i need to cry :(
SarahJean0704
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Uhh ok i don't think anyone in my "real" life understands how i feel about food and my weight or anything so im hoping u will ..
Right now i feel like losing weight for me is hopeless
just a little over a year ago i was hot ! had a pretty decent body i even danced at a gentlemens club ! i have gained close to 80 pounds since then and i am the biggest i have ever been in my life , bigger than i was when i was pregnant with my 9 pound son and i feel like the ugliest person ever , its started to effect my relationships with people . i have gotten to the point where i hate food and feel completely disgusted when i even think of eating , then i start thinking that whenever someone looks at me all they see is my fat and that they are judging me.. does anyone else ever feel like this ?? sorry for being so negative i really just needed to vent .
Right now i feel like losing weight for me is hopeless
just a little over a year ago i was hot ! had a pretty decent body i even danced at a gentlemens club ! i have gained close to 80 pounds since then and i am the biggest i have ever been in my life , bigger than i was when i was pregnant with my 9 pound son and i feel like the ugliest person ever , its started to effect my relationships with people . i have gotten to the point where i hate food and feel completely disgusted when i even think of eating , then i start thinking that whenever someone looks at me all they see is my fat and that they are judging me.. does anyone else ever feel like this ?? sorry for being so negative i really just needed to vent . 0
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I'm sorry hon, we've all been there! Have your cry, and then do something constructive towards fixing the problem. Shopping lists, eating plans, workout schedule, whatever you need to do to plan ahead and make it work!0
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im just so upset i let myself get to this point like i dont even go out in public anymore . 0
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Sarah- You are a beautiful in your picture. It does it hard trying to lose weight, manage life, school, books, everything.
Don't put too much pressure on yourself.
I see a beautiful, young lady in your picture.
Think: Healthy, Fun, and Alive!!!
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Hang in there! You have taken the first step by joining MFP. Keep track of what you eat, and start with a bit of a work out and before you know it you will losing and toning. If you are interested in some motivational support add me as a friend, I log daily and am always ready to give my support!0
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Girl, you're gorgeous. Don't tell yourself otherwise.
You've made a GREAT step coming here and working to better your health. Everything else that comes with that will just be sweet, sweet candy (so to speak) and you'll be feeling better emotionally in no time. You're worth the commitment. Remember that.0 -
Dont look back...not the direction u are going. Keep moving forward. Exercise and healthy food and watch your cals. U can lose the 80 lbs!0
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I can relate to how you feel. I once had someone tell me I needed my own zip code because I was so fat. :-(
Try to be good to yourself and nourish yourself with good, healthy foods. If you just hang in there and take it slowly, you will eventually lose the weight. Good food is there to make you strong and healthy, and it's okay to love it and enjoy eating as you are working on losing weight.
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I feel like that all the time, with the fat and judging. And that's because people do judge... Recently, i've just had the 'to hell with you' type attitude and try not to let them get to me. Try and just stay positive, and think of the good things in your life, that will get you through the tough times. Also, feel free to add me
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i know EXACTLY how you feel. i was never toned, but i never weighed over 130 my whole life, and even that was a little chunky for my short stature and flat chested nature. in less than a year i was up to about 160 and my boyfriend ended up breaking up with me (among other reasons) because i hated my body and he couldn't stand how unhappy i was.
the week after we broke up i joined this site. my body is MINE and i want to be happy with it. it's a long, slow, sometimes steady process but it's totally worth it in the end. you just have to plan it out, set your mind to it, and get it done. start small and work your way up. when it's done, you will come through a physically and mentally stronger person.
