Please, somebody tell me this is all worth it!

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  • binglebandit
    binglebandit Posts: 531 Member
    I don't know if this helps or not, but often when you see someone every day who is losing weight it can be kind of hard to bring up. If you see someone that has lost a lot of weight since you last saw them it can be kind of easier since you're supposed to talk about things that have changed. I've noticed several people who lost weight around me where I wasn't sure if I should mention it. Sometimes it can be a touchy subject. For example I lost a lot of weight in high school due to depression. For me it wasn't really a compliment to hear my health was being affected.

    I don't know a lot about your situation, if you've talked about it with these people or not. I'm sure they are happy for you though. If you brought it up yourself maybe they would know you are comfortable talking about it and compliment you.

    And of course, great job on all your hard work! :D
  • chrishengge
    chrishengge Posts: 10
    69lb! I can't wait to get there myself!

    Next time you are in that sort of situation and need a pick me up, just remember that you earned each and every pound lost, and it takes so much from yourself to do that.. Look around you, if it were easy, everyone would be at the ideal weight. Also keep in mind that the life changes you make to get you where you want are improving your over all health.

    A pill, or any quick-fix can never give you that.
  • nicholettebell
    nicholettebell Posts: 414
    You've said what I sometimes feel.
  • nene01pop
    nene01pop Posts: 80 Member
    Omgosh.... I have lost 60lbs in a course of 16 mths with lap band and help with mFP.. talk about frustrating and you did it in what 7 mths. my hubby just realized a week ago sunday how much weight I really had lost... I posted pictures of myself in my exercise chambers... he FINALLY noticed... I have been mad at him for months and he had NO CLUE.... anyways, You got to know everyday you wake up that you are DOING THIS FOR YOU... if not, and youre doing it for the so called women in the office to notice, then I would seek counseling.... don't stress it...
  • Csitri
    Csitri Posts: 132 Member
    Congratulations on your 69lbs of weight loss.

    Keep up the good work.

    Do your weight loss for yourself not anyone else. It was and sometimes still is hard for me to keep that in mind. But I know I want to be healthier.

    Friend me if you would like more support. We all can use all the support we can. :)
  • kmm7309
    kmm7309 Posts: 802 Member
    I'm sorry you feel badly! First, I wouldn't assume that the weight comes off easily when the thyroid is managed. There are many here who would disagree, and I vehemently disagree.

    True True True. I get my proper dose and still struggle with the symptoms of being hypo every day. And the weight loss isn't a cake walk either!

    I go through what you go through. I was so large when I started (269 pounds) and I'm still large (222). The people who know me now have never seen me below about 200. I imagine that when I get there, people will have eureka moments at my weight loss. If they don't, oh well. They don't right now- but I notice the difference. That's what counts.
  • jenf235
    jenf235 Posts: 157 Member
    I have been in the exact same place as you! It took one of my friends who IS supportive to make me realize that I am making a LIFE change...not just a weight change. Surround yourself with people who will support you and walk with you through this weight loss, healthy life change. And 69 pounds???? I think that is awesome! Your post is motivating me to keep on going!!! Keep up the great work!
  • eowyn61
    eowyn61 Posts: 3
    I don't know the people you do, so I'm going to address a few items here. They're all true, but may not all be applicable.

    This is not a race. Everyone's situation is different. We all got where we are by our own paths. Each situation has its own root cause, and each of us needs to address our own.

    That being said, who are you doing this for? If it's not for yourself, you need to find a way to make it so. Your success is not dependent on others. If it is, when others change, so will your level of success. Take ownership of your goals, your success and your own positive feelings!!

    The person who gave the positive feedback has a different perspective on their people. Everyone lives in a different environment than you. They do not see the world or others as you do. So.... it may be that this person is more sensitive to medical situation... or maybe they have some jealousy, even on a small level, of you.... or perhaps in their perspective you are not as "needy" as this other person... from your own description of yourself, this does sound very plausible.

    The point is, do this for yourself. You are worth it. Your health is worth it. I, as an outsider and a beginner am very encouraged by your success. And if you're like me, and need to be accountable to someone besides yourself, then find someone... either a partner that will hold you as accountable as they expect you to hold them, a Doctor (that's how I got on track), a pedometer... whatever you need. And be accountable for YOUR actions. YOUR situation is different. And I am VERY proud of you.

    Keep on keepin' on!!!
  • elisa123gal
    elisa123gal Posts: 4,333 Member
    It could be two things;

    Co-workers can suck. Leave people out on purpose and be very cliquish. Who cares about them? Move on and don't let them bother you and don't let them know they made you feel left out.

    You are very sensitive and reading more into it than what happened.

    Either or....toughen up...you've lost almost 70 pounds. You know that's great and you don't need anyone at work to give you permission to feel great about it.weight loss
  • eowyn61
    eowyn61 Posts: 3
    Right? 69 pounds... I'm at 15 pounds and still struggling. What's worth keeping is what you work for, right?
  • LokiOfAsgard
    LokiOfAsgard Posts: 378 Member
    First off. WOW!
    That's awesome!
    I can hardly comprehend 70 lbs in 7 months!
    Secondly, I think those girls just don't want to notice, because surely that much in that little amount of time is noticeable. I think one person above me said that it maybe because they want instant gratification. Which is probably true.
    And third, If I were you, I use use this as inspiration to KEEP GOING! Show them what hard work can do, because the other girl may have lost quite a bit, but she's not going to lose much more than that. YOU ARE! You're going all the way! And WITHOUT meds and WITHOUT any kind of sickness.
    Best of luck <3's!
  • Kalliejc
    Kalliejc Posts: 36
    Hi . I had a very difficult experience today. As you know I've been working at eating healthy and exercising for 7 months now, with a loss of 69 pounds. It took me a long time to actually start to feel a bit proud of my accomplishments.I am very private, but can accept a compliment.

