Thin is the new sin?!

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  • SPNLuver83
    SPNLuver83 Posts: 2,050 Member
    How the hell did you get down to 122? lol I'm 5'6 and can't see 130 for the life of me. But then again I do have quite a bit of muscle tone goin on.

    Maybe they just aren't used to the thinner you? Give it time. They'll adjust.
  • laurasimmons
    laurasimmons Posts: 575 Member
    Most likely its jealousy!
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    If people are used to seeing you a bit heavier, it can be a shock to see you so thin. You are at the low end of the BMI scale, but you look healthy in your photos, so I would just ignore it.

    If you must respond, tell her you are at a healthy BMI and that's all she needs to know.
  • alarae
    alarae Posts: 263 Member
    I still have much weight to lose but I had a "friend" say to me," you look good. Want to go to lunch? Or don't you eat anymore? ".
  • 970Mikaela1
    970Mikaela1 Posts: 2,013 Member
    I get the opportunity quite often to tell people I dont really care what they think!! I ve lost about 60 or so total pounds and am within 2 pounds of my goal so they can all kiss my *kitten*!!!!
  • jenneal89
    jenneal89 Posts: 243
    How the hell did you get down to 122? lol I'm 5'6 and can't see 130 for the life of me. But then again I do have quite a bit of muscle tone goin on.

    Maybe they just aren't used to the thinner you? Give it time. They'll adjust.

    I eat healthy food (the last few days on my diary are not normal! Lol I have a weakness for Oreos with pb) and exercise 6-7 days per week. I did jilian michael's 30 day shred and am now on day 50 of p90x. Before I had my daughter I never exercised, ate really badly and loads, and was always 130-145lbs. It's my body type and metabolism I guess. You have way more muscle as me as well. I do have some but I'm not ripped yet. I have a six pack but you can only see the top since I have some belly fat. You look amazing! I walsh I looked like you and that's what I'm working toward. I'm sure if we took our measurements they'd be quite similar
  • jenneal89
    jenneal89 Posts: 243
    I still have much weight to lose but I had a "friend" say to me," you look good. Want to go to lunch? Or don't you eat anymore? ".

    That's really rude of them! Sorry
  • SeaChele77
    SeaChele77 Posts: 1,103 Member
    Sorry....but why is everyone harping on jealousy? Why can friends and family be truly concerned?

    122lbs at 5'6" is at the low end of the healthy weigh range. So being that you were 183lbs, maybe they are just not used to you being as thin as you are. Are you anorexic - no, are you *too* skinny - no ....but they were used to seeing more of you and they need time to adjust as well.
    Also, note that we have to let our eyes and brains adjust when losing. We often see ourselves as the bigger us and will continue to try and lose. Friends and family who know you've been losing are just trying to let you know that you don't need to lose anymore or just be mindful of how much you eat/exercise. Why is that such a bad thing??

    Yes, there are people out there who will say it from a jealous bone. But really - why let it get to you? Take it as a compliment that your hard work is showing and go on with your day!!
  • MissMormie
    MissMormie Posts: 359 Member
    Now look at it from the other way for a second.

    Are you jaleous when someone else loses weight?
    Would you make mean comments to that person?

    I'm sure everyone will answer no (at least to the second question). So why do you think other people say stuff like that to be mean?

    Try to assume the best about people, you'll feel better and you'll probably be right.
  • jenneal89
    jenneal89 Posts: 243
    Sorry....but why is everyone harping on jealousy? Why can friends and family be truly concerned?

    122lbs at 5'6" is at the low end of the healthy weigh range. So being that you were 183lbs, maybe they are just not used to you being as thin as you are. Are you anorexic - no, are you *too* skinny - no ....but they were used to seeing more of you and they need time to adjust as well.
    Also, note that we have to let our eyes and brains adjust when losing. We often see ourselves as the bigger us and will continue to try and lose. Friends and family who know you've been losing are just trying to let you know that you don't need to lose anymore or just be mindful of how much you eat/exercise. Why is that such a bad thing??

    Yes, there are people out there who will say it from a jealous bone. But really - why let it get to you? Take it as a compliment that your hard work is showing and go on with your day!!

