You or your spouse?

projectxreborn

Did you and your spouse start the journey to fitness together or did one start first? I have
more to lose than my spouse but it feels like I have to be the one to motivate both of us...

sdavis448

I started.. and I had way more to lose then him. I had about 170 pounds to lose (down about 70 so far) my fiance has about 20.. the only changes he's made so far is to cut down on soda.

my fiance wants to tone up after losing the weight though.. so even though the pounds will come off quick.. he'll still have to work it to tone.

Railr0aderTony

Wife and I started at the same time, I have much more to lose than her but we both are doing this and motivation is equal, on days I do not feel like walking she gets on the tredmill and then that makes me want to walk also, and vice versa. We started in Jan 2012 and we have lost over 128lbs together. Long way to go but this is forever not a diet.

bizorra

I try to motivate my spouse! He's mostly lost weight by proxy *lol* but he switched jobs to one that requires him to be one his feet more, and has started playing soccer 2-3 times a week, so maybe I should give him more credit

AmyFett

I'm at this alone. He's too lazy and unmotivated. I give up trying to help him if he doesn't want to help himself!

tequila09

my bf has always been more fitness oriented than me and he has gotten super into it this year losing a bunch of fat and working his way to a six pack. definitely motivation for me to get my *kitten* into gear and get the fat off me! he is always working out so we go on runs or we do ab ripper x at home and then he goes on a run on his own lol. it just sucks that guys can eat a bunch more calories and still lose!

Jennvandemark

My husband and I didn't really start wanting to lose weight together but its kind of worked out that way. He doesn't need to lose weight but goes to the gym with me most days (when hes not busy at work) I think it started with helping me and now he does it because it makes him feel better. I don't like having a work out partner because I find I don't work as hard when someone is with me. So when we are done with cardio we kind of go our separate ways. I like that he sees how hard I am working and I love that he is proud enough to tell others how well I am doing. By the way he still hates all the healthy dinners (they never taste as good as they sound) but he still eats it and doesn't complain to much.

AESprouse

Well, my husband is only 15lb overweight and he isn't really worried about it. He's 5'10 and weighs 200lb. His only concern is that he'd like to tone up his "soda belly" which honestly makes him look pregnant lol.

Merc71

I started first, since I needed the most help. Now that I've had considerable success, my wife jumped in and started doing it.

SWilkins75

I started the beginning of June. My husband is 6'4 and 230lbs. He said he'd like to be 190 but he has taken NO effort in trying, So he has supported me by buying me new running shoes, pedometer, pays for my appetite suppressant, bought me a HRM...It would be nice if he actually joined with me. As of now I am making 4 different kinds of dinners.
9 month eats baby food mixed with cereal and a bottle
3 yr old likes chicken nuggets, pizza, mac n cheese, apples,fries
Husband wants high carb sides like mashed potatoes, mac n cheese, pizza, noodles, rice, hamburger helper, spaghetti.
It's really hard.

Noonoo757

My spouse has the body of a athlete unfortunatley I do not and never have lol. He motivates me though and gives me tips. He is always working out because he is Army Special Forces so he has to stay in shape hes almost obssessed with staying in shape clearly that has not been the case with me :bigsmile:

Tank_Girl

My better half doesnt need to lose weight lucky sod, but he is bored waiting around for me to do my swimming and kickboxing lessons so im going to sign him up for dance lessons (he loves dancing, I hate dancing) hes quite enthusiastic about it (no hes not gay lol)

Jen_ht

I found that it was only when my OH started doing this as well that it really started working for me - he's a chef so I'd be good all week then whenever he was home we'd totally splurge out and I'd ruin it. Now we're good even when he is home all weekend, we cut out wine drinking and full blown three course dinners! It definitely helped me having him on board as I have awful willpower by myself

astina2727

my spouse isn't motivated at all and its really sad and super hard!!!

iieee

My husband has made no effort whatsoever to lose weight, he drinks beer and eats snacks every night, he doesn't exercise. However he has somehow lost 14lbs while I've been losing so I can only guess it's because he eats what I cook!? Lucky *kitten*.

TheDreadPirateRoberts

I suggested this site to my fiancee who wanted to lose weight and I joined it a week later to support her. I'm still here, but mostly just to be a sarcastic SOB

swest222

I joined here last year and I did it by myself ... first time I ever tried something like this.
I was cooking for my family all meals to ensure I ate properly, but he wasnt on board so it was very discouraging to me.

This year I made us get physicals and we were both told we should lose some weight by the doctor even though right NOW we were healthy, we might not always be so lucky ..

So now he's been completely on board with me 100% and it's been sooooo much more motivating!!! We're about 60 days in now and completely committed to both eating right and exercising...

