How would u react?

Establishedn1986
Establishedn1986 Posts: 306 Member
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Scenario: You are dating someone and say 2 months in they tell you they are going out of town for a few weeks to handle some unfinished business. Unfinished business being an ex... Would you A: go off on them and let them know you don't want this. Or B: say it is no big deal and you will be here when they return? Keep in mind You two are dating but not commited.

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  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    What does "unfinished business" mean? Settling paperwork? One last schtup for the road?
  • CoderGal
    CoderGal Posts: 6,800 Member
    What does "unfinished business" mean? Settling paperwork? One last schtup for the road?
    ^this. I'd basically say...What does that mean?
  • cobracars
    cobracars Posts: 949 Member
    What the significant other does or doesn't do is no reflection on me. They will stay with me because they want to be with me, not because I'll get mad if they don't.
  • AlotOfSweatAndPain
    AlotOfSweatAndPain Posts: 234 Member
    A few weeks? LOL, dude is definitely handling business alright. If my girl told me that I'd tell her to stay her *kitten* there.
  • thedancingleper
    thedancingleper Posts: 158 Member
    I would not react well... 2 months is excessive.
  • monicalosesweight
    monicalosesweight Posts: 1,173 Member
    Unfinished business? Are you talking signing divorce papers? Do they share a child? I think it depends on what the business is as to what he's up to. Is he trustworthy? If you've had problems while dating him than maybe you need to find a new guy. There's not enough detail here to really answer your question.

    To me - if the unfinished business involved a marriage dissolving - well, I wouldn't be dating him at that point.

    If the unfinished business can't be explained and he won't explain it - well - you might be better off ending it and moving on. Guys who aren't upfront are just not worth the hassle and may be cheating. Honesty is critical in any relationship. Heck, just the fact that it's two weeks makes you wonder. Is it two weeks because he's visiting family that lives in the same town?
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    Why does this business take weeks?

    SUSPICIOUS.
  • nwhitley
    nwhitley Posts: 619
    Why does this business take weeks?

    SUSPICIOUS.
  • Establishedn1986
    Establishedn1986 Posts: 306 Member
    Unfinished business? Are you talking signing divorce papers? Do they share a child? I think it depends on what the business is as to what he's up to. Is he trustworthy? If you've had problems while dating him than maybe you need to find a new guy. There's not enough detail here to really answer your question.

    To me - if the unfinished business involved a marriage dissolving - well, I wouldn't be dating him at that point.

    If the unfinished business can't be explained and he won't explain it - well - you might be better off ending it and moving on. Guys who aren't upfront are just not worth the hassle and may be cheating. Honesty is critical in any relationship. Heck, just the fact that it's two weeks makes you wonder. Is it two weeks because he's visiting family that lives in the same town?
    This is not my personal situation. Watching a movie and this happened. Judt wanted to know how others would react.
  • SouthernSweetie74
    SouthernSweetie74 Posts: 844
    Dating but not committed? Not my business. I would leave it alone. We don't have a committment to one another. He doesn't have to answer to me, and I don't have to answer to him.

    Dating exclusively for two months and we've both made some sort of committment to see if we actually can form a relationship? Different story. I would ask for maybe an explanation or details. It would depend upon his reaction/response as to how I would feel. My reaction? If I'm not happy with his response, I'm sure that I would probably just break things off. Probably would not "go off".
  • Establishedn1986
    Establishedn1986 Posts: 306 Member
    And... The woman has unfinished business not the guy. Is she more trustworthy?
  • SouthernSweetie74
    SouthernSweetie74 Posts: 844
    And... The woman has unfinished business not the guy. Is she more trustworthy?

    No. Women lie and cheat, too.
  • Establishedn1986
    Establishedn1986 Posts: 306 Member
    A few weeks? LOL, dude is definitely handling business alright. If my girl told me that I'd tell her to stay her *kitten* there.
    I would do the same!
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    Unfinished business? Are you talking signing divorce papers? Do they share a child? I think it depends on what the business is as to what he's up to. Is he trustworthy? If you've had problems while dating him than maybe you need to find a new guy. There's not enough detail here to really answer your question.

    To me - if the unfinished business involved a marriage dissolving - well, I wouldn't be dating him at that point.

