Why do people think it's ok...

kellyg891

To constantly and I mean CONSTANTLY criticize and/or comment on my food choices at work?

Most of my co-workers know I'm trying to eat healthier and lose weight. The majority of them really could care less. But there is one guy who feels the need to constantly try to talk me in to "cheating just this once" or commenting on how awful or little or whatever my food/snacks are. I feel like I have to justify everything I'm eating. "Yes, I'm just having toast and water for breakfast." "No I'm not having a donut. Yes I know they're free but I'm still gonna pass."

Anybody else deal with this?

Calvinsgrl1

Some people feel bad about themselves if the people around them are making bette,r healthier choices then they are. Its a way to keep you on their level. Just ignore them and continue to make the choices that are right for you. tI has everything to do with them and nothing to do with you. Keep up the good work and stay strong

shygur

Strangely enough at my work, they are now sneaking in the donuts trying to hide them from me, it is hilarious!! Like I have no options. They think they are helping me and I guess they are in their own way. LOL!

tinabell153

Yeah. People try to make me cheat all the time. And if I bring a salad 2 days in a row people are confused and comment on it. Then when I don't want to go out for lunch with everyone they think I'm being ani-social. It's super annoying.

A similar problem an older man comments on my looks EVERY SINGLE DAY. He comments about my hair, my nails, my outfit. I know he's just making conversation but it's SUPER annoying.

rubyautumn4

Would you be comfortable telling this individual that while you appreciate their concern for your well being and interest in your eating habits, you'd rather not discuss it with them? Or something else that is polite but firm?

REDI4CHANGE60

When I worked outside the home I had people like that. He is evil ... make the sign of the cross and point it at him, and if he doesn't shrink and run away (hey, you can always hope), just tell him you appreciate his 'help' but weight loss is a very 'individual' path. Although he may not understand you not wanting to cheat just this once, or just a little, it's your way of doing it and it would be nice if he wouldn't offer you sweets, etc. that could derail you for the rest of your day. Say thanks and then turn around and go back to work. BTW, is he slim or overweight, because there could be more going on there, especially if he is overweight ... such as HE has no self control, so he is messing with yours. Don't let anyone derail your diet.

terry_brown

Hi Kelly - I have dealt with this and you dont need to justify yourself. When he asks "Are you just having toast and water?" respond ."Would you like some?" if he asks, "Arent you having a donut? They are free you know!." Respond, " No thanks...you can have 2nds". Maybe this will make him back off. Sometimes you just have to throw that ball back in their court without being rude. Someone else may deal with this differently but this is how i would respond. Hope this helps

sicilysclover

Kelly - you're not alone! I've noticed this is a popular topic on these boards. Thankfully I don't have that problem but it seems to be a real issue with a lot of people! It stinks because work is something you go to everyyyy day!

REDI4CHANGE60

Shygur - I would absolutely prefer that one to the original poster ... sounds like they are trying not to put the temptation right there in front of you.

HeinzPrincess

Strangely enough at my work, they are now sneaking in the donuts trying to hide them from me, it is hilarious!! Like I have no options. They think they are helping me and I guess they are in their own way. LOL!

Aww, they mean well!

julieapreston

Yes, I have that issue as well! I am also now noticing that because I am making healthy choices, they have to comment about how skinny I am and that I don't need to worry about it. Well, if I didn't make these choices then I wouldn't be as healthy as I am!! I guess you just need to stand your ground and keep telling "him" that donuts aren't good for you even if they are free. That is not part of your food plan. You are not on a diet, you are changing your lifestyle! Good for you and keep up the good work.

Midnight_Sunshine

My coworkers used to do that to me all the time.

One even asked me "When did you become such a fitness freak?"

I dunno, when did you decide it was okay to eat fast food for lunch every day?


Try to ignore it. In my experience they get used to it and will stop bothering to mention it all the time. Or they will shut up when they see the weight starting to come off, and realize that it's your good choices that are causing that change.

