How do you handle your un-motivational friends?

ahmommy

You know, those friends who mean well and think they're helping, but really aren't?

My mom has struggled with her weight all of her life. I have conversations with her about it on a fairly regular basis, especially now that I'm on my own journey. I ask her for advice, since she's seen a trainer in the past and has been on this journey for years. But unfortunately, she's not motivational for me.

It seems every time I talk about myself, she tells me how great I look and that I don't have any fat on me. While I know she means well, I also know that this is simply not true. While I know that I am healthy as far as height/weight goes, I also know that there is a lot of room for improvement.

This last time I pushed back and showed her the fat on my tummy. She said, "Well, you're sitting down, it's just skin. I better not show you mine, then!"

She's very interested in any advice or wisdom I have for her, but I always end up our conversations feeling like she thinks I'm crazy or something.

Scorpioangel

I had people say that to me also and now that it is gone I show it to them and they acknowledge it! The best thing to do is try to just not listen to anything unmotivational or supportive. You may see a lot of that, I know I did and it sucked. Just keep your eye on the prize!

MrMeow123

I told my mum when I managed to lose two stone and her reply was "really?".
SO I was left to feel either upset or angry, but instead I saw it as another reason to keep pushing with the weight loss - try to turn this sort of thing into something positive, because eventually when you lose enough they will see and be happy

ahmommy

Thanks! I'm glad I'm not the only one dealing with well meaning but not helpful advice.

On a side note, I just read back over my post and realized I used the word "tummy." I guess you can tell I have small children, lol!