Does it discourage anyone else...
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In Ireland it's considered rude to comment on some ones weight...good/bad! (unless you're REALLY close)0
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Have you bought new clothes? Wearing the same big clothes can cover up your wonderful achievement.
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YES. It discourages me. But I think it depends on who you are seeing. For instance, my boyfriend hadn't noticed my weight loss because he saw me every single day, so the changes were so subtle and gradual that it never really clicked in his mind that I was different. But I ran into a coworker the other day that I hadn't seen in a month due to different schedules and she couldn't believe how different I looked!
I also agree that people may not want to say anything. Sometimes it's awkward pointing out weight loss because it's a big flashing sign that you were once fat. Congrats on your achievements, though, and don't let this get you down. You're doing fabulously.0 -
I have lost almost 40 lbs, 16% of my body weight, down 4 pants sizes. But, nobody seems to notice. I know... I am doing this for me, not anyone else, but, a little positive reinforcement sure wouldn't hurt anything. I WILL keep going and reach ALL of my goals for ME! Sorry, just felt the need to vent to others that might understand.
My nutritionist told me that it takes 40 pounds of loss for close family to notice, 80 lbs of loss before friends notice and 80+ for acquaintances to notice...
when she told me that I thought she was crazy, but it seemed to hold true...my family started to notice at 40 pounds, my friends at 60-80 and my "rarely see them" co workers at plus 80 pounds...
four jean sizes seems like a lot but sometimes I think people just that wrapped up in what is happening in their lives.0 -
I had a coworker who dropped almost fifty pounds. It took me MONTHS to notice. When I finally did, it took even longer for me to say something because I was so embarrassed that I hadn't noticed in the first place.
So yeah, definitely don't let the lack of notice discourage you. Most likely you will be talking with one of your coworkers a couple of weeks from now, and they'll do some bizarre double-take and go, "uh, am I crazy, or did you lose a TON of weight?"0 -
I have lost weight thus far, not a significant amount, but enough to notice a difference in the way my clothing fits as well as how my body looks. The only person supplying feedback about noticing was my boyfriend and frankly, I feel he is obligated to say that for fear of *dagger eyes*. None of my friends or co-workers metnioned it and I felt the same; in a slump thinking "I must be kidding myself, I must still look exactly the same despite all my efforts! ".
Alas! This was not the case! I recently got together with two separate people at two separate times completely unrelated to my friends/co-workers that have/had no idea that I have been on My Fitness Pal or working out and BOTH commented "Wow! What have you been doing!? You look like you've lost weight!" - FINALLY! SUCCESS!! Then I thought about it; the people I see everyday wouldn't really notice it, even if they did, they know I'm trying to lose weight and probably assume that I KNOW that I've lost weight. Now the people who have no idea have a better vantage point! I say, don't be discouraged! Just know that YOU have done the work, lost the weight, and trust me, the compliments will come when you LEAST expect it! CONGRATULATIONS!0 -
I am 5 pounds away from my goal weight and have been working for months! I heard the first comment about it today and it was great. I know how discouraging it can be but hang in there because as you said, you are doing it for you! And WE are impressed here at MFP! Heck my husband didn't even say anything till I brought it up. But you KNOW people are noticing it. Congrats!0
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YES! When I was losing I dropped 2 sizes and not one word from co-workers. I mentioned it to my husband, who works for the same company, one day and he said "Really, people mention it to me all the time." Now that I've kept it off a few have mentioned it to me, but I still don't know why they mentioned it to him and not me.
It didn't slow me down because I really was doing it for me, but I gotta admit a "You look great" or "How much have you lost?" would have been nice.0 -
no one has noticed I lost weight but I don't let that deter me when I go down in clothing size
or just feel better in general to me thats a better feeling than someone noticing0 -
based on your ticker, you are half way there give or take right? people might be uncomfortable saying anything because they may think you look better but know you still have a couple pounds to lose in which case, if they said something, and you havent lost weight then they basically just called you fat because it happens to be the dress today or the lighting that makes you look thinner, does that make sense? especially for co-workers who in most offices, probably never REALLY look at you because they are more focused on the job, the project the task that they are talking about with you instead of being focused on you. that may not be the case in your office but i think it is in many offices where people arent un-friendly but they arent exactly buddies with their co-workers.
i lost 20 lbs in about 9-10 months and no comments, maintained that weight then two or more years later i lost 10 lbs in 3 or 4 months and i started getting comments about my weight loss all of a sudden and honestly, i didnt like it and was embarrassed by it, felt like they thought i was a fat *kitten* before, perhaps this is the type of thought that is going through co-workers minds.
regardless, congrats on your GREAT progress, and just wait until christmas time or some big family function when everyone will be like "damn! what happened to you!?!"0 -
I know how you feel. The only people who have said any thing to me are the people who know I am working out. I have purposely not said anything so people would notice on their own. No body has. I have lost between 2 and 3 pants sizes. I went someplace last night that was full of people who had not seen me for a couple months and i thought for sure someone would notice but nothing. I had one woman say she could tell I had lost weight and I got all excited but then she told me that my friend had told her I was working out and losing weight. My family for sure notices and my husband is very encouraging so I am not really discouraged, but I am still waiting for that unsolicited response. The first person who does notice is gonna get a great big hug!0
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Just don't get discouraged I lost 30lbs 2 years ago and I was at about 28lbs when I was standing and talking to a co worker one day and I could tell she was looking me up and down and she said "have you lost weight?" FINALLY! Someone noticed, lol I said "Yes, 28 pounds" She said wow and said all of a sudden she noticed every part of my body looked smaller.0
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Yep, it was the same with me. I mentioned it to my husband when I'd lost 30lbs, and he just said, "WOW. Oh my god I didn't even notice!" None of my family had noticed, either. I carry my weight pretty proportionally, so even I see my heavier self in the mirror. I only notice when I compare photos.0
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Not to sound like an idiot or anything..... But I'm to the point that I hate it when people say that they notice I've lost weight. Because it's normally my friends that are girls that are saying "Holy cow, you're too skinny..." in a "you're not too skinny, but you're skinnier than me, so I'm going to make it sound like a bad thing" kind of way. The worst one is my boyfriend's mother (who is pretty unhealthy, if I had to say so). She always gets an attitude when we visit when I won't eat what she makes for dinner (which is hot dogs, french fries, lasagna, lots of desserts normally). I'm never rude about it, I simply say I ate before I came and have a small plate of salad and whatever side dish there is, assuming it's not french fries, or the normal strawberry pie. She knows that I eat healthy, but she continues to take it personal, and like everyone else, give me side-handed comments on how much weight I've lost.
I'm extremely proud of what I've been able to accomplish, but it just makes me uncomfortable/pis*ed off when they say crap like that. It's even to the point that some of my friends won't even hang out with me anymore- and on the rare occasion that we do hang out, I can see it on their face when I come walking into where ever they are. I hate it when people can't just be happy for you. If they're truly your friends, they should be happy that you're trying to make yourself healthy.
So perhaps that's part of your problem- many people are jealous when they see someone improving themselves for the better and they aren't.
Just a theory- from experience.0 -
BTW - Your ticker is adorable :happy:0
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I think it can be hard for people who see you every day to notice that you have lost weight since it's a gradual process. Those that see you less frequently will notice faster. Congrats on losing 40 pounds - that's amazing! Keep up the good work.0
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