Lipstickandlashes

This is the main reason I do not tell anyone that I'm changing my life.. People tend to subconsciously sabotage what you are doing.. My mom does this.. It's almost like she tried to make me cheat when I would be on diets before... It will happen still to this day when people notice I'm not eating cupcakes or cookies or just having one serving.. I just tell them I already ate.. And when they say I look I I lost weight I say, "really"! Just ignore them the world wants you to be fat so they can feel better about themselves..

Sarahwillow

His deal is he is an *kitten* and he want's to try and control you. He must have a small peni$.
Stick to what you know is right and you don't have to tell him what and why you do anything. Ask him to play in some else's traffic, I had to do this at work last week and the person that was bugging me hasn't talked to me since.
But to each is own. You can't control what other people do, you can only control yourself! :flowerforyou:

_AllieCat_

ALL THE TIME. I have a very small desk area so I have to place my food on the corner of my desk. To top it off my desk is in a sort-of hallway so I get people walking by and commenting on how healthy and weird my food is all day long. I got so ticked off once that I told my co-worker jokingly that she comments on my food everyday and it made me want to hide it. Since then she has backed off.

wareagle8706

Tell him to go *kitten* himself. It's not his body the food is going in.

Shock_Wave

To constantly and I mean CONSTANTLY criticize and/or comment on my food choices at work?

Most of my co-workers know I'm trying to eat healthier and lose weight. The majority of them really could care less. But there is one guy who feels the need to constantly try to talk me in to "cheating just this once" or commenting on how awful or little or whatever my food/snacks are. I feel like I have to justify everything I'm eating. "Yes, I'm just having toast and water for breakfast." "No I'm not having a donut. Yes I know they're free but I'm still gonna pass."

Anybody else deal with this?

I think your title should have been written as Person and not "people" from only one guy. Maybe you should focus on the people who could care less instead of this one guy.. Why would you care what he thinks anyways? I think you just set your self up for this because you actually listen to this "one guy".. ohh I know its real rocket science here but how about you don't listen to this "one guy".. OP is trolling for sympathy you don't have to justify any thing to him duhh. This thread was ghey...:ohwell:

Eleisabelle

Ugh... my boss comments on EVERYTHING. From how often I and my other runner coworker eat, to how often a third coworker brushes her teeth, to how much water we drink. We just laugh it off, talk about how healthy we are, and roll our eyes when he leaves... Some people don't get it, and they're not going to.

Is there anyone else in your office trying to be healthy? Try to team up if you can.

Good luck...

Reinventing_Me

To constantly and I mean CONSTANTLY criticize and/or comment on my food choices at work?

Most of my co-workers know I'm trying to eat healthier and lose weight. The majority of them really could care less. But there is one guy who feels the need to constantly try to talk me in to "cheating just this once" or commenting on how awful or little or whatever my food/snacks are. I feel like I have to justify everything I'm eating. "Yes, I'm just having toast and water for breakfast." "No I'm not having a donut. Yes I know they're free but I'm still gonna pass."

Anybody else deal with this?

Why don't you just tell him to mind his business. Why do you feel like you even have to entertain him? He would have gotten his feelings hurt by now if it was me.

allisonmrn

Happens all the time to me. I usually am eating chicken breast and green veggies, and my coworkers feel the need to make comments about that. Especially the vegetables, like calling me a rabbit, or saying, "you eat like a rabbit.." And then if I have a soda or a piece of chocolate it is like a huge spectacle, "OMG, Allison is eating chocolate, look everyone..omg she is drinking a soda..." I mean gheeez, c'mon. Why do you care what I am eating??? LMBO

Shamrock9377

I have a friend who works with a bunch of idiots. They always assume that if the cookies or cake is gone, that she ate them because she's overweight. She just speaks up and tells them, "For your information, I didn't eat a single cookie. If you haven't noticed I dropped 70 pounds. What have YOU done?" One guy even had the audacity to say back, "Well you sure must have been fat!" So she replied, "Yes, I am and I can fix that, but you just can't fix STUPID, can you!?!?!"

