Does it discourage anyone else...

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  • mamasmaltz3
    mamasmaltz3 Posts: 1,111 Member
    I know how you feel. The only people who have said any thing to me are the people who know I am working out. I have purposely not said anything so people would notice on their own. No body has. I have lost between 2 and 3 pants sizes. I went someplace last night that was full of people who had not seen me for a couple months and i thought for sure someone would notice but nothing. I had one woman say she could tell I had lost weight and I got all excited but then she told me that my friend had told her I was working out and losing weight. My family for sure notices and my husband is very encouraging so I am not really discouraged, but I am still waiting for that unsolicited response. The first person who does notice is gonna get a great big hug!
  • MaureenH39
    MaureenH39 Posts: 315 Member
    Just don't get discouraged :) I lost 30lbs 2 years ago and I was at about 28lbs when I was standing and talking to a co worker one day and I could tell she was looking me up and down and she said "have you lost weight?" FINALLY! Someone noticed, lol I said "Yes, 28 pounds" She said wow and said all of a sudden she noticed every part of my body looked smaller. :D
  • eviegreen
    eviegreen Posts: 123 Member
    Yep, it was the same with me. I mentioned it to my husband when I'd lost 30lbs, and he just said, "WOW. Oh my god I didn't even notice!" None of my family had noticed, either. I carry my weight pretty proportionally, so even I see my heavier self in the mirror. I only notice when I compare photos.
  • bcf7683
    bcf7683 Posts: 1,653 Member
    Not to sound like an idiot or anything..... But I'm to the point that I hate it when people say that they notice I've lost weight. Because it's normally my friends that are girls that are saying "Holy cow, you're too skinny..." in a "you're not too skinny, but you're skinnier than me, so I'm going to make it sound like a bad thing" kind of way. The worst one is my boyfriend's mother (who is pretty unhealthy, if I had to say so). She always gets an attitude when we visit when I won't eat what she makes for dinner (which is hot dogs, french fries, lasagna, lots of desserts normally). I'm never rude about it, I simply say I ate before I came and have a small plate of salad and whatever side dish there is, assuming it's not french fries, or the normal strawberry pie. She knows that I eat healthy, but she continues to take it personal, and like everyone else, give me side-handed comments on how much weight I've lost.

    I'm extremely proud of what I've been able to accomplish, but it just makes me uncomfortable/pis*ed off when they say crap like that. It's even to the point that some of my friends won't even hang out with me anymore- and on the rare occasion that we do hang out, I can see it on their face when I come walking into where ever they are. I hate it when people can't just be happy for you. If they're truly your friends, they should be happy that you're trying to make yourself healthy.

    So perhaps that's part of your problem- many people are jealous when they see someone improving themselves for the better and they aren't.

    Just a theory- from experience.
  • bcf7683
    bcf7683 Posts: 1,653 Member
    BTW - Your ticker is adorable :happy:
  • chicadejmu
    chicadejmu Posts: 171 Member
    I think it can be hard for people who see you every day to notice that you have lost weight since it's a gradual process. Those that see you less frequently will notice faster. Congrats on losing 40 pounds - that's amazing! Keep up the good work. :)

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