    That is a valid point but I've only known her for a year and during that time I've slowly lost 10lbs. I've lost an inch from my thighs and 3 inches from my stomach in the last month (I suck it in so no one would notice I've lost from my stomach lol). Plus I was pregnant before when I was 205 lbs :) That's why I don't understand because she didn't say anything to me until now
  • SmexAppeal
    SmexAppeal Posts: 858 Member
    As long as you are exercising and eating healthy... I wouldn't give too much thought to the nay-sayers. If you were thin because you were starving yourself, that would be a different story. I say, no matter what weight you are, you will be critized by someone. So F em all :) And be happy with yourself.

    You look fabuloso by the way !
  • jenneal89
    jenneal89 Posts: 243
    As long as you are exercising and eating healthy... I wouldn't give too much thought to the nay-sayers. If you were thin because you were starving yourself, that would be a different story. I say, no matter what weight you are, you will be critized by someone. So F em all :) And be happy with yourself.

    You look fabuloso by the way !

    Thank you :)
  • piexcore
    piexcore Posts: 85 Member
    This forever.

    Funny story: I get really bad headaches if I eat to much sugar, white carbs ect. At my ex-boyfriends grad party, they were slicing the cake and his dad wouldn't give me a piece because I'd already eaten pasta, and the cake would make me sick. I was kind of annoyed/ kind of touched until I realized that HE was eating MY piece. The 300 pound sedentary diabetic. LOL. Those self righteous fat people.

    I'd probably be shot if I commented on other peoples eating habits.
  • JossFit
    JossFit Posts: 588 Member
    Also, note that we have to let our eyes and brains adjust when losing. We often see ourselves as the bigger us and will continue to try and lose.

    This is also a very good point, and something worth remembering. I often will pick up an article of clothing and think, "Man, that's tiny... no way that is going to fit me" and it ends up being too large once I try it on. I realize I am pretty petite now, but I don't see it as clearly as other people do most of the time. When people see me that I haven't had contact with in a while sometimes they don't even recognize me (which I find bizarre because at my VERY heaviest I was 180 and am now 115 and don't think it changed me all that much)

    Regardless, people do need to learn that whatever the case, be it that someone is overweight or underweight, comments just aren't appropriate. There is a difference between someone sitting you down and having a heart-to-heart with you because they are genuinely concerned for your well-being and someone just making off-hand comments about your body.
  • SeaChele77
    SeaChele77 Posts: 1,103 Member
    Sorry....but why is everyone harping on jealousy? Why can friends and family be truly concerned?

    122lbs at 5'6" is at the low end of the healthy weigh range. So being that you were 183lbs, maybe they are just not used to you being as thin as you are. Are you anorexic - no, are you *too* skinny - no ....but they were used to seeing more of you and they need time to adjust as well.
    Also, note that we have to let our eyes and brains adjust when losing. We often see ourselves as the bigger us and will continue to try and lose. Friends and family who know you've been losing are just trying to let you know that you don't need to lose anymore or just be mindful of how much you eat/exercise. Why is that such a bad thing??

    Yes, there are people out there who will say it from a jealous bone. But really - why let it get to you? Take it as a compliment that your hard work is showing and go on with your day!!

    That is a valid point but I've only known her for a year and during that time I've slowly lost 10lbs. I've lost an inch from my thighs and 3 inches from my stomach in the last month (I suck it in so no one would notice I've lost from my stomach lol). Plus I was pregnant before when I was 205 lbs :) That's why I don't understand because she didn't say anything to me until now

    Maybe it happened to be what you were wearing that day.
    I've lost about 16lbs - not much, but recently have started to lose inches. One day i wore a sleeveless shirt that was somewhat low cut. My collar bones are more prominent lately and that day I guess my ribs were showing. I was told multiple times that day that I need to stop losing weight. I didn't take offense - I'm glad they noticed my hard work and glad they cared enough to say something. As I said, sometimes our brain/eyes do not always adjust right away and having someone look out for us is not always a bad thing.
    Again, I don't think what she said was rude. While you may have lost 10lbs, you may have lost inches and whatever you wore may have made you look even thinner. Don't get upset about it. Just let her know you know your limits and all is well, but thanks for your concern.

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