Pregnant and not eating. NEED SUPPORT.
CuteWittleWifey
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Hello everyone.
About a week and a half ago, my husband left to start Army Basic Combat Training. Today is the first day that I don't feel like a complete wreck emotionally (I think normally I'd be able to suck it up a little better, but I'm 17 weeks pregnant and HORMONAL!!!). Unfortunately, I have been struggling with my eating since his departure as well, and have lost 2 pounds in one week. I can't be taking in much more than 500 calories a day, which is ABSOLUTELY ridiculous. And I mean, OBVIOUSLY I'm going to take up the issue with my Doctor at my next prenatal appointment-which is on Friday, but aside from that, I'm just looking for supportive people who wouldn't mind being friends, thus forcing me to hold myself accountable for my actions a little more. I'm DEFINTIELY not on here to diet. Just to hopefully help me get an insight into how much I'm actually eating, and then slowly improving that for my health.
About a week and a half ago, my husband left to start Army Basic Combat Training. Today is the first day that I don't feel like a complete wreck emotionally (I think normally I'd be able to suck it up a little better, but I'm 17 weeks pregnant and HORMONAL!!!). Unfortunately, I have been struggling with my eating since his departure as well, and have lost 2 pounds in one week. I can't be taking in much more than 500 calories a day, which is ABSOLUTELY ridiculous. And I mean, OBVIOUSLY I'm going to take up the issue with my Doctor at my next prenatal appointment-which is on Friday, but aside from that, I'm just looking for supportive people who wouldn't mind being friends, thus forcing me to hold myself accountable for my actions a little more. I'm DEFINTIELY not on here to diet. Just to hopefully help me get an insight into how much I'm actually eating, and then slowly improving that for my health.
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Are you not eating because of morning sickness or because you're feeling depressed that your husband is gone? I had really really bad morning sickness in the beginning of my pregnancy and couldn't keep anything down. If that's the case, your doctor can prescribe you Zofran to help. If it's the latter, maybe it would help to seek out counseling for a few sessions just until you're feeling better about your situation? I'm sorry you're going through this, I can't imagine not having my husband around while I was pregnant! If you need a shoulder to cry on, go ahead and message me! And just remember, you need to stay healthy and eat not just for you but for that wonderful miracle you have growing inside of you!0
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Hello everyone.
About a week and a half ago, my husband left to start Army Basic Combat Training. Today is the first day that I don't feel like a complete wreck emotionally (I think normally I'd be able to suck it up a little better, but I'm 17 weeks pregnant and HORMONAL!!!). Unfortunately, I have been struggling with my eating since his departure as well, and have lost 2 pounds in one week. I can't be taking in much more than 500 calories a day, which is ABSOLUTELY ridiculous. And I mean, OBVIOUSLY I'm going to take up the issue with my Doctor at my next prenatal appointment-which is on Friday, but aside from that, I'm just looking for supportive people who wouldn't mind being friends, thus forcing me to hold myself accountable for my actions a little more. I'm DEFINTIELY not on here to diet. Just to hopefully help me get an insight into how much I'm actually eating, and then slowly improving that for my health.
I would take this to a therapist/professional. We can give advice but at this point in time you need a professoinal medical opinion-and I don't just mean from your OB.
Losing weight while pregnant is not good at all. Please go see someone.0 -
Don't worry all.
I did just call my doctor and hopefully they can get me in soon and get me the proper refferals.
It isn't morning sickness. During my first trimester, regardless of my morning sickness, I made sure to compensate for what I had lost-so to speak.
Before I got pregnant I had lost 50 pounds due to constant calorie counting, exercising, and weighing myself like a thousand times a day. I do think that I may possibly be struggling with depression, or an eating disorder-at least borderline-or both. Regardless, I am reaching out for medical help, for sure!0 -
Hi,
So........ if you are upset and overwhelmed, etc., try to drink your calories--- smoothies, shakes, etc. When I was pregnant with #2, and it was HOT out, and I didn't feel like eating, I would make smoothies. I bought powdered milk at Sam's Club and added a scoop of that to my smoothies to get a bit of extra calories in each one.
