workplace romance

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  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    I know several couples who have met at work. It's possible. Just be smart about it.
  • WickedGarden
    WickedGarden Posts: 944 Member
    I worked at a place where a supervisor (married) got it on with the owner (married), carried on an affair for over 2 years.

    both of their spouses found out, one committed suicide and the other divorced, took full ownership of the company and fired both their *kitten*.

    I guess those two are happy with each other now...
  • InvidiaXII
    InvidiaXII Posts: 315 Member
    What's that charming phrase? Don't eat where you sh**. Lol >_< A nasty saying for a potentially nasty situation. I personally wouldn't want to risk it ending badly and having to see the person everyday. Bleh! Then again, there's this really cute guy in my office...
  • kaylaandthestarcatcher
    kaylaandthestarcatcher Posts: 836
    I work in theatre (although it is not the job I am currently being paid for, it will eventually be my career) and showmances happen. They're basically expected. When you're spending that much time with people and becoming emotionally connected to them, it's hard for it to not happen. Some directors don't like it, but there isn't much they can really do. I think that as long as the people are mature about it and realize that even if it doesn't work out, they still have to get along for at least a few hours a night, then it isn't too much of a big deal. It also helps that plays and musicals don't go on forever, so once it's over, the two people can be free of each other until they're stuck in the same show again.

    Of course, as a stage manager, I was briefly involved with an actor, which I think is a little bit more of a big deal than two actors together, but we were always very professional during rehearsals and performances. And when we were no longer involved, it was still fine.

    Theatre is a completely different world than the regular professional business world, though. But it is my workplace, so.
  • LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo
    LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo Posts: 3,634 Member
    To be honest, I find it unhealthy especially if the couple ended up in unsuccessful relationship. I've been there many times & after I broke up with a co-worker, everything turned sour. Sure we know how to differentiate between work & personal interactions but when things get rough it will eventually fail no matter how much you tried to be civil.
  • bennysammysofie
    bennysammysofie Posts: 331
    I met my wife at our work. She hated me at first but my extreme charm (farting, cursing, horrible wardrobe, etc) really made her realize I was the one for her! :) Still married...going on 10 years and 3 kids. We DONT work together anymore though :)
  • skintimate32
    skintimate32 Posts: 28
    Don't date classmates, don't date coworkers. Freaking too much drama even for innocent bystanders.

    If not at school or work, where do you think most people find someone?? I understand the coworker thing, but I think classmates are different. Classes only last like a semester and then you don't have to see that person everyday if you dont want to anymore.
  • smiley245
    smiley245 Posts: 420 Member
    How much do you like your job ATM?
    If you plan on being there foreever...tread lightly, If it does not work out you still have to see them every day.
    If you don't foresee this being your life long career .....have fun, ang go for it. You only live once right? some pretty hot co-workers out there...
  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
    It's not the ideal place to meet someone. I'd only date someone I worked with if I was really into them and saw it working long term. It would have to be more than an infactuation.
  • riddellr
    riddellr Posts: 23
    I always tell people to "never dip their pen in company ink". Too messy.
  • Tony_Brewski
    Tony_Brewski Posts: 1,376 Member
    About as smart as running with scissors.
  • hbrittingham
    hbrittingham Posts: 2,518 Member
    My husband and I worked together when we met 22 years ago. We have been married 20 years. There were no rules against coworkers dating at that job.
  • LilMissSunshine_
    LilMissSunshine_ Posts: 520
    I dated my boss' son whom I also worked with. Don't do it. Leads to trouble.
  • Darkskinned88
    Darkskinned88 Posts: 1,177 Member
    i have flirtationships, it helps the day fly by and gives me an extra reason to get up in the morning. However, im still a very private person so i try to keep them as discreet as possible
  • _Elemenopee_
    _Elemenopee_ Posts: 2,665 Member
    From previous personal experience....BAD IDEA. BAD
  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,749 Member
    NEVER crap where you eat. Period.

    If it all goes to hell in a hand basket it is going to make for a very awkward work situation later.
  • iLoveMyPitbull1225
    iLoveMyPitbull1225 Posts: 1,690 Member
    As someone who has been there it is 100% inappropriate, unprofessional, and frankly looks really bad.
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
    bad idea. If things go great then great, but I think about the number of men I dated before I settled into hubs and the odds would be against it working out well. And then I think about how those ended and the odds are pretty good that the end is pretty nasty . . . I would not ever ever ever want to work with some of the people I dated. I only advocate the initiation of a workplace romance on the last day of one of the two people's emplyment.
  • LifeOnMars_
    LifeOnMars_ Posts: 720 Member
    Met my husband at work :D
  • LifeOnMars_
    LifeOnMars_ Posts: 720 Member
    I dated my boss' son whom I also worked with. Don't do it. Leads to trouble.

    teeheehee
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    Don't get your meat where you get your bread.
  • runnerjenn0708
    runnerjenn0708 Posts: 400 Member
    HR Director over here ... Bad question for me :huh:
  • jshort152
    jshort152 Posts: 80
    AGREE!
  • 2muchsauce
    2muchsauce Posts: 1,078
    If it ends...........it's guaranteed to end badly!
  • collinj8
    collinj8 Posts: 98 Member
    Never get your Honey where you get your money.

    edit for being an id10t
  • Darkskinned88
    Darkskinned88 Posts: 1,177 Member
    Don't get your meat where you get your bread.

    I want this on a shirt.
  • somesuchsayer
    somesuchsayer Posts: 20
    Well...she stayed over at my place a couple times, I got bored. She wasn't as bored. We still had to see each other at work at least 3 or 4 days a week sometimes 2 if our schedule didn't intersect. Let me just tell you it was awkward...
  • somesuchsayer
    somesuchsayer Posts: 20
    Don't get your meat where you get your bread.

    I want this on a shirt.

    ^Lol me too
  • sheila569
    sheila569 Posts: 269 Member
    i have flirtationships, it helps the day fly by and gives me an extra reason to get up in the morning. However, im still a very private person so i try to keep them as discreet as possible

    I am totally stealing the phrase "flirtationships" :drinker: :drinker:
  • hiddensmiles21
    hiddensmiles21 Posts: 91
    I meet my boyfriend of 3 years at work [he was a cook, I was a waitress] We dated for over 6 months without anyone knowing. By the time people started to find out about us I was switching jobs anyway. He still works there, I do not. We would not have lasted this long if we still both worked there. Way too much drama and other people thinking they can get involved in your relationship.

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