Need advice? ruining my spirit!

AJ_Pete

The advice needed was if i should be nervous about the other girls not if he was worth my time. some girls can be persuasive into promising a man things to get him. My spirit is ruined worrying abt these other girls. not abt if it will last with him.

From the sound of your responses, you've already made up your mind. Funny because the title of your post was about your spirit being ruined. You either confront him with your feelings or you lay in the bed you made because you sound like you're going to hold his ankles and drag behind him as he's walking out the door.

No person cannot manipulate another without the other person consenting to some degree. So, no... don't be nervous about the other girls in that sense. If they 'manipulate' him, it's because he allowed it to happen.

Just like if most of the viewpoints on here are true and he's manipulating you by saying that he loves you for the first time, but he wants to get to know other girls. You're allowing it because you want to believe that his love is true. I'm not saying it isn't... I'm just saying that from the outside it seems that way.

Also, people will only ruin your spirit if you allow them to. No one holds that much power unless you give it to them.

takingnameskickingbutt

There are four kinds of I love you with a relationship

1. The carnal I love you
2. The true I love you said sober
3. The I love you drunk
4. The I love you, but ....

I think it has been pretty well-demonstrated that he said I love you, but ____.

ToyaDianta

Honestly, it sounds to me like he wants to see other people but said 'I love you' only to keep you on a leash, just in case.

There's nothing wrong with being friends with the opposite sex, at all. However... he was acting funny, said he wants to get to know these other girls and I love you (FOR THE FIRST TIME) all in the same convo. Smells fishy to me, but that's just me and I don't know your situation fully.

Good luck.

^^^AGREE

KeriW626

im the same which is why i think it will be okay for the most part. i get along better with men. i just dnt want a girl to manipulate him and end up using him for money or his generous nature.

Wow, you just took ALL resoncability for HIS actions away. I suppose if he does sleep with one of them (or already has) It will be the fault of the female for begile him and he will not be resonable for where his penis goes. I will be the girls fault. She will have stolen him from you, by manipulation.. You have given him an out for taking actions, which he makes. His penis is not going to be tricked into some womans crotch...

Can we say DENIAL??? wow, I really hope things work out for the best for you.

Savemyshannon

The advice needed was if i should be nervous about the other girls not if he was worth my time. some girls can be persuasive into promising a man things to get him. My spirit is ruined worrying abt these other girls. not abt if it will last with him.

From the sound of your responses, you've already made up your mind. Funny because the title of your post was about your spirit being ruined. You either confront him with your feelings or you lay in the bed you made because you sound like you're going to hold his ankles and drag behind him as he's walking out the door.

No man who loves you is going to be able to be talked into doing anything. If a girl makes a pass at him and he accepts, he doesn't respect or love you, end of story. This isn't a fairy tale, there are no evil witches and magic love spells that will steal your prince away. A relationship is just two adults treating each other with love and respect, and if he doesn't give that to you then move on.

lala40217

ahhhh youth....

stagknight

Do not let yourself be the fall back mattress. The I love you was him positioning you for a soft landing if he makes a play for other women and gets knocked back. If you want it bluntly, don't be the weekend garage for him to park his penis in. Sounds too much like he wants to make sure he has rented a new garage before he gives you the "Sorry but I don't think you and I are right for each other." line. I see it too often sweetie, it's a standard script that a lot of us men use.