Me Venting

LastTime97

During our relationship I've been as low as 120 and as high as 130 lately. At 126 I'm heavy and look so. I weighed in at 127.8 this morning. My boyfriend was talking about christmas and my birthday... what presents he wanted to get me and they involved clothes. Not only did I feel like he was critiquing what I wear but what I look like. I said if I lose the weight and get to 118 before christmas you can buy me whatever you want. I was smiling and trying to remain positive. Really trying not to show the sadness and fear inside of me. To me it was sort of a motivation. He apparently didn't see it that way. He said "You won't. You just ate Steak N Shake, and the other night you ate ice cream. You eat late like you said you didn't want to. If your going to lose it you should probably try." He has these habits and is the reason I have them. When he left the room I cried... allot. I knew he noticed but to have him point it out. It broke my heart.

tmauck4472

You have to want to do this for you....not for him. And he expects you to do this on your own with him still doing what he wants. So don't makes excuses for yourself any more. When he wants to go to Steak and Shake tell him no or go but find something that you can eat. I've never been there so I don't know what they have. But I'm telling you, the best thing I ever did was give up fast food. I don't even crave it anymore. You've got to want this.

LastTime97

Yea I know. I think this might have put me back in that mindset of you can't eat what you want all the time. I say that hes the reason I have these habits because just living in this house with a few guys has kind of screwed me up but I'm getting better and sticking to my guns. Thanks for your advice!

postrockandcats

It might hurt, but a little "tough love" can be a good thing. Granted, it sounds like the phrasing and timing were utter crap, but try to eventually see what he was trying to say: "you won't get where you want to be by continuing bad habits." Which, as you'll admit, is true.

Look at it this way. You can still have steak and shake, but why not some chicken instead of a double with fries? Or a single without cheese and a side salad? Sometimes, it's not an utter departure from the foods you love, but small changes here and there. You can do this

WickedPixie1

It's easy to have your little cheats in with all the healthy stuff. I find if I give up some of the naughty foods, I will fail on an epic scale. If I account for some cheats every day or every few days, it's not so bad, there are no off limits food.
All things in moderation.

Bevigal

Don't let ANYONE bring you down! I did not quit fast food...but I cut way back...only once a week and what ever I buy I cut it in half. I have found for me if you deny yourself every little thing you will eventually go off the wagon so to speak. I stopped worrying all the time about what I ate. I wanted to learn to eat normal food like everyone else and I have found portion control is the key. FORBIDDEN FRUIT is the sweetest! a lot of these diets are so strict and when you get off them and start eating regular food you end up right back where you started and most of the time you put on even more weight. I learned not to be embarrassed to ask for a go box. Most restaurants give you way too much food anyway. I eat so much healthier now and I feel so much better. I have lost 134 pounds using portion control. Good Luck !!!