Not that I need someone to validate me, but it's easier when you're eating a salad and chicken, not to watch someone else eating pizza and chips!

jen_bd6

I have started and will finish this personal journey... probably on my own.... He's not motivated to change his weight, but he has to come to that on his own too. When that time comes, I will be here to help, because this is a LONG TERM thing for me. We will see if he wakes up or not.... who knows... But I will say that he has already lost weight because I do the cooking and grocery shopping... he eats what I make/buy and it sure as hell isn't crap anymore...

LadyIvysMom

I'm the only one who needs to lose weight in my house. Well, me and a couple of our pets. My husband is in great shape and is one of those humans who can eat anything he wants and not gain weight. Lucky him.

Jimmytreatingtons

We both Started ours together and in fairness The Missus has struggled. There has been some medical and personal issues over the journey that has effected us both. I have kept up with it, but the Missus has struggled, medical issues stopping her and the rest sheer lack of motivation.

I've started back again and the Missus is just getting back in to it. I have tried everything with her to get her going....on the fitness front, and tactfully too (even for a bloke) Doesn't help when people say 'Look at you, you look so different!' I cringe inside and wish they wouldn't say anything as I know it is a kick in the teeth for her, I tried loads of things to help the other half but most of it gets through back in face.

'You're obsessed with the gym' 'You've got OCD with that gym' 'You think more of the gym than me' Blah blah blah, water off a ducks back now. (Good job I am the laid back kind!) Thankfully it might be 3 days for the wife in the gym this week Zumba & Gym workout which I am made up with.

Don't think I meant for this post to end up like this but it has...........guess it's kinda good to be off my chest......anyone with any thoughts give me a yell!

reasnableblonde

My husband doesn't have weight issues in the same way I do. Diabetes and other weight-related issues are rampant in my family (which I am trying to avoid), so when my body fat was just too high and I was tired of not looking toned and slim, I started losing weight and exercising regularly. My husband, on the other hand, was super skinny and got tired of looking "geeky" (he's very tall), so he started working to gain muscle as well. I was the only one who had fat to lose.

We work out at separate gyms because of our jobs, but we do walk the dog together (very brisk), and occasionally I ask him to run with me. He loves the healthier meals I'm preparing, so it's working out well. It's a lifestyle change for both of us.

FrustratedYoYoer

I started a lifestyle change 3 yrs ago and to be honest although verbally my partner was supportive, he would really drag me down at home still insisting on eating take aways in front of me and filling the cupboards with sweets and choc! However, in Jan this yr he gave up smoking, starting eating junk morning noon and night and his weight has rocketed! So for the past month or so he has joined me in trying to eat sensibly and exercising. I've just bought a bike so we can go out together. Fair enough, he still eats some junk but he's improved 10 fold and feels better for it. It has also made it so much easier for me to keep going. Long may it continue

megalin9

All me. By myself. Although my husband is supportive of my effort, he couldn't care less about himself.

iluvprettyshoes

My hubs refuses to get on here bc the avi for MFP is a pic of a dancer

jkcrawford

I started this journey alone. But my husband eats what I cook and *DOESN'T COMPLAIN* or he will starve.:bigsmile: He has lost weight. Now he needs to get into some type of exercise. He is not very motivated, yet he is the one on all the medication for cholesterol and stuff. While I take no medication for anything.

talmudicshrug

My wife lost weight a couple of years ago. It's hard being the one left behind. I don't know if it's always the case, but usually there are self-esteem issues involved and no man wants to be in a contest with his wife. I know you wouldn't see it that way but most guys do. You have to let them make the decision themselves when they're ready and try not to make judgements about them being "lazy."

ridge1980

My husband and I have been doing this together, although I can't see him ever using a social website like this.

Mainly we just have different weaknesses and it works well if we can push each other to overcome them. Wine was the hardest thing for me to give up, but (not counting last week- it was my birthday) we are only drinking a couple of glasses a wine a week. His weakness was not really ever getting into exercising, which has never been my problem so I motivate him and he motivates me. Its been a slow process but we are both moving down the scale.

AliciaStaton

I am on this journey on my own, my hubby is quite fit and does'nt need to lose weight, he very supportive of me, so I can not complain, he eats what I eat since I do all of the cooking, but if he wants a treat he will have it and that doesnt bother me because I know he is healthy and looks after himself:bigsmile: .

Iansmommy123011

I started first then my husband. He would be done before me but his job gets in the way so he doesn't have time to go on the site that much. Doesn't have time to eat healthy or to workout. The only work out he will get is PT in the morning. But once he comes back from Fort Sill he will start again on this site and be on his journey.

IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym

I started first, since I decided I wanted to compete, then he worked out with me for a bit until he got hurt, then he did the dieting (for the most part for the first competition) with me and has been very supportive the entire time.

kandienicole

My husband is in the US Air Force, so he was already working out 3-5 days a week...the fact that he was so fit made me want to be fit as well (along with our wedding pictures that made me want to cry because I looked so chubby!). I have started us both on clean eating, protein, and weights...and we are both seeing results we are proud of! Working together towards a common goal has made us even closer and that's awesome!