Okay,now compare this to my other PIC!(190 in a BIKINI)

SBlost

Some people on this program have their own issues with food and body image and may not be the best judges themselves. I am the same height and 20 pounds lighter than you but DO NOT LOOK THAT GOOD IN A BIKINI. You are VERY proportional, perfect hour glass figure, which is why you think you look good - because you do! I have said it before and will say it again, stay fabulous, work on this for your health only and NEVER let ANYONE criticize what you look like. Besides, we are ALL so much more than an image caught on camera. Attractiveness comes from the inside and shines out. It has to do with being confident, loving yourself, being a good person.....I know so many "skinny" girls who don't have those things, don't love themselves, and are not HALF as attractive as you are.

^^^^ Excellent!!

chunkydunk714

Theres just a way of going about it....you can have some class and still be honest without hurting someones feelings.

miamoe15

Hah! I loved this.

Brizoeller

I totally agree there is a way of going about it. But i also agree things don't always have to be sugarcoated. I would never tell someone in a thread they look fat. Just the same as i won't tell them they look tiny if they don't. I choose to not say anything. I am just tired of that whole mindset of "we are fat so you have to be nice to us and walk on egg shells for fear you may hurt our feelings." We all made ourselves overweight.

poshcouture

Just out of curiousity. How is this post a success story? just asking

you're right,it's not oops :laugh:

I beg to differ. This is SO a success story post! You took the chance by wearing a bikini and posting it on a public website w/ the possibility of being scrutinized from head to toe! I say kudos to you!!!!!!

Coyotemama

Bravo to you for wanting an honest opinion and being ready for it!

I know exactly how you feel because I've done the same thing. I tend to look in the mirror and think I look pretty good...but than see a picture and realize how overweight I am. :grumble: I've now began taking regular pictures as well as measurements so I can keep track of the reality of where I am rather than what the skinny person inside me keeps making me see. One day, I know I'll see that fit, healthy person in pictures as well and with some good hard work you will too.

meshashesha2012

And maybe many of us got here after our partners / friends / parents / selves told us we didn't need to lose weight and we were just fine, as we slowly gained.

This! Too many people being lied to for too long and/or lying to themselves. The Emperor has no clothes people!!!

i agree with this. a lot of people will lie to you about how good you look simply because if they admit that you look bad, you are overweight, you are unhealthy then what does that say about them if they are even bigger? many people will lie to others on the "how do i look?" question as a way to lie to themselves.

OP, like I said in the other thread. you know what you need to do. Just start doing it.

MisterGoodBar

Read thru the original post.

The gist: She posted a pic of herself at 190 and frankly, she looked pretty alright and definitely not 190. She asked for our opinions. Many were favorable so she said that clothing covers a myriad of faults. That's where she raised the ante and posted a pic with less clothing. I think she knows she has some work to do and just wants affirmation.

i agree with this, plus KarenMary21s post to cap it. alot of folks misconstrue the purpose and meaning of brutally honest. it doesnt mean you have to lack civility, compassion or most of all tact. such much hatred in these threads. you look great to me in the recent post and every1, like everything, always has room for improvement. keep trudging forward and dont look back, you'll get there sooner than you ever realized.

w2w, f*** the haters their like dead weight: take a deep breath, put their hate on your shoulders then drop'em b/c their nothing and a walk away.

sherri321

You are more gutsy than I am! (I might take the picture but not post it) Good for you!

danilee1020

I would definitely put you at 180-190, your legs are big, and I bet that a side view would show your stomach protrudes a bit. You are lucky to carry your weight well. You know what you are comfortable with and I think by asking, you know you need to lose weight. Right?

kairisika

Being honestly told that your body has excess fat is only insulting if you judge your self-worth by your body. Respect yourself whatever your weight, and treat your body like any other trait that benefits from improvement.

To the OP, the bikini photo demonstrates again that you have a great shape and carry your weight well (aesthetics aside, heavy thighs are not a big health risk like stomach fat), but you're definitely padded all over with excess fat, and would probably be much healthier keeping that shape in a smaller size.

kdhallison

Theres just a way of going about it....you can have some class and still be honest without hurting someones feelings.

Amen! That is what I think.

My comment was based on someone tell her she was a "compliment troll and they were glad she was not on their friends list." Maybe if everyone would have read the post above mine they would have understood what I was talking about.