    If the unfinished business can't be explained and he won't explain it - well - you might be better off ending it and moving on. Guys who aren't upfront are just not worth the hassle and may be cheating. Honesty is critical in any relationship. Heck, just the fact that it's two weeks makes you wonder. Is it two weeks because he's visiting family that lives in the same town?
    This is not my personal situation. Watching a movie and this happened. Judt wanted to know how others would react.

    I am curious as to what movie it is! Later will you tell us which movie it is?
  • MzBug
    MzBug Posts: 2,173 Member
    I would say bye bye and have fun! Only 2 months dating does not make a relationship. Always beware potential SO's that have "baggage".
  • Establishedn1986
    Establishedn1986 Posts: 306 Member
    I am curious as to what movie it is! Later will you tell us which movie it is?
    [/quote]
    The movie is Love Jones
  • Karrix
    Karrix Posts: 288
    I wouldn't be interested in someone who has unfinished business with their ex. :smile:
  • moreno89
    moreno89 Posts: 210 Member
    unfinished business as in one last F*** OR unfinished business as in murdering her lol what can that mean??? do they have children or something? it seems pointless
  • moreno89
    moreno89 Posts: 210 Member
    a movie?? why don't yOu just watch it and see what happens WTF??
  • Establishedn1986
    Establishedn1986 Posts: 306 Member
    a movie?? why don't yOu just watch it and see what happens WTF??
    I did watch the movie. The question was to see how other people would react if this situation happened to them. It has happened to others I'm sure. If you didn't want to answer you could have kept it moving no need for the WTF comment!
  • Irish_eyes75
    Irish_eyes75 Posts: 475
    I'd say "bye bye" and move on.
  • gsager
    gsager Posts: 977 Member
    Scenario: You are dating someone and say 2 months in they tell you they are going out of town for a few weeks to handle some unfinished business. Unfinished business being an ex... Would you A: go off on them and let them know you don't want this. Or B: say it is no big deal and you will be here when they return? Keep in mind You two are dating but not commited.

    Then I think it's not your business. It was considerate of him to let you no what was going on, instead of lying.
  • fleur_de_lis19
    fleur_de_lis19 Posts: 926 Member
    A few weeks? LOL, dude is definitely handling business alright. If my girl told me that I'd tell her to stay her *kitten* there.

    Unless its paper work that he was going there to take care of (which in that case, doesnt take a few weeks, a couple days maybe) I say the same thing. I dont play games.
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,454 Member
    It's a movie. Who pulls this in real life and gets away with it?
  • ShaunaLaNee
    ShaunaLaNee Posts: 188 Member
    I would move on, he isn't ready to commit to a new relationship. If his heart is still somewhere else, how can he give it to you? If that is happening before the relationship is even serious, it would get worse.
  • mminor77
    mminor77 Posts: 313
    A few weeks? LOL, dude is definitely handling business alright. If my girl told me that I'd tell her to stay her *kitten* there.

    ^^^THIS!
  • ohmykai
    ohmykai Posts: 210 Member
    My first thought? A "Few weeks" is an awfully long time to handle unfinished business with an ex... What the heck does it include would be my question!
  • peles_fire
    peles_fire Posts: 501
    I would tell him to go and take all the time he needs. Then I would tell him that if he is lucky, I may be available when he gets back. Then I'd go out there and keep on kissing frogs.
  • Anastasia0511
    Anastasia0511 Posts: 372 Member
    Scenario: You are dating someone and say 2 months in they tell you they are going out of town for a few weeks to handle some unfinished business. Unfinished business being an ex... Would you A: go off on them and let them know you don't want this. Or B: say it is no big deal and you will be here when they return? Keep in mind You two are dating but not commited.
    Do yourself a favor, find a new guy. He should of had his business finished before he got out into the dating world again. I wouldn't be pissed at him at all, instead ask if he has any cute single friends that have already gone and finished their business. Life is to short to deal with that *kitten* after two months into a relationship. Two months is 60 days, that's a long time to spend with a person and enough time to tell if you like them or not and if it's worth it or not, but the fact that they're even wanting to go out of town and do this proves they're not over the ex and you are probably a rebound. Two months and they're still thinking of someone else? The guy ought to get himself off the market until he's figured *kitten* out. I wouldn't hate on him or get mad, I'd just tell him no thanks and to have a nice trip lol and to get me a present for effing me over like that haha. "I dated this guy and all I got was this lousy t-shirt" seems pretty fitting right about now lol.

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