Other than that, please, please, please talk to your doctor. It really isn't good to not be eating when pregnant. It puts alot of stress on the baby and on your body.0 -
That's a great idea!
I'll try some smoothies and even start drinking juice.
That will help me stay hydrated much better, as well0 -
Hello everyone.
About a week and a half ago, my husband left to start Army Basic Combat Training. Today is the first day that I don't feel like a complete wreck emotionally (I think normally I'd be able to suck it up a little better, but I'm 17 weeks pregnant and HORMONAL!!!). Unfortunately, I have been struggling with my eating since his departure as well, and have lost 2 pounds in one week. I can't be taking in much more than 500 calories a day, which is ABSOLUTELY ridiculous. And I mean, OBVIOUSLY I'm going to take up the issue with my Doctor at my next prenatal appointment-which is on Friday, but aside from that, I'm just looking for supportive people who wouldn't mind being friends, thus forcing me to hold myself accountable for my actions a little more. I'm DEFINTIELY not on here to diet. Just to hopefully help me get an insight into how much I'm actually eating, and then slowly improving that for my health.
Are you near a military base? there may be military wife support groups in your area that you might want to hit up. The good news is, you're 17 weeks. Some of the most important developments are done with baby, such as the neurological stuff. Do you have a printer? or access to one? even a book can help out.
post pictures of each week's development in the kitchen, on the fridge even. Seen the little one developing and your job to eat might encourage you a bit more. There are also support groups from pregnant women that your ob/gyn might be able to refer to you.
secondly, there is WIC, They will supply you with food if need be, but can further help you find support groups.
for awhile, all I craved was a whopper w/ cheese and frozen fruit bars. Your body will soon crave what it needs. 2lbs really isn't a huge deal as far as baby goes.
Your favorite television;
get some food, park your butt in front of it. it will probably distract you from not wanting to eat.
As an ex-military wife, the 1st month is not easy, but it does get easy after that.0 -
That's a great idea!
I'll try some smoothies and even start drinking juice.
That will help me stay hydrated much better, as well
doooon't drink a ton of straight juice!!! water is better, and the acidity will really mess up your stomach.
says the person who threw up all over the high way after doing so. A few a day is ok, but to replace all water.. bad!0 -
good luck adding a a baby into that mix.
yikes.0 -
Um, thanks?0
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Find a group of women to talk with daily. Hopefully this "chat" here can help. I am sure there are a lot of groups out there that have women going through the same things you are. Take care of you and that baby. You two are the most important people you need to think about. It does stink having your man leave. Be brave and strong like your man. You can do it!!!!! If you need a friend you can "friend" me. I have had a baby before and understand the worries taht go with it.0
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militarysos.com
Was a great site when I went through that. (and afterwards) Also, if your close to a base they have several military wives groups; for me my husband's (now ex) squadrin had a wives group where we would have potlucks and things. I met a lot of friends that way, and all wives that had husbands in the same place as mine, so it was nice.
When I was pregnant I didn't eat a lot at all in the first trimester. Seeing your doctor is probably the best bet for you there.
Hope things get better for you!0 -
ohh hun im so sorry!! i know how stressful the husband leaving can be!!! *hugs* i totally understand the not eating thing...i was a wreck too when my husband left for Kuwait, I wasn't pregnant but I was nursing and our daughter was just a couple of months old...it was HARD!!! omg....so i know how you feel...feel free to add me as a friend and totally talk to your doctor....maybe there is an anxiety med that is safe during pregnancy??
