How can I snap out of my negative mood ?

Babieseverywhere

I started on MTP nearly a year ago.

Started to run, completed C25K, do aerobics classes and used a rowing machine at home. Exercising 2/3 times a week. Eating better (not great diet but improved choices) for several months.

Then I fell pregnant (November 11 to July 12) and only put on 8lbs at term. Stopped exercising during pregnancy and food choices were worse as I had bad heartburn etc but I did maintain my weight whilst pregnant which is a step in the right direction. When I recently had my baby girl, I dropped 20 lbs to go into Onderland for the first time in a decade or more.

Now my baby is three weeks old and I am really struggling to watch my weight. Breastfeeding is making me very hungry and I am exclusively nursing a newborn and my toddler atm. I am trying to catch up with my housework and sleep but I have no energy to do proper exercise. My eating is out of control. Last night I ate a plate of pizza...I should of eaten half and had a salad with it but I didn't do that

I feel like a failure, I have been losing weight for nearly a year and though I am down a few pounds I still have body fat in the 45% area and still wear size 18 clothes, that is massive and I find this disappointing.

Not sure why I am posting this, I just need to buck up and have a better attitude but I am not sure how I can do that. I don't understand why I feel like this. Last year I was happy to start this life long change and realised it would take me months/years to get healthy.

Sigh. Any suggestions.

LooptLou25

I think you are being extremely hard on yourself, you've just given birth! To me, that is a major trauma & you should be giving yourself a little more credit & TLC. Try just taking one step at a time, maybe choose a meal such as breakfast, or your snacks & say today I'm going to change that area & make healthy choices & stick to just that one meal for a week & then maybe pick another to change the following week. When things start overwhelming me, I make a list of jobs to do & just cross them off as I go, it helps to feel like you are getting somewhere & what doesn't get done today just goes on the list for tomorrow. One step at a time & one day at a time. I pigged out on pizza last Saturday, gave myself a good talking too & started Sunday as a new day with new choices to make, that's all we can do & keep battling on. Don't give in to the negativity, get aggressive at it, fight back & see it as an apponant to beat Wishing you a good day today

Ralphrabbit

Oh be kind to yourself! Have you seen all the positive stuff you have achieved?!??!
You are tired, possibly a little depressed & in need of some help with the grotty stuff! Any chance a friend could give you a hand to clean up & then you would feel better in your environment? Can someone help you with the children while you have a nice bath & make yourself feel a bit better? Then maybe you can make yourself a healthy shopping list & get back on the wagon to where you want to go............
Congratulations on all your success!

LorinaLynn

I feel like a failure, I have been losing weight for nearly a year...

And nine months of those, you were pregnant. Stop berating yourself. :flowerforyou:

If the negativity won't stop, check with your doctors. Postpartum depression is pretty common.

urfitnesspal2

Don't get caught up in the day to day stuff. What I mean by that is t remember this is a journey and not a day road trip. You just brought a little girl into the world three weeks ago. Remember the things to be thankful for, be aware of the fact your body is and will be going through some adjustments for a while (physically and hormonally ) , BUT This too shall pass Enjoy those little ones. I LOVE holding newborns

Babieseverywhere

Thanks for the lovely posts, they really made me feel better. Plus I managed to actually be below my calories today

I am going to be easier on myself and not be discourage by my bad mood atm. I like the suggestion of tackling one thing at a time. I have sorted breakfast, so I'm going to work on a healthier lunches starting tomorrow.

I aim to get exercising as soon as my spd hip (temp post birth issue only) improves.

I will get there

boston6

Seriously, 67 lbs lost with a pregnancy in between cannot be considered a failure by any reasonable measure.

Babieseverywhere

Seriously, 67 lbs lost with a pregnancy in between cannot be considered a failure by any reasonable measure.

Thanks, your post put a big smile on my face, on this rainy grey English morning