FUN FRIDAY MFP DEBATE: PRENUPS!

Rae6503

Classic.

Il_DaniD_lI

I say nay. If I ever get married it will be for good, no reason for a prenup.

scapez

It worked well for Tom Cruise!

Jebbster007

Definitely not for me.

I will say as others have that it is absolutely up to the two individuals. If they feel they need one and the party needing to sign is ok with it....who is anyone to tell them no.

However, with that being said, its very difficult to not see the person asking for one as someone who is expecting the union to fail.

Score:

Security - 10

Romance - 0

katrwal

Interestingly, our pastor at the time recommended we do one, just to have some structure around a finances discussion... we found the process really helpful in that we disclosed our full debt as well as asset loads, and talked about our financial priorities (such as what kind of debt is good debt, whether to pay for the kids' college, what kind of mortgage/how big is reasonable, etc.). We finished the process and signed it, but never got it notarized - not sure if it would ever hold up in court - but in the last 7 years we've had very few fights about money.

Now, discipline of the kids or where to drop the wet towels is a totally different topic - hard to get those into a pre-nup, though... :drinker:

jcstanton

I can understand how some people would want to be cautious, especially considering the day and age in which we live. However, for me personally, if I felt there was a need for a prenup, I'd have to seriously reconsider getting married. Either there are some red flags regarding the character of the person I'm marrying, or I have some serious trust issues. Either way, it's an indicator that marriage to this particular person at this particular time, may not be such a good idea. Plus, as others have said, it sort of feels like you're going into the marriage with low expectations, which is never a good sign.

tashjs21

My ex boyfriend always said he wanted one to "protect himself" Uhhhh, seeing how he was unemployed when we met and I footed the bill the first year of us dating (I know, I was stupid) and we built our home together (after he finally joined the working world) I was extremely offended.

That is why he is an ex. The hubby and I don't have a whole lot so if we did suddenly have money to squabble over then it came into being after the marriage and we'll deal with it then.

I can see if you have loads of money and property and the other person doesn't, protecting yourself. However, if you don't then it is pretty much an *kitten* move IMO.