Don't concentrate on what others say or think. Look in the mirror and see how far you've come. I look in the mirror and I love the person I see. It didn't always used to be that way. But if you concentrate on healing yourself from the inside out, mind and body, it all comes with time. Don't compare yourself to others. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Try to improve on that person. No one else matters!

jynxxxed

I've found something that works for me.

Explain that you've already pre-planned your lunch and are making these changes to avoid medical issues, not to be thin. People tend to let it go when it's medical related.

kidcole11

yesturday I had a friend tell me I couldnt' have a certain sandwich anymore because of the calories. I informed her that I could as long as I didn't get the fries or pop to go along with it and I would still be under my calories for the day. It can be obnoxious to get input but it can also be small talk for some people I guess. I'm sorry your co workers are treating you that way.

DaughterOfTheMostHighKing

It's hard... most of my friends actually admire my ability to say no and they see the transformation that my body has taken on. lol! one of the women actually seemed worried when she said, gee you're getting skinny. like I was a threat cause she's the skinniest one on staff. lol!!!! ignore it. be nice and smile... sometimes when you're okay with their remarks, they stop.

hamiltonba

Why don't you "play" along. "I already had a donut", I ate a donut on my way into work, no I'm not only eating toast - but don't elaobrate. As long as you are going to play into his "mean game", he will continue to bother you. Change your response and act like it doesn't bother you.

RainHoward

I can not count the number of times I have read similar threads on here. The same questions comes to mind every time. Who are you doing this for? Are you doing it for you or are you doing it for the approval of all those around you? Why does it matter so much what those around you have to say about how you chose to live your life?

Conversely I have noticed that many people find it necessary to comment on how others live and eat. I'm not entirely sure why this is. I think some are trying to help. They aren't, but they mean well. Others are so confused by the choices others make, it's so far out of their norm that they don't know how to react.

Society, at least in America, is taught from an early age to eat poorly. We are inundated with advertising everywhere we look. Fast food sponsors the Olympics for F's sake. You can't watch 5 minutes of television without seeing adds for crap food. So people buy into this mindset and when you show up for lunch with a salad they get confused. It doesn't fit with what they expect to see. So they react.

If you are happy with your choices, if you are doing this for you, if you know in your mind and heart that you are making the right choices for you, then it matters not what some asshat at work happens to say to you.

linz1125

I get comments all the time about what I'm eating...Also we have a lot of pitch-ins, so it gets really difficult. We had one today actually! It was taco day - we each broght something to make tacos. One co-worker brought in this really great homemade fresh tomato and bean salsa, so that was a great change! They are always trying to push food on me, but I stay strong!!! They're not the ones that will be with me in the hospital once I have a heart attack from eating all of the bad foods, so I don't care when I say no.

celebrity328

Stab him with a spork end of story

Im allergic to gluten and work in a facility that requires us to cook for patients. The other day a women ask me why I wasnt eating what they made and so I told her. That seemed to do the trick! It is hard sometimes being the only one who brings their lunch to work when everyone else goes to fast food etc. However I remember my reasons for losing weight and keep pluging along !

wells0707

I get teased at work because when they have the birthday celebrations I bring my own dessert and let them have the cake. That way I can control how many calories I am consuming. Makes me a little crazy, but I work out way to hard to waste it on a box cake..lol

NikkiSixGuns

This is so common. As other posters have said, I see it all the time on the forums.

I don't know why people do it, but it does get annoying. I don't really care what people think of my food choices, but I do get ticked off when people start shoving their lifestyle and opinions at me. The condescending tone is just RUDE and disrespectful.

Since those folks have declared that they don't respect me (through their nasty comments about what I eat or don't eat, how often I exercise, etc.), I see no reason to be respectful of them. If someone says, "You're not having a donut?" in that condescending tone, I look at them and say, "You ARE?". Truthfully, I couldn't give two you-know-what's about what they choose to eat or not eat, but when you turn the tables on people like that they tend to shut up real quick.

BeeElMarvin

Ask them if they'd like to take a big bite of yer *kitten*! That'll get em.