    Today, 'Carla' came to see me at work. While 'Carla' was there.. Kendra arrived. Kendra has had a real problem with her thyroid over the last year or so and gained a considerable amount of weight . Over the past few months, drs. have resolved her issue with meds, and as a result she has lost a large amount of weight quickly... and, effortlessly.

    Carla was very surprised to see Kendra looking so well, HUGGED her and gushed on and on about how much weight Kendra lost... while I stood there.. meanwhile.. Carla has NEVER noticed that I have worked very, very hard to lose 69 pounds. Carla and Kendra continued to talk and I was left out of the conversation entirely.. as if, somehow I don't even understand what it's like to lose weight.

    Why oh why am I not worth a compliment?? I was wearing nice, flattering clothes (but I will admit they didn't show off my body as much as Kendra's did hers. What really bugs me is that Kendra admitted she didn't have to do a thing to lose the weight.. man, and here I am working away every single day and no one says a word. I know that being healthier is really just for me.. but admit it, if it happened to you, you'd want to explode a little too... gah!!

    So glad I have a place like this to let it out. So, my options now are: do something to drop weight more rapidly in hopes that someone will soon say something... give up because it's never going to work anyways, and not matter what I do no one will ever recognize my efforts, compliment, or encourage me..or, just press on and please myself.. I know the answer.. but I admit, I do need some encouragment today.

    I only read a few of the comments because they were annoying to me. I completely understand what you're saying. You're not stupid. You know you're doing it for yourself. But it still hurts when your hard work isn't noticed by others. Yes, of course you want to be healthy. But you also want to look good in that little black dress (or whatever it is). And that means that you want others to think you look good in that little black dress.

    Keep your head up. Try to revel in how YOU feel about yourself. I saw an ex boyfriend today from afar. I'm about 30 lbs heavier than I was then. My first thought was, "Oh my God, if he sees me he's going to think i'm such a fat cow. He'll be so relieved I broke up with him." then I caught myself. I thought, I've been working my *kitten* off for two weeks and I feel so good.......I can't wait until he sees me in four months.

    I think you need a boost of confidence. Go get your hair done. Get your nails done. Do it to make you feel better about yourself. Because that'll start permeating from you. Start treating yourself to things that make you feel good about yourself because then you'll start feeling DAMN good about yourself and people will start noticing. :)
  • eowyn61
    eowyn61 Posts: 3
    I would imagine that every one of us gets to this point. There are those times when the scale doesn't change, or it goes up even a few ounces.... [EEEEK!!!]

    But our bodies adjust. And we need to change a few things, maybe, so we "kick" our success back into gear.

    Just keep swimming! (Dory, Finding Nemo) Don't give in to the unhealthy ways, and don't think that a slip means failure!!! Even the Bunny Hop has one step back!! But it still makes progress...
  • marvelscale
    marvelscale Posts: 135
    Maybe she's jealous 'cause you're eating right and exercising. :laugh: But seriously, that's impressive, nice job :)
  • mzmartymar
    mzmartymar Posts: 1
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    Yes, it is worth it. I think everyone wants to look their best and get compliments but I think it's more important to get healthy. I was almost 400 lbs about 6 years ago but with the help of surgery I lost 100 pounds and I have lost another 75 over the years with 25 more pounds to go with the help of myfitnesspal. Don't give up, my goal was to lose 200 pounds and I got stuck for a couple of years but I am on fire now. Be encourged you can do anything you want, be blessed.
  • IriShaneM
    IriShaneM Posts: 2
    You already know the obvious answer here so I won't bombard you with it. Also to be frank I doubt I can connect with this story very well either. But you should know that I'm sure there are reasons as to why you weren't included. It could be personal rapport, you're weight loss was probably more gradual and less noticeable, I know people with thyroid problems and most of the excess tends to go around the neck area which is much more noticeable than a belly, perhaps you weren't as vocal about your weight loss as the other lady, but my number one guess would be that with Kendra it was a medical issue that she couldn't have helped that caused rapid noticeable weight fluctuations in her body. You and Kendra are in two completely different ball fields as far as weight loss is concerned. Also it seems like Carla knew Kendra before the weight gain which I'm sure also has something to do with it.

    Nothing that I've put is meant to say you didn't deserve a compliment, you really do, 69 lbs is a huge feat, but it is to try and make a case that it was nothing personal, well except my first reason listed. You should definitely be proud of your weight loss, and believe me it'll all be worth it when you hit your goal. i'm halfway to mine and I couldn't care less if someone passes me a compliment, don't get me wrong I'd be thrilled to get one from someone I know, but it's never something on my mind or anything I'm anticipating. Maybe it's a guy thing? *shrugs*

    So congrats Gwenski on the first 69 and cheers to the next 26!

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