don't lose hope and msg me whenever you need some words of encouragement. i'm on here waaaay too much.0 -
story of my life... although Ive never been thin... I always feel like people must think "why the hell is she eating she is sooo fat" I started losing weight, still have a lot to lose though... I know 100% how you feel... if you need a friend for motivation, support or just emotional support... you can add me if you want
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Our past does not define us, it is what we do today and in the future! You are on here to take those great steps to overcome your past, just keep your chin up and know that there will be many bumps along the way. We are all here for you at those bumps! If you need extra cheerleaders feel free to send a friend request 0
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Try this. Imagine if you saw someone else with your exact same body. Would you be as critical of them as you are with yourself? I've learned over the years that nobody else really pays as much attention to my weight as I used to think they did. What would you tell someone else if they posted this exact status update? Be gentle with yourself.0
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sometimes you do just need a good cry. but then you need to realize that this is your life. your decisions. your choices. choose to be happy. choose to make a healthy relationship with food, for you and your son. i have been exactly where you have been. please dont dig yourself deeper. dont just not eat okay.... go shopping and buy only healthy food. plan for a week ahead and pre cook your food. put them in Tupperware. and tape the calorie count on the top of it. use the recipe tool to do this on mfp. dont give up hope, you are responsible for your own happiness. choose how you want to deal with this. it is NOT hopeless, youre here for a reason arnt you? :] to succeed. i believe in you, if that helps.0
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Keep your chin up, Chickie! We've all been there... that's why we are here. You just have to remember that while, yes.... it is hard sometimes to get healthy again... it still is a feasible goal... AND... more importantly... that you ARE worth EVERY BIT of the effort. Add me, if you'd like... (and anyone else too!) I consider myself a pretty good cheerleader! 0
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Thanks everybody for replying .. im still over here balling my eyes out lol but i do feel a little better.. but it sucks to know that some of you feel the same way as i do , it is a horrible feeling , especially when you have no one that understands .. but its kinda nice to know im not as alone as i thought i was .0
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You have already taken the hardest step: you are on this site and you have started moving toward the weight, healthy lifestyle and approach to food that will get you where you want to go. Give yourself a pat on the back and just concentrate on losing 1 pound at a time. We are all here for you and you will do this!0
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Try not to think about where you are, but concentrate on where you're going! Set your goals, work your derriere off! The closer you get to where you want to be, the more fun it is. You can get a lot of exercise pushing that baby of yours in a running stoller. Put on music and dance in your living room. Just keep moving and monitor your calories. You're young and can knock this out within a year--faster than you gained it. Now, wipe your tears and go for it!0
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you are not alone. i feel the same way everyday!! but sometimes i get tired of crying. it pisses me off and makes me so mad. crying gets me nowhere but discouraged. i had my baby 3 months ago and lost 27 pounds but in my eyes thats not good enough and i still look and feel disguisting! thats why i love this site. keeps me going. keep your head up and you can do this!!0
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Sarah, you're a beautiful woman! I go to the trail after 9 pm when it's dark so I won't be seen. A week or 2 ago a large guy mooed at me when I was passing him in Walmart, I am 180 lbs. a few weeks after that a guy yelled out his car window at me about my chest while I was coming home from the trail when it was still light out. Have they made me quit? No, because I am doing this for my future child I hope to have one day and not them. Think about what your motivation is, what your striving for and never quit! :flowerforyou:0
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Take some time to figure out your goals and yourself... in my opinion its the best thing you can do....remember your only a short workout away from a better mood Take a walk and soak up some vitamin D you can only get better 0
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hang in there, girl. We're all carrying a cross. If you need to, go ahead and cry, then do something constructive. I too joind this cause its too hard to find time and vent with my 'real' friends. Everyone is so busy, including myself. We can do this together!!!0
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We've all hit bottom in this regard. It's a common thing to go through. You will get through it.
The silver lining about people going through what you're going through is that it's the thing that makes you stop and take action.
Push through this feeling until you start seeing progress. That progress will snowball, you'll see.0 -
Step One: FORGIVE YOURSELF
You won't be able to move on till you do that.
Step Two: Stop and think about how you are approaching food. You seem to be approaching it as the thing that made you (in your eyes fat (btw you look beautiful in your picture in my opinion)). It didn't. It is the amount and type that you ate. Food is not your enemy, or your friend. It is just the fuel you need.
Step Three: Think about the positive and the future.
Step Four: Make a plan for your food and workouts. If you need help with food there are lots of people on here that will help and you can even looks up cookbooks to give you ideas (I love my everything guide to low glycemic cookbook). I find when I plan out my day for the next day it is sooooo much easier to stick to it.
Use your anger over what has happened to fuel some of your workout, as you go you will get stronger and no longer need that anger cause you will be happy about it cause you will see the difference in yourself.
But remember to actually eat the right amount of calories, that is very important or you won't lose the weight healthy. Here are two links I found helpful.
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/654536-in-place-of-a-road-map-2-0-revised-7-2-12
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/713460--eating-back-exercise-calories-simple-breakdown
If you want to add me for some extra support and motivation, or even just someone to talk feel free.
Oh and did you know, crying is actually good for you. It releases chemicals that actually (when you are done) make it easier for you to think clearly. So cry away! Get it out of the way and than kick your weights butt!0 -
I feel like that all the time, with the fat and judging. And that's because people do judge... Recently, i've just had the 'to hell with you' type attitude and try not to let them get to me. Try and just stay positive, and think of the good things in your life, that will get you through the tough times. Also, feel free to add me
... what she said! I have adopted the "f you" policy. I know we all judge people for different things and people judge me. I hate it too and it makes me upset, but then I just think, whatever. Eff you and your judgement... if you will judge based on something you don't know anything about I have no need for you in my life! AND you are beautiful!0 -
we`ve all been try taking a few days for your self. just stop worrying about that number on the scale for a few days. instead do things you enjoy, eat what you enjoy, go out meet some people, do something active that makes you happy.
I had a really bad down last week, where not only was i starting to get frustrated with my permament restricting but as a result was starting to binge eat.
then i decided to just stop worrying so much. i hosted a couchsurfer, we went to do some great touristy stuff and went to a concert, i ate whatever i wanted and felt goos about it.
now i`m back on day three of a new start. i feel like suddenly i have so much more energy to lose those last few pounds. and they definitely are dropping.
so maybe you just need a break, sometimes it`s important to stop worrying so much and just decide to feel good about oneself.0 -
I have those days too letting it go and a good cry helps a lot! But then you get back up and you keep going, these guys are awesome at supporting if I wasn't here I would still be stuck with not eating bc I felt guilty. You are amazing and gorgeous just take it one day at a time you'll. Get there but always remember you are Beautiful!
I have a lot of days like that I'm always up for support and encouragement hope you feel better :flowerforyou:0 -
Do not apologize. We all need to vent once in a while. That's why the rest of us are here: to listen and be here for you.
If that is your picture as your profile then I just have to say, you are most definitely not ugly. I see a gorgeous strong woman with beautiful curly hair! Rock what you have! We can spend our entire lives comparing ourselves to everyone else, and we will never be happy. Have a cry, get it out and then wash your face and stare at yourself in the mirror. Ask yourself this, "If I allowed a friend to talk to me the way I talk to myself, would that person still be my friend?" Then take the time to see what the people who love you see. See the person who supports her friends and family.
Do not give up on yourself. You are on a journey, and yes, it is a difficult journey, but you can and you WILL do it. People will always try to bring you down no matter what the journey is. NEVER let them. Your strength lies in you, so be you.
Keep your head up and smile even when you're scared as Hell.
":A smooth sea never made a skillful sailor."0 -
I am with you today I feel like I know what I am doing but I keep eating, thinking it will go away. I wish things did not get so bad. That one day you look and wow!!!! who is that person in that body. So I started this my fitness, well see how it goes. I hope for a better day on Wed.......0
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I completely understand how you feel. Two and a half years ago I got sober from meth and put on 60 lbs. I was so uncomfortable and hated the way I looked on the outside even though I was healing ( from drug addiction..) I was still so depressed about my weight. I completely understand. Even days now I still struggle with my relatiOnship with food and body image. I went to shop for pants and when I couldn't fit into a size 16 I came home and cried had a mental breakdown. Then ate some chicken nuggets. Every time I would get sober I would put on weight and then go back to the drugs to starve myself back down to a normal weight. I didn't know that using the drugs hurt my metabolism so much because I was starving all the time. Then of course comming off the drugs I would eat any carby calorie heavy thing I could get my hands on. Anyways I found something . I found a program called Fa. It's food addicts anonymous. It truly saved my life. It helped me loose weight and know what to eat. they helped me so much. After six months I was down to 144 lbs... Then I did a low carb diet. And learned that my body was carb sensitive. I adopted a low carb approach to my way of eating and I have to say from my experience its saved my life. Not only do I not have to starve but I can actually maintain my weight. I thought I was doomed . Feel free to add me and if you believe in god ask him for his love and help. I think you're absolutely gorgeous just the way you are and just know he will take care of you. It may take time but you can find happiness.0
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So some tough love here
Put some perspective thought into this. Everyday I go to work (I work in a Wellness Center) I have to pass by our Rehabilitation center. People there are rehabbing from heart attack, stroke, paralysis, major surgery, and some are learning how to work with prosthetics. What some of these people wouldn't do just to be overweight. Some will never have the same physical functions they used to. So count yourself lucky and take this opportunity sit down a create a plan to achieve the look you desire. It's never a hopeless situation unless you give up.
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