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Cherrybomb2012

How do you tell the man (or woman?) you are seeing that they should workout with you... my last relationship didnt workout because he felt 'like i didnt see him enough and i hit the gym too often'...

do i really have to start looking for someone who is also into fitness and health like myself? I dont really mind if a man wasnt into it... i mean, its MY life and MY journey... just seems like its making dating hard?

Help!!

corn63

If you don't mind he's not into fitness, then don't expect him to get into fitness because you're in it. Now if he asks to come, or you invite him once, that's fine. But I wouldn't press the issue. Accept him for HIM.

If the gym is that big of a deal, meet a man that likes the gym.

live2runnj

I would usually start with "Hey, wanna work out?"

If that didn't work, try "You're pi**ing me off now! Let's go to the gym!"....

Don't know what to tell ya after that.

Cherrybomb2012

If you don't mind he's not into fitness, then don't expect him to get into fitness because you're in it. Now if he asks to come, or you invite him once, that's fine. But I wouldn't press the issue. Accept him for HIM.

If the gym is that big of a deal, meet a man that likes the gym.

yeah, i date for who the person is... a'holes are usually the big handsome yoked men i used to go for... i dont have time for that drama! lol thanks for the adive!

skinnyinnotime

I would usually start with "Hey, wanna work out?"

If that didn't work, try "You're pi**ing me off now! Let's go to the gym!"....

Don't know what to tell ya after that.

Hmm, does the 2nd attempt ever work??!

Cherrybomb2012

I would usually start with "Hey, wanna work out?"

If that didn't work, try "You're pi**ing me off now! Let's go to the gym!"....

Don't know what to tell ya after that.

lol thanks

JAllen32

You don't "tell" them anything. You ask them to join you! Telling someone they need to hit the gym is going to cause hard feelings. "Wanna help me lift weights?" "Wanna go for a run with me?" Much nicer that way!

bikebanditandy

I had the same issue with my ex... She told me I made her feel like needed to lose weight... although she was tiny already and this wasn't the case! There were many other reasons for the split, but upon talking about it again with her after the event, she still maintained I gave her a complex...

How do you tell the man (or woman?) you are seeing that they should workout with you... my last relationship didnt workout because he felt 'like i didnt see him enough and i hit the gym too often'...

do i really have to start looking for someone who is also into fitness and health like myself? I dont really mind if a man wasnt into it... i mean, its MY life and MY journey... just seems like its making dating hard?

Help!!

live2runnj

I would usually start with "Hey, wanna work out?"

If that didn't work, try "You're pi**ing me off now! Let's go to the gym!"....

Don't know what to tell ya after that.

Hmm, does the 2nd attempt ever work??!

Second attempt works....

The times it doesn't I move on to "I found this other hot chick at the gym! See you later."

YouAreTheShit

The most successful relationships have a high degree of intellectual and emotional compatibility along with quite a few common interests shared between them... clearly health and fitness is one that you value that prolly should be shared with your partner. IMO

jerbear1962

Just ask if he wants to join you and let him know you don't mind if he doesn't.

live2runnj

The most successful relationships have a high degree of intellectual and emotional compatibility along with quite a few common interests shared between them... clearly health and fitness is one that you value that prolly should be shared with your partner. IMO

Good lord.....

So serious............. Do you hold a PHD?

HiKaren

How do you tell the man (or woman?) you are seeing that they should workout with you... my last relationship didnt workout because he felt 'like i didnt see him enough and i hit the gym too often'...

do i really have to start looking for someone who is also into fitness and health like myself? I dont really mind if a man wasnt into it... i mean, its MY life and MY journey... just seems like its making dating hard?

Help!!

Start Scoping the gym out for some hot buns..... : ) I'm sure you should find someone compatible there... If thats what you like in a relationship. You know, someone who enjoys working out... And sees the fun in working out with you.....
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weighlossforbaby

You shouldn't TELL them to workout with you when they don't want to but maybe ASK them if they would like to join you. If your looking for a person who is into fitness meet someone at the gym.

LorinaLynn

I wouldn't *tell* him anything. I'll *ask* if he wanted to join me, but if he didn't (and usually, he doesn't), then that's just fine because this is only one aspect of my life and I don't expect anyone to share all of my interests.

I think of exercise as part of my personal maintenance, like clothes shopping and basic grooming. No one has to do any of that with me. I'm not going to demand he go shoe shopping with me, or get his hair cut when I get a hair cut. But I do really appreciate it when he comes with me to races and acts as my own personal paparazzi.

TeachTheGirl

I agree with asking if he'd be interested to join.

It's a hobby you enjoy, any person you get with should at least appreciate that!

(By the way, I love your top, where did you get it?)

reyopo

The most successful relationships have a high degree of intellectual and emotional compatibility along with quite a few common interests shared between them... clearly health and fitness is one that you value that prolly should be shared with your partner. IMO

Agree with the first part...not so much on the second. If there are enough OTHER common interests (music, culture, ideology), what's the big deal? I do yoga and Zumba (as well as lifting) at the gym, I wouldn't expect a guy to get in to those so much, nor have I seen too many in those classes that I'd want to date. It's more important to me that he like hiking, biking, camping and outdoor activities...that, and not have a terrible diet. That said, if he tried to tell ME not to do so much yoga...well, we'd have a problem!

Lone_Wolf70

How do you tell the man (or woman?) you are seeing that they should workout with you... my last relationship didnt workout because he felt 'like i didnt see him enough and i hit the gym too often'...

do i really have to start looking for someone who is also into fitness and health like myself? I dont really mind if a man wasnt into it... i mean, its MY life and MY journey... just seems like its making dating hard?

Help!!

How much time do u spend at the gym that it interferes THAT MUCH?

Cherrybomb2012

How do you tell the man (or woman?) you are seeing that they should workout with you... my last relationship didnt workout because he felt 'like i didnt see him enough and i hit the gym too often'...

do i really have to start looking for someone who is also into fitness and health like myself? I dont really mind if a man wasnt into it... i mean, its MY life and MY journey... just seems like its making dating hard?

Help!!

How much time do u spend at the gym that it interferes THAT MUCH?

I work here AND do atleast and hour and a half to two hours mon to fri...?

ChristineMarie89

if they don't understand don't be with them!! ask them straight out to work out with you and if they don't want to and complain about not having any time with you then tell them you tried.

ElizabethRoad

The most successful relationships have a high degree of intellectual and emotional compatibility along with quite a few common interests shared between them... clearly health and fitness is one that you value that prolly should be shared with your partner. IMO

Good lord.....

So serious............. Do you hold a PHD?

Gonna guess you don't.