how do you make yourself feel "good"?

lin7604

I have lost 15lbs so far and 3-4 sizes. I was not a real big person to begin with and i am short (5.2ft)... it's taken me 8 months to lose this weight and as happy as i am buying smaller sizes I still think of myself as a chubby person.. why? how long will it take me to be happy for my loss that i have achieved? It's like i needed validation from friends, etc to NOTICE my loss and say something to me in order for myself to start feeling better.... I know that is silly and i did this for me, not them but when no one notices or says anything .. maybe i don't look as slim as i seem to be now and i still have more to go?? am i crazy for thinking like this? how can i get over it and be happy?

SPNLuver83

fake it 'till u make it... that's what i'm doin.

AZKristi

You look lovely in your profile photo!

lin7604

thx.i was a size 9/10 sometimes a 11 and now i have been buying as small as a 2 and normally a 4-6 .. so i know i lost weight, it feels great to ask for a smaller size when i grab what i think will fit me and then it doesn't... BUT that's where it ends... i feel so insecure with my body not looking as good as it did before i put on the 20 lbs. It shows with my hubby, i never want him to see me... even yesterday i was at a water slide park with my 5 year old and i wore a bikini but i felt so insecure walking around like everyone was looking at me... i still feel like i am a size 11... i don't know if it also is b/c no one has said anything to me, so i feel " well if i feel i look like a size 11 then i must look it still".....

and spnluver83 if i looked as good as you, i would flaunt myself!

sophieclarev

Take a good pic of yourself that you are happy with at your weight NOW and look at it when the negativity sets in. Sounds like you are only remembering the old body and not really seeing the one you have just recreated. You look great, so a picture of that might remend you of that. Good luck

lin7604

thx. i don't even have many pics of me "before" to compare with as when ever there was a pic taken of me i deleted it! I had a good one from 2 summers ago but it's on my old computer and i can't seem to get it now.... but maybe that is what i need ot do and hopefully not find too much fault with my new picture.... I guess part of me really wishes other would notice and say something, it's more of a mental thing then anything..... it's not like i need their approval but it shows others notice or pay attention..