I have no support team in my life! HELP!

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  • Time2LightenUp
    Time2LightenUp Posts: 86
    I see you've lost 13 pounds? Over what time period by chance?

    An observation ... I'm surprised with you having 50+ friends, no one is offering motiviational support. I don't think it's your friends ... I think it's this site.

    This is my second time on this site. The first time, I ended up losing 5 pounds in 2 years. I decided to look at other sites and found a site called lose it!. http://www.loseit.com. Probably the best weight lose site I've ever seen. People are amazing with support but that is because every time you do something, everyone knows.

    In three months using that site ... I lost 30 pounds ... probably lost 10 more pounds that I should have.

    Why am I back here? I'm trying to gain weight; ie: muscle. So every time I registered my weight on lose it and had some weight gain ... my extended/far away friends who didn't know me all that well were saying "don't worry ... it'll come off" while I was trying to gain weight. Got a little tired of explaining my position every week that I was actually trying to gain weight.

    Coming back to MFP allowed me to get some quiet time. If in the future I need to lose weight again, I'll jump back to lose it.

    Best of luck.
    Gary.

    Thanks for the advice shockingly I didn't have close to 50 friends when I posted this Board. I just got an amazing response from it. :) I have been back on for 27 days but I had lost about 3lbs before I got back on MFP.
  • addicted11
    addicted11 Posts: 24
    congrats on the 13lb!! you are doing great and just keep doing what you are doing. the weight will come off. If you want you can add me!
  • meg3456
    meg3456 Posts: 10
    I just joined and know how you feel about the family comments. I have a relative who will take out old pictures of me from ten years ago and say to my children "look how much thinner your mom was back than" it is painful and hurtful.. I am not sure how the firend thing works but please add me if you want . Take one meal at a time and do it for you don't worry about other people.
  • noreen2012
    noreen2012 Posts: 39
    Be your own support team you are here for yourself not them right? I have support but the negative kind - not what I am looking for. So I had to look really deep into myself and figure out what my priorities were and what it was going to take to get there...Yes at first it was very hard to give into tempation or listen to others tell me how they would do things - one way does not work for all. So now I am doing what feels right to me - I have not lost a lot of weight thus far but I have gained the self confidence in myself that will carry me through my journey to better health and a more confident me--- friend me if you want :happy:
  • krisc15
    krisc15 Posts: 44 Member
    People just don't understand how their comments can derail your progress entirely. It's so easy to let negativity pull you down. We're all here to support you!
  • Timby1
    Timby1 Posts: 294 Member
    Feel free to add me, too. I love giving and getting support.
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    When no one thinks you can, and no one's got your back... that's when you know you HAVE to do it.
  • Time2LightenUp
    Time2LightenUp Posts: 86
    To the people that said I could add them I have to do it tomorrow MFP is saying I've reached my limit for the day. lol. Thank you!
  • NikkiSixGuns
    NikkiSixGuns Posts: 630 Member
    Congrats on making the commitment to yourself! That's a huge step that you should celebrate. And thirteen pounds is a good bit! Be proud!!!

    In my experience the journey is sometimes a lonely one, even with support. I can't imagine how tough it would be without support!

    Keep your chin up & eyes on the prize. You'll get to where you want to be!
  • Time2LightenUp
    Time2LightenUp Posts: 86
    Congrats on making the commitment to yourself! That's a huge step that you should celebrate. And thirteen pounds is a good bit! Be proud!!!

    In my experience the journey is sometimes a lonely one, even with support. I can't imagine how tough it would be without support!

    Keep your chin up & eyes on the prize. You'll get to where you want to be!

    Thank you very much! :)
  • ILoveTheBrowns
    ILoveTheBrowns Posts: 661 Member
    i did it all alone...nothing but me and my mind.....it was a hidden blessing
  • lisafitmama
    lisafitmama Posts: 7 Member
    I'm just starting, but this site is really going to help me!!! You can do it...
  • HeatherSanto
    HeatherSanto Posts: 138 Member
    Add me tomorrow! I tried to add you but it said you weren't found, maybe because you hit the limit. We can all do this! :flowerforyou:
  • LuxHappens
    LuxHappens Posts: 72 Member
    No one else in my family is really heavy I get comments about the weight ive gained over the past couple of years all the time from family and Friends. Example my dad and I were out to breakfast and he told me his weight and I said omg I weight two more pounds then you. His response was omg Amanda you dont need breakfast if you weight more then I do. No one in my life cares about weight issues just me. I've been on and off MFP trying to connect with people that have the same issues and goals as me but even now not very many people comment or give advice on my diary, days, exercise, and etc. I am always commenting and praising MFP friends. I just really want the same in return please add me if you think you can help me out or comment. Thank you.

    First of all, I'm sorry to hear that your father was so unsupportive. Secondly, you probably already know that skipping breakfast is the worst way to try to drop pounds.
    Third, I have just sent you a friend request and look forward to mutual motivation!

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