just try to eat about 6 small meals a day...maybe not putting so much in your stomach at one time will be more helpful...0 -
My hubby went to drug and alcohol treatment when I was 16 weeks pregnant with our 2nd child, I withdrew from the world in depression and couldn't eat. When I did I threw it back up. I struggle with an eating disorder have since I was a child. Thankfully I had a wonderful friend that when I ignored her phone calls she just decided to show up with lunch, she did this daily to help keep me accountable. That was over 5 years ago and I gained a healthy amount of weight then some and my son was born healthy also. I would suggest along with the others in here seeking help and seeking friendship on here and where you live.0
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IT is really good that you are reaching out for help! The best part is there are a lot of people wanting to help you. I agree with the smoothies as a way of getting nutrients in without eating a meal. A trick I learned is to freeze your fruit first and then you don't have to use ice, you also do need to drink lots of water, I use to fill a thirty two ounze bottle and keep it on hand and when I emptied it i would refill it even if i wasn't going to drink it right away. Hopefully you will continue to seek help. One day at a time is all you can take things in.0
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you can also friend me if you want a person to support you0
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Not eating enough while pregnant will be more detrimental to your health than the baby's health, but still not a good situation to be in. It has been really hard seeing my weight come up over the past 38 weeks too. I had also lost about 30 lbs before finding out I was pregnant, so it was really frustrating visiting the doctor to see my weight increase gradually. It must be really hard with out your husband there so my best advice to you is seeing a therapist and maybe have your OB recommend a dietician. A dietician can maybe ease some of your fears about gaining weight, and stress how important a weight gain is. If you gain weight correctly, much of it is from the extra fluids, placenta, breast tissue, growing uterus, and the baby itself. If you gain 30 lbs, it is estimated that only about 5-7lbs of those 30 are 'maternal fat stores'. So please, make sure you are eating enough for you and your baby's sake Even if you still log all of your calories, try and be eating at minimum your maintenance. The scale WILL go up, but just try to remember it is not FAT you are putting on! 0
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Are you not eating because of morning sickness or because you're feeling depressed that your husband is gone? I had really really bad morning sickness in the beginning of my pregnancy and couldn't keep anything down. If that's the case, your doctor can prescribe you Zofran to help. If it's the latter, maybe it would help to seek out counseling for a few sessions just until you're feeling better about your situation? I'm sorry you're going through this, I can't imagine not having my husband around while I was pregnant! If you need a shoulder to cry on, go ahead and message me! And just remember, you need to stay healthy and eat not just for you but for that wonderful miracle you have growing inside of you!
THIS! Feel free to message/friend me too. I'm a mama and my dad is an ob-gyn. Just please don't be afraid to talk to someone - therapist, priest, parents, and of course your OB.
A million thank you's to YOU, Your husband and your family for being so brave for our country.0 -
Try a hazelwood necklace as a natrual way to change your mood!! The hazelwood necklace is at your local health store, tell them about your symptoms and they will help you!!0
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Stop eating the light/diet foods you were eating. YOu can afford to eat some regular, higher fat foods. If you want a plate of pasta, eat it! If you want some avocado, eat it! Try to pick healthy yet higher fat foods. But still go see your doctor!0
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Though I didn't have all the trials emotionally while pregnant, I still physically couldn't eat... I just wasn't hungry and nothing satisfied... I would eat two bites and I was done.
So my doctor told me to drink Ensures or other nutrition drinks like that. That way I would at least be getting my vitamins and minerals beyond the pre-natals. So I suggest that and perhaps some V-8 VFusion... it may not be the best, but when it's hard to eat, it's better than nothing.0 -
I don't mean this in a negative way at all. I'm sorry you are going through such a tough time.. But you're baby did not ask to be put into this situation and deserves a mother that can give it everything it needs. I know you realize this which is why you are asking for help and that is great that you want to improve your situation. It may be good for you to eat tiny things that are full of protein or nutrients throughout the day.. that way you don't have to think too much you just force it down. Try protein shakes or eating some almonds or other nuts, cheese strings, banana's and eat them as much as you possibly can. That way you are getting the calories but it doesn't feel like as much of a task. I do also suggest you find a support group outside of MFP. It will really help you feel like you have someone while your husband is gone and it can help you with your emotional/eating issues. I truly wish you the best and I hope you get to see your husband soon. I can't imagine how hard that must be. Congratulations on your pregnancy!0
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I didn't read past the original post so this may be redundant, but bring your OBGYN into the picture as soon as you can. They should absolutely be involved in this issue. They can help direct you to the right spot (nutrition, counselling, whatever). Since you are consuming less food its more important than ever to hit the prenatal supplements. If you don't have those, they'll give them to you at the OB.0
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Hello everyone.
