discouraged, run down and wondering why

sammniamii

It took off great, but suddenly ... blarg. All of my RL friends have no time to even return txt's or FB posts, the few gym goer's suddenly don't want to go, hubby has been trying to control what I eat but sits there eatting crap in front of me and yells when I have something "not healthly", then add old & new injuries ( which = pain ) I really seem to have lost the will to continue the weight loss.

The pain is the worse, I think, but the fact that suddenly I find myself basically alone - everyone is working, school, ect and even though I have helped them w/ anything they've asked of me and more (I always feel driven to help the few people I call friends - it takes a good bit to trust someone enough to call then that).... I feel suddenly (and suddenly as in 3-4 weeks now)like no one soul wants me around.

Blarg.... I don't know, honestly... all this effort just weighs me down more than I can handle myself and with no one even willing to chat, I keep asking why? Yes, it's supported to be for myself - but if I couldn't care if I kept drawing breath, why bother?

Blarg, it's probably the increase in pain dragging me down, which means I can't hit the gym as I want, which just railroads me as I try to cut food back, but then that messes with my chemistry which makes me hungry!

Oh well, rant over - this will probably get lost in the threads just like most of my threads. Once again a waste of internet :P

leambi

Sorry to hear that you are feeling so discouraged at the moment. I think i can honestly say that everyone has days/weeks like this, for me i am having a bad week also. The main thing to remember is that you are doing this for yourself. I think that if people arent going through something like trying to shift weight like us on this site then they dont really understand how hard it can be and dont really appreciate the effort that we all put in.

Try not to let everoyne get you down, remember that you are important to yourself and to us on this site and if needs be, take a step back from it and treat yourself, maybe just spending one evening treating yourself to a soak in the tub and a face pack or a glass of wine and a good book. Hope you feel better soon x

WarriorCupcakeBlydnsr

It took off great, but suddenly ... blarg. All of my RL friends have no time to even return txt's or FB posts, the few gym goer's suddenly don't want to go, hubby has been trying to control what I eat but sits there eatting crap in front of me and yells when I have something "not healthly", then add old & new injuries ( which = pain ) I really seem to have lost the will to continue the weight loss.

The pain is the worse, I think, but the fact that suddenly I find myself basically alone - everyone is working, school, ect and even though I have helped them w/ anything they've asked of me and more (I always feel driven to help the few people I call friends - it takes a good bit to trust someone enough to call then that).... I feel suddenly (and suddenly as in 3-4 weeks now)like no one soul wants me around.

Blarg.... I don't know, honestly... all this effort just weighs me down more than I can handle myself and with no one even willing to chat, I keep asking why? Yes, it's supported to be for myself - but if I couldn't care if I kept drawing breath, why bother?

Blarg, it's probably the increase in pain dragging me down, which means I can't hit the gym as I want, which just railroads me as I try to cut food back, but then that messes with my chemistry which makes me hungry!

Oh well, rant over - this will probably get lost in the threads just like most of my threads. Once again a waste of internet :P

Take a breath, ....you are upset, I can't blame you for being upset, that's a lot going on! Tell hubby he can't criticize your food as long as he's sitting there eating exactly what he's telling you not to... Friends ebb and flow (I am also the type that has the friends that only want me around when they need something from me, trust me I am learning to look elsewhere for friends and distancing myself from some of these friends)
I'm leaning towards your pain being both physical and emotional, so for the physical, get yourself to the doctor to get treated for the cause and ask the doc if there is any exercise you can do in the meantime. For the emotional side of it, leambi has the right idea, take a step back, treat yourself to somethings that relax you, take some time to refocus.
You're gonna be okay, and if you'd like, you're welcome to friend me on MFP

Corryn78

Before having surgery, I was in pain for years and can totally relate. When you're in constant discomfort like that, it seems to take the joy out of everything. Try and not take others busy schedules personally. Feel better

Bailey543

So sorry to hear this. What blows my mind is that you say your husband yells at you for eating things?? That's not ok. I think you need to have a heart to heart with him.

Keep your chin up and good luck

kittyhug1986

Dont give up! You are doing this for you and you can do it. I know I feel the same way myself as my husband asks me if I should eat that while he is eating a bag of cheetos, so I understand the frustration. You have done GREAT so far! Keep going. You can do it. Everyone has their bad moments where they feel like all their hard effort is all for naught, but you must fight to overcome that feeling, because in the end it is what you want that is important.

ravenlaramie

It's hard sometimes to pull yourself together when you don't have the proper support. Believe me, I know! I also know that even sometimes when we say it's for us, it's for other reasons as well. I would say take a step back, give your friends a little bit of time (They might have a lot on their plate too) and, as stated above, take some time for yourself.

We all get discouraged... believe me... but it makes us stronger when we fight through it. You can do it, you just have to stay strong. And we're all here for you.

sarahrbraun

I understand where you are coming from. I really do.

Back in February when I started my weight loss journey, I had several friends who also had Y memberships, and we texted constantly trying to meet up at the Y and run together...then my one friend had stuff come up and I was lucky if she made it once a week. I thought about quitting...then I realized that if I quit, I GAVE them the power to keep me fat. I didn't want to give her the power, so I kept going...and going...and going. My friend hasn't lost a pound in 7 months, but I have lost 25lbs!! I have had other people in the fitness area take notice--including the cute, 20 -something personal trainer ( I was "late" the other day, and he mentioned it!). I am saving up to hire him after school starts.

I am married and have 3 kids...the kids ALWAYS want fast food, but I manage to say no most of the time. Hubby is the KING of snacks--chips,cookies, nuts, toasted bagels dripping with butter...all the things I shouldn't eat much of. What I have tried to do is make sure that I buy things that are *safe* snacks for me. Hubby cracked me up when he saw me eating my wheat thins with laughing cow and olives one night--and decided it looked better than HIS snack Do his chips look good sometimes? heck yeah! but I try to make sure that I can have A handful, or A bite of his bagel/toast so I am not always denying myself something. I have also looked him dead in the face and TOLD him " I am grown. You are NOT the diet police unless I ask you to be"

googs23

Don't give up! Losing weight the proper way is very hard and requires full determination and self discipline. I have lost 52 pounds since I decided too change my life and even though I have days that I feel that I can't go on..I remember how much better I feel and how it is all worth it. There is an acceptance I think all people who decided to lose weight have to make. You will have to eat a lot better and there will be days when you want to consume more calories than this website suggests..just don't. You body is responding and wants you to eat more so it doesn't lose the weight. I can understand where you are coming from with the pain because I hurt my back several times growing up and have done damage. Exercise is the only thing that keeps the pain away and as a Paramedic, it gives me another reason to stay motivated.
I think we all have the same story when it comes to our friends joining the gym with us and then not going anymore. Most people have this week where they feel motivated to change their life and then get lazy again. It is a very common story. You do not need your friends to go to the gym and I always felt that they actually slowed my workout down than making it better. I had about 6 friends join the gym at the same time as me, and I am the only one left standing. You can never expect anyone to support and as sad as it sounds, its very true. We are on our own most of the time so make the commitment and stick with.
Losing weight is not a fun journey whatsoever but trust me when I say it is soooo worth it!
Good luck and Best wishes.

sweetgeek793

Hi sorry you feel sad at the moment life's a whole bunch of ups and downs but you will have good times ahead too,.

I feel the same with some friends at the moment I guess its just an age thing in that I had my kids young there ten and 12 now and my pals all have younger preschoolers and so I have just gone back to work and feel were not as close as we were but I hope that in keeping in touch we will find our paths cross again.

I go to the gym on my own used to try and get friends to go but its easier to just go when its convenient for me then I don't get grief as before I had to call round and pick people up first
and husbands are useless sometimes maybe he's got a bit of conflict going on as he wants you to look healthy but he's maybe worried that if your looking hot you might attract attention, maybe tell him you love him and have a chat with him about it !

I'm trying not to spend too much time these days doing all the running with friends and some family do what makes you happy and then you will meet people with similar interests. Feel free to add me if you want some support x

sweetgeek793

your saving up to hire the cute 20 something personal trainer for when the kids are at school, woohoo lol!!

I understand where you are coming from. I really do.

Back in February when I started my weight loss journey, I had several friends who also had Y memberships, and we texted constantly trying to meet up at the Y and run together...then my one friend had stuff come up and I was lucky if she made it once a week. I thought about quitting...then I realized that if I quit, I GAVE them the power to keep me fat. I didn't want to give her the power, so I kept going...and going...and going. My friend hasn't lost a pound in 7 months, but I have lost 25lbs!! I have had other people in the fitness area take notice--including the cute, 20 -something personal trainer ( I was "late" the other day, and he mentioned it!). I am saving up to hire him after school starts.

I am married and have 3 kids...the kids ALWAYS want fast food, but I manage to say no most of the time. Hubby is the KING of snacks--chips,cookies, nuts, toasted bagels dripping with butter...all the things I shouldn't eat much of. What I have tried to do is make sure that I buy things that are *safe* snacks for me. Hubby cracked me up when he saw me eating my wheat thins with laughing cow and olives one night--and decided it looked better than HIS snack Do his chips look good sometimes? heck yeah! but I try to make sure that I can have A handful, or A bite of his bagel/toast so I am not always denying myself something. I have also looked him dead in the face and TOLD him " I am grown. You are NOT the diet police unless I ask you to be"