyone when they're talking so that he can tell rude jokes, he lies about completing work all the time, oh, and last week he sexually harassed me.

No one can figure out why the boss loves him though and won't fire him.

tobielauren

I probably work with the worst person EVER.

He can't do his job, and people complain about him on a weekly basis (customers/coworkers/head honchos/etc).
He's only been here a year, and I've had to write up incidences outlining every time he screws up...we refer to it in the office as "the book", 8 pages just of his f*ckups.

He steals all the time, he flat out lies to customers, he interrupts everyone when they're talking so that he can tell rude jokes, he lies about completing work all the time, oh, and last week he sexually harassed me.

No one can figure out why the boss loves him though and won't fire him.

Is there anyone above the boss?

LonLB

I probably work with the worst person EVER.

He can't do his job, and people complain about him on a weekly basis (customers/coworkers/head honchos/etc).
He's only been here a year, and I've had to write up incidences outlining every time he screws up...we refer to it in the office as "the book", 8 pages just of his f*ckups.

He steals all the time, he flat out lies to customers, he interrupts everyone when they're talking so that he can tell rude jokes, he lies about completing work all the time, oh, and last week he sexually harassed me.

No one can figure out why the boss loves him though and won't fire him.

I've witnessed a few of these and have a VERY easy answer.


The boss doesn't love him AT ALL.

In fact, probably hates him. But this guy KNOWS something about the guy. An affair, a drug habit, theft, SOMETHING.

MissAlexxMarie

I have an awful co-worker...she's a female! She is just horrible, she wants to take over everything and she is just possesive! I can't even say hi to the doctor without her jumping on me. She looks at EVERYTHING i do and just hates me! Speaking of the devil she just came up to complains about something else. It's always something new with her! Just cannot stand her!

jad54

I probably work with the worst person EVER.

He can't do his job, and people complain about him on a weekly basis (customers/coworkers/head honchos/etc).
He's only been here a year, and I've had to write up incidences outlining every time he screws up...we refer to it in the office as "the book", 8 pages just of his f*ckups.

He steals all the time, he flat out lies to customers, he interrupts everyone when they're talking so that he can tell rude jokes, he lies about completing work all the time, oh, and last week he sexually harassed me.

No one can figure out why the boss loves him though and won't fire him.

I've witnessed a few of these and have a VERY easy answer.


The boss doesn't love him AT ALL.

In fact, probably hates him. But this guy KNOWS something about the guy. An affair, a drug habit, theft, SOMETHING.

That's the most likely explanation. However, I worked with a guy that everyone and their brother hated (sans the boss). Probably the most irresponsible coworker I've ever had (late to work, smelled like alcohol on the regular, rude to customers, etc). The reason the boss loved him was because he was 10 years his junior (33/23) and partied with him. We had to go to corporate to get the kid fired.

TubbsMcGee

I probably work with the worst person EVER.

He can't do his job, and people complain about him on a weekly basis (customers/coworkers/head honchos/etc).
He's only been here a year, and I've had to write up incidences outlining every time he screws up...we refer to it in the office as "the book", 8 pages just of his f*ckups.

He steals all the time, he flat out lies to customers, he interrupts everyone when they're talking so that he can tell rude jokes, he lies about completing work all the time, oh, and last week he sexually harassed me.

No one can figure out why the boss loves him though and won't fire him.

I've witnessed a few of these and have a VERY easy answer.


The boss doesn't love him AT ALL.

In fact, probably hates him. But this guy KNOWS something about the guy. An affair, a drug habit, theft, SOMETHING.

That's the most likely explanation. However, I worked with a guy that everyone and their brother hated (sans the boss). Probably the most irresponsible coworker I've ever had (late to work, smelled like alcohol on the regular, rude to customers, etc). The reason the boss loved him was because he was 10 years his junior (33/23) and partied with him. We had to go to corporate to get the kid fired.

Hmmm that would actually make sense. I'm right below the boss, everyone reports to me. The boss was ready to fire him right before Christmas, but I stupidly said "that's too harsh around the holiday season." So he held off. Then he promoted him. My only other option would be to go directly to the corporate office...but it's bad enough that the other offices know how much of an idiot he is.
I'm definitely thinking now that he must know something...I know he doesn't party with the boss, but they have gone out for lunches with each other. Interesting.