About a week and a half ago, my husband left to start Army Basic Combat Training. Today is the first day that I don't feel like a complete wreck emotionally (I think normally I'd be able to suck it up a little better, but I'm 17 weeks pregnant and HORMONAL!!!). Unfortunately, I have been struggling with my eating since his departure as well, and have lost 2 pounds in one week. I can't be taking in much more than 500 calories a day, which is ABSOLUTELY ridiculous. And I mean, OBVIOUSLY I'm going to take up the issue with my Doctor at my next prenatal appointment-which is on Friday, but aside from that, I'm just looking for supportive people who wouldn't mind being friends, thus forcing me to hold myself accountable for my actions a little more. I'm DEFINTIELY not on here to diet. Just to hopefully help me get an insight into how much I'm actually eating, and then slowly improving that for my health.
I would probably discuss with your doctor in this case what would be best for you. I really hope everything gets better sweetheart. A really tough time to have your man away and being pregnant. Try to stay socially active with friends that are positively influential during this process. Staying active in the gym is another way to make this go by easier.0 -
Don't worry so much about losing weight- I can't help but feel like letting it stress you out will cause you to lose more weight- it really seems like you are stuck in a cycle. My mom lost 30 lbs with both her pregnancies (morning sickness) and my sister and I both turned out fine. The baby will get what he/she needs from you regardless of whether you are eating or not. This might result in hair loss, brittle nails, bad teeth, loose skin, or any other number of vitamin deficient symptoms in your body, so for your own good, try to at least take vitamins/ protein shakes, something.
Congrats on your new addition. You will fall in love like never before 0 -
It gets easier (family member in the forces)
it is difficult especially first few weeks but push through it, take care of yourself and your baby.0 -
Even though I'm not a military wife, I had severe depression during my pregnancy and couldn't eat. My OB suggested those nutritional shakes--I think they were called Boost. Then she scolded me for not eating. I deserved it. But the shakes helped soooo much! Good luck and I hope you feel better.
ETA nothing of value :P0 -
good luck adding a a baby into that mix.
yikes.
Yeah, because that is not a horrid thing to say!
To the OP, I had really bad PND and PTSD and stopped eating enough. That, believe it or not, is how I gained all my wieght! I had to work really hard to learn to eat again and now I eat more to weigh less and feel horrid if I don't eat enough! I am totally up for helping you stay accountable with your eating and helping you to eat more! I do also understand how you feel and I am always up for suporting someone who is going though the ringer! Feel free to add me! And keep you chin up! You seem to be getting some great advice here esspecially about the military wives!0 -
good luck adding a a baby into that mix.
yikes.
He's in basic. He'll be back in a few months. She's hormonal and yes she needs to eat and hydrate but holy crap cut her some slack!0 -
Chin up coconut. It's only basic. He'll be back in a few months and he'll be ripped! :drinker:
Military life is stressful to say the least but you'll learn the ropes quickly! My husband and I have been through many ups and downs and had three babies in the mix! I understand hormonal, I cried once because a car passed me on the interstate. JUST passed me and nothing else and I broke down. The hormones will calm down.
As others have said you do need to hydrate and provide nourishment not only to the baby but to yourself as well. Take your vitamins and if you can't stomach them take gummi vitamins. Be sure to get that fluid though especially since it's summer. If you want to talk feel free to add me! All the best!
EDIT~ smoothie idea is WONDERFUL!0 -
Your have the right to feel this way. I am not pregnant yet but trying right now but hubby was in the military for 6 years and he retired July 2011. My husband was deployed to Iraq in January 2009-2010.0
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