Needing help

bleedingdreamer

I need help last year this time I was 163. Now I am 212. Saying I dropped the ball is an understatement. I really don't have anyone to talk to.... don't want to remind my husband what a fat wife he now has. So I am looking for a place to find people who can relate and help support me and encourage me.

AmandaB4588

You have come to the right place, then!! Most people here have also dropped the ball. I just joined and have found a lot of great tips and people already. Good luck on your journey!

danarochelle

Hi there! Welcome to MFP! You will find this site extremely helpful and fun! Don't be too down on yourself, you can get that extra weight off! Think positive! Mine is coming off slowly but I keep thinking how good I'm going to look by March, ya know. That's how you have to look at it!

Anything you need, we're here for ya! Good luck!

TuscanySun

First, you're at the right place. MFP is a great place to find the support and encouragement and knowlege you need to make a healthier lifestyle for yourself.

Second, dont waste time beating yourself up for past mistakes. Acknowlege that you did fall, its over and you are starting fresh. Beating yourself up and calling yourself names (ie..."fat wife") is counter productive and gets you no where but at the fridge to comfort yourself....I know...I've been there.

Start by taking one day, or even one hour, at a time and strive to make healthy choices with food and activity. Each small step you make leads up to bigger victories. Own your victories..no matter how small.

Dont lose hope...think positively.

Good luck on your journey!!

savvystephy

Welcome to MFP! Think of it this way, if you stick with it, this time next year you'll be back at a happy weight! :flowerforyou: Don't get discouraged and keep on trying hard every day.

kimberjones

Welcome to MFP. This site has been extremely helpful to me. The one thing I can tell you is to not try to lose weight for your husband. You have to want to do it for yourself. If you make these changes in your life it will help you. Yes, it will also (probably) make you more attractive - although some men don't care - but if you're doing it for someone else their approval and their praise will be your motivation and if/when that stops you'll lose heart and end up back in the same place again. I happen to have a fabulous husband and he has told me I was beautiful even when I was at my heaviest weight in the 280s. It's hard for him to realize I'm losing weight because he's with me every day so he's not very vocal about it. He does realize it and is proud of me but my reasons for doing this are not about him.

This is a wonderful site full of wonderfully encouraging people. You can do it. It's going to be one day at a time, one breath at a time. If the weight were to magically disappear (as I've prayed sooooo many times) you wouldn't have changed your habits and the weight would come right back. This site helps you lose it the right way by making the right changes and the weight will stay off.

Don't lose heart. You have wonderful knowledge available to you through MFP and wonderful people to cheer you along!

You CAN do this...
:flowerforyou:

NWCountryGal

Hi darlin, I know even my extra 25 or so makes me feel like doo:( I am starting over now because I gained back not just the 10 I lost last year at this time, but gained 6 more pounds. MFP is such a miraculous little site. I think that the very best parts are first, the food diary. Keeping track of what I eat was a real eye-opener. Then the forums where there is always someone to talk to. I know what it is like to feel alone but you really aren't. The other thing that really helped me lose that 10 lbs was water, good, ole, free water!! One of my best friends here lost like 200 some lbs. She taught me to drink water, get in the habit. In fact, she drank half her weight in water each day! I am good if I get the 8 glasses down. An easy way for me to do that is I have this big, plastic cup. No top on it so it is a little clumsy, but, I fill that in the a.m. and when I finish the first glass, I have drank 32 ounces already! Just 2 of those a day. Then I get used to drinking it and all I want when I am thirsty is water.

Keep posting and talking to folks honey, you will make it!!! Denise in Sams Valley OR

haley4tn

Welcome to MFP, a wonderful place for support :flowerforyou:

NotSurprised

Hello BleedingDreamer, That happens to us all in some form or the other. Atleast its something we can reverse. Remember it is just a number and half the people on MyFitnessPal have the same goal of losing the same amount of weight its average really. I myself have 63 pounds to lose time goes by pretty fast will both be there soon enough with dedication you can achieve anything you set your mind to.

Silver_Dream

You chose a good site, good luck! You CAN do this!

RhondieJFB

Hello, Welcome to MFP. We are all human and all fall. Don't put yourself down. Now is the time for you to think positive. You can do this...you CAN...this site is very helpful to see what it is your actually eating and how much of it. There are so many supportive people here and us, just like you are struggling. Yes.. true.. some have less weight to loose, but none the less it's hard no matter how much your struggling with. We can not compare ourselves to others. We have to compete with ourselves and only ourselves. You can start by making small changes that will become habits for you such as drinking more water. Eating fruit instead of candy. Bringing a bag lunch instead of ordering out. Be sure to have healthy snacks, at work, in the car, in the cubbord ready to go so if you have the desire your not stopping at the closest 7 - 11. If you don't go to the gym, try to get out and walk even 20 min. if that's all the time you have.. every little bit counts...make it enjoyable.. put on your head phones and play your favorite music. We are all here for you if you need us. You are beautiful and strong and your going to make it for YOU. I'm proud of you.. you signed up here didn't you? Well that's one step...now just keep putting one foot in front of the other. If you fall...so what...we all do.... just get back on that fruit wagon as soon as you notice. Keep us posted on your progress, get moving and have fun. Talk with you soon.. Rhonda

BrendaLee

I'm sure your hubby knows he has more than just a fat wife...I'm sure you're an awesome wife! (and he knows how big you are whether you tell him or not )

MFP is a great place to be if you want to lose weight- the support you'll get here is invaluable.

littlecompton

I know this is an old post but had to respond. I get the feeling you feel guilty for giving your husband a big wife. I feel that way so often! I feel like it's unfair to my husband that I was normal sized when we met, and now I'm huge and he didn't get any say in the matter. But I realize that many times it is my own guilt and shame talking - not my husband. We love our husbands despite their imperfections too.

And the bonus is that when we DO get to our target weight it will be like being newlyweds again, don't you think?

